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I hate my job.
I hate the work, the people - everything.
I am sick of crying in the toilets and being stressed and angry all the time.

I want to leave but the thing is that I don't know what I want to do.

Has anyone been through this before? Any adivce? What did you do?

Should I leave and get a crappy job until I find out what it is I want to do?

I don't think I can do this for much longer :(

Every other aspect of my life is fine, but I'm worried how my dad will react if I quit.
He will have a go at me because he is so serious about everything and will think I'm leaving a good job for nothing.

I'm a legal secreaty btw.
I don't enjoy it and would love to do sonthing else!

Answer 1

Oh my gosh! Have I ever been through this!!! More times than I should be able to count! The way I have dealt with it is to come up with coping strategies that will help me deal with the situtation. Sometimes those strategies have included going for a long walk during work hours or going to work out on my lunch hour or simply coming up with a plan as to how I will eventually break out! What you are going through is very, very common. Sometimes when I was going through what you are going through friends would tell me why don't you just quit. But, they don't understand what it does to your resume and the truth is, at least in my experience there are not a lot of TRULY AWESOME employers out there...sad but true and if you don't play along to get along you end up with the short end of the stick. Yes, you can always quit but even that has its repurcussions.

Answer 2

at the moment i am thinking that you are lucky! i have been out of work for almost 3 months now, and its driving me nuts!i have no money to call my own, and i am living in a new area, so i dontknow a soul, and my husband works nights, so i am basically on my own all day and night, therefore i am thinking that at least you DO have a job, even though you may hate it at the moment. i do know however, how it feels to be doing a job that you hate, and it makes it a bit worse when you dont get on with other people that you work with. no job is worth getting yourself all upset about, but try and hang on in there until something else comes up. even if its not what you want excatly, it still may be better than where you are now. you could also think about going to college in the evenings and doing something there, and once you have done that, and if you enjoy it, you could also look for a job in what ever course you have done. in the meantime, try and keep your mind occupied with something else( e.g college) and then if you have a goal to aim for, it willgive you some ideas for the future, and take your mind off your present job for a while. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 3

Ah yes, I had the same problem you did. I couldn't stand my job, I couldn't stand my boss and most of the people there, and I was so stressed out that it was just really really badly.

If you're that stressed out then yes, it is time to think of other options. I don't know what situation you are in other then that, but if you're able to then find a job that you can use to support yourself, whether it's 'crappy' in your sense of the word or not. Otherwise you're just going to get more and more unhappy.

Fortunately for me, my job is seasonal. This summer I'm opening up my own little hot dog stand instead of going back. I'll be spending all summer on the beach, if the town allows me to, so the only thing I'm worrying about is how to cook hamburgers, hot dogs, fries, and chicken fingers. :) Good luck!

Answer 4

Read the book "Who moved my cheese?" It is a short book, and a very fast read. But well worth it if you are feeling the way you do.

And do find a new job. I was through that - just putting in the motions. If it hadn't been for a friend that I had at work to help pass the time, I would have flipped. She kept me sane. If you can find a good friend at work, that could help keep you sane, too, while you look for something better to do.

Just don't do let it get to the point that you can't even contemplate leaving any more... then you will have lost.

Answer 5

I believe that when we come to a point where we can bear something no longer---we have a choice---we can remain in our pain or we can grow through deciding to make some changes.

There are adult education programs across the country, and if
you can contact a place like that and ask to speak to a counselor, they can help you to decide what you'd do best at,
where your interests lie, and if there is any kind of grant money available to help pay for education if you require it.

When I was 30 years old, and raising three children with a
husband who was rarely home---I wanted something to change, and knew the only one I could make change was myself---so I looked into the new nursing program at our
local college. Oh, there were challenges along the way.
I did get scholarships that helped to pay for my education,
but I also had to do work study to help pay.........
However, in four years I graduated with honors, took my
boards and became an RN.
And believe me, if I could do that, then you can find your
path in life, too, to do something that makes you feel good
about yourself and what you are doing in life!
We aren't all meant to be nurses, of course....there are so
many things in life to choose from.....and I really hope you
will do all you can to find your niche!
Just find someone to help you find your path.....and go for it,
a little at a time if necessary.....but you will know you are on
your way!
Wishing you all the best,
Doris

Answer 6

You definately shouldn't be working in an evironment that you do not enjoy.
So to start, ask yourself, what do you enjoy? What in your life makes you happy? Do you like to travel? Or maybe you enjoy working with children? Whatever it is, the answer to that question should provide you a small idea of what you want to look for in a job.
In a workplace, wherever you work, you should be happy and you should enjoy what you're doing.
Like stated in the previous post, start applying for jobs that fit with your interests, as well as with your personal attributes. For example, if a particular job fits your interests but requires long hours, thus, alot of energy, and you may not be able to deliver the amount of energy they seem to be asking for, then try to keep searching.
It may be smart to keep with your current job until you know you have another alternative.
When you finally have that job youve always wanted, all your hard work will be worth it. Keep in there!

Answer 7

Make a list of all the things you enjoy and make a plan to find work in that area. If you are having trouble, look at a picture of yourself as a little girl, and try to imagine telling that little girl what you do now. What is something that would make her excited and proud of her future? Your plan might include going back to school or moving, but that's better than crying in the toilet every day. I've been there, and I'm MUCH happier now, but it didn't change over night. Take control of your destiny, it will empower you!

Answer 8

Do not quit your job. The best time to look for a job is when you are employed. Also, it doesn't look good on a resume` when you quit, nor will you you get a positive reference from that former employer. Search for questionaires aimed at finding your happiness at work. You can find books on the subject at your local library or search the web. Looking for a career/job is work. Think of it as a second job and throw your whole soul into the search. Good luck!

Answer 9

I've been exactly were you are. Get some exercise, it'll perk you up. then dust off your resume and start looking for another job RIGHT NOW! I had a job once that I knew I wouldn't be able to stand on the second day there. I spent all my free time for the next six months looking for another one, and it turned out to be the job of my dreams. But if you just sit on your behind, nothing will ever change. Turn off the TV and get moving!

Answer 10

Yes, leave. I've been through that, and "couldn't" leave because the money was good...but really, when you look at spending endless, miserable days no amount of money can make you feel better.

Get another job. Set your mind to it being a transitional phase, and use your spare time and positive energy to find out what is that you really want to do. Trust me, living a little more frugally is not a steep price to pay for a little more peace of mind.