lately i dont know what it is i just constantly am worrying my girlfriend is up to something... she wont answer her phone( then i find out shes working over time or her phones dead) or if shes really home (shes taking a nap sometimes and i overreact) or like today she has this really sexy lingerie and i enver knew she bought it like she was hiding it from i kept asking to see it shes like what does it matter and it still has the tag but i automatically assumed she was cheating on me i don't know why and even she says im becoming psycho and i know its starting to push her away from me what should i do i know shes not doing anything but i cant help to think that she is she says its pulling her away from me she thinks its so bad and unhealthy and i dont want that i love her i dont want to lose her cuz im being stupid what should i do?
2007-12-09 09:56:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive caught her in some pretty bad lies like she chilled with some dude she use to have sex with and then one time she was with her boss hes 45 shes 18 but my friend lost his gf she was 18 he was 37 and its like i dont know if im over reacting i do have a point she said she was home and her boss was at her house but supposivley he went to piss like i have reasons i guess i shoulda added that
2007-12-09 10:09:14 · update #1
It sounds to me that someone in your past either 1) betrayed you, 2) cheated on you, or 3) abandoned you with no explaination or warning. Either a parents, girlfriend, guy friend or sibling - doesn't matter who - its the pain that is evident in you.
Because of this, you are overreacting with you own fears. Honestly, I've been there and I had to overcome it myself. I feared so much that I would be betrayed, that I actually MADE it happen with my pushy, suspicious actions.
It wasn't fun, I assure you. But its destined to happen in ALL of your relationships until you learn to cope and overcome your insecurities. Not saying its easy, because it definitely isn't - but do you want to live with this fear for the rest of your life?
I don't think anyone would want to. I didn't, so I chose to grow beyond it and change myself.
You can do this by discussing your thoughts and emotions with a good friend of yours, by journaling in your spare time or getting involved in a counseling setting to help you through. Either way, there are unresolved issues lying beneath the surface in you and they don't just disappear by themselves or fix themselves overnight.
Be patient with yourself and seek to use this as a stepping stone to growth.
I wish you all the luck!
2007-12-09 10:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets paranoid sometimes in a relationship, some too much. This will only lead you to think up stuff that isnt even true! Just talk things through with her and make sure she is definately not cheating or anything and then you can build your trust for her even higher and you will then worry less :)
2007-12-09 10:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not psycho, just an out and out untrustful dude. You once trusted her in the first portion of the relationship but now you worry or upset at the loss of confidence. What are you going to do when you get dumped? Straighten out now or practice later with another.
2007-12-09 10:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You are not meeting her need for trust and you are going to lose this girl if you carry on with your insecurities. Get some councelling if you think it will help but don't be burdening this girl with your hang ups. It isn't fair.
2007-12-09 10:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull your insecure *** together...your gonna lose her if you haven't already, that little spoof you just wrote got my blood pressure in a frieken spiral spin...your not going psycho...Your smothering her....Chill out and get grip...Good Luck and Happy Holidays... :)
2007-12-09 10:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by Trix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you are correct! she's just making you feel like your the problem. becuase she doesnt have the balls to tell you the truth about someone else.
2007-12-09 10:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
work on your abandonment issues -- it seems you have some.
do a Yahoo search on COPING WITH ABANDONMENT ISSUES...
your behavior is irrational, and you could consider getting a handle on it before it messes up your relationship.
2007-12-09 09:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you actually hear form him some time soon, then i'm afraid it sounds like he was just in it for the sex. sorry, kid.
2016-05-22 09:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her, there are other fish in the sea, you deserve to be treated better
2007-12-09 09:59:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop being so paranoid otherwise you will drive her away!
2007-12-09 10:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋