I have been dating somebody for almost 2 years now and he can never seem to find the time to call me...on weekends he disappears and if i try calling him i get his voicemail. He doesn't care about how upset this makes me. I know that he really truly does love me, but i've had enough. I really do love him and I know he has it in him to treat me better, but nothing is working. I don't know what to do to get through to him anymore. What should I do? Stay with him and try and make him realize that he hurts me, or leave him? it's so hard on me...
2007-12-09 09:51:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes men need to lose something to know what a great thing they had. If you have done everything you can to get him to pay attention to you and have made it clear how you feel, then it's time to let him go. If he truly does love you, he'll realize what he's lost and he'll fight to get it back. If he doesn't then I don't think he loves you as much as you believe he does. Don't just leave, but tell him why, be honest and specific and don't give him the chance to squirm and tell you he will change. Let him go because you have already given him the chance to change by telling him how you feel and watching him ignore you. It's so much harder to love and appreciate with out getting the same in return than it is to give yourself a chance to find something better. You'll know how he really felt about you when you cut the cord honey! Let him go. Good Luck!
2007-12-09 10:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't going to change I'm afraid. You have to accept this. You need to decide what is best for you now.
I know you don't want to throw away the two years you've already invested, but how many more years will you throw away? I was in a relationship for 12 years before it finally became to much. Oh how I wish I could get those years back.
I will always love my ex, but I moved on and found the happiness I deserved. Please do the same.
2007-12-09 17:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take some time to talk to him about this. Guys can't read minds and sometimes you need to talk to them so they know how you're feeling. If the fact that he doesn't call you enough or spend enough time with you makes you upset, let him know. It's the only way things are going to get better. If things don't improve after you speaking to him, then you may want to consider breaking up.
2007-12-09 17:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by thinkpink020 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. What kind of guy doesn't want to spend time with his girlfriend on the weekends? Worse, you're going to voicemail? He might be cheating. It's not worth it. A guy who really loves you can't wait to hang out with you. That's how my boyfriend was, and now we're married.
2007-12-09 17:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by Librawriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it is hard. You want something from him that he is unwilling to give you. I assume you have talked to him about what you need out of this relationship. Unfortunately, he isn't giving it to you. You can stay and be miserable or you can leave him so that you can be available for a relationship in which you get your needs met. How much time of your life do you want to waste waiting for him to change?
2007-12-09 17:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the kind of relationship you will have if you stay with him, you already have 2 yrs experience. Take a break, if he really does love you as much as you think, he will come around and treasure you.
2007-12-09 17:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With true love, no not what most the known world knows as love, TRUE love, for both sides, it's always enough = ]
2007-12-09 17:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ugly Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately quite often.
2007-12-09 17:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by ickypig65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mostly often, well, if he never cares about you, dump him and move on.
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-09 17:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋