I just found out that I have postpartum depression the other day and I have been getting counselling and am being put on medication for it.I have had it for almost a year now but only just found out what it is. I went and told my mum about it and she turned around and said "now you know what I went through" and said hers was alot worse. I thought that she shouldn't have brought that up since it was like 30 years ago that she had it and I wasn't even born yet. Anyway, I got over that then the next day she came over to my house and sat there and started crying. I asked her what was wrong and she said she didn't know and that she was depressed and sick. I got angry at her because I felt that she knew what I was going through but decided to make it all about herself anyway.She went home pissed off at me so I went over there and she turned the whole thing around onto me and made me feel even worse. She is now acting like she is the victim and I am just a *****. What am I going to do?
2007-12-09 09:35:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The reason she was upset in the first place was because she was sick of baby sitting my sisters baby and she came around to me to winge about it. I know that because she told my husband on the way home in the car. She is still acting like she doesn't know what's wrong with her though. I told my sister and she told her that if she didn't wanna do it that she should just tell her. Of course Mum cracked at me and said I shouldn't have brought my sister into it and that I have upset her. I find that so unfair because she brought me into it and completely upset me and it didn't even have anything to do with me. I hate her so much right now and I am sick of her thinking only of herself. Oh, did I mention I am 4 months pregnant as well and she still treats me like crap.
2007-12-09 09:41:30 · update #1
I don't have any friends and I don't have a job so I don't have anyone else to go to.
2007-12-09 09:48:52 · update #2
Some people are so self-consumed they do not know how to listen or comfort someone else (even their own daughter, its sad). When you feel stronger, try to be there for her. While you need the support now to get through your own issue, find comfort in close friends or even someone at work who you hardly know..someone unbiased. It would be great to have a supportive mother, but not everyone is that fortunate. It does not make it right, yet sometimes it is it what it is and you have to accept that. Best wishes.
2007-12-09 09:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by feather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel. My mother behaves the same way. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to change her behavior...if you bring up how she acts inappropriately, suddenly you're "attacking" her...if you say nothing, than you continue to suffer. In the future, don't talk to her about any of your problems, but still listen to her...just because she isn't a good mother, doesn't mean you can't be a good daughter.
2007-12-09 13:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree~she's making it about her now and obviously she isn't going to be supportive of you during this time.
Ideas that come to my mind:
1. Acknowledging her past misery is nice. (Which you have done.) 2. Suggest that she get into counseling herself. (Maybe she won't dump on you.) 3. Ask her to leave you alone, since she isn't being supportive. 4. Try to ignore her crap.
Take care.
2007-12-09 09:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Thenne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont now what to say hun but pass on my thoughts my mother is a selfish ***** my grandmother in law passed yesterday and she aint even phoned us.... i too have a depression disorder and im bi polar and have bulimia so i kinda now thata side hun xxxxx ya cant pick ya family but you can pick your friends ...
the only time me mums nice is whens shes pissed...
hugs hun all the best and try not to let it get you down xxxxx
2007-12-09 09:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by belovedbubs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋