My mum and dad are both very strict Roman Catholics, therefore are very keen on me going to church (as in, we go every week, feast day, after sleepovers, even abroad). I am fifteen and have developed my own opinions and wish they would allow me to go my own way. How can I convince them?
2007-12-09 09:20:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well talk to them staunch or not if they love you they will respect your feelings on it.
You can tell them yeah Mom and Dad you can force me to go until I am 18 or 16 depending on where you live and then I am just going to never go again when I move out on my own. Why push me and make me hate it rather than let me go and experience life and maybe I will fly back?
I wish you luck but they have to accept if this is how you feel they can not force you to follow something you do not believe no matter how badly they want to you will have your way in the end by 18. Then you go your own path.
2007-12-09 09:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Legend Gates Shotokan Karate 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Convincing your parents could be very difficult if not impossible.They can't stop you from believing what you choose, but they may never agree with it. Go with the flow and when your out on your own then you can do your won thing. Going to church with them doesn't mean you have to believe what they do, sometimes it's just keeping the peace. I was raised very strict southern baptist and like you if the church was open I was forced to go.That never stopped me from having my own beliefs and after I left home I went with what I thought was best for me. You could try telling your parents, very gently and without anger that forcing you to go to church is very likely to backfire badly on them. When someone is forced to do something they usually end up hating it, letting you make the choice could very well turn out in their favor and if it doesn't let them know that they raised you right and gave you all the right morals. Not much help I'm afraid, but when you start breaking away from your parents and their set of beliefs it's often very painful and difficult for them. Have patience with them and know that they love you even if they go about showing you in the wrong way.
2007-12-09 09:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by ghostwolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are just trying to raise you the best way they know how. Like a lot of Christian parents they probably like the verse- Proverbs 22:6- "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."
While you living with your parents you should respect thier wishes. You will be on your own before you know it, and can worship anywhere you chose ( or not worship)
Best wishes to you.
2007-12-09 10:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by ChildofGod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you can believe whatever you want, no one can force you to believe or not believe in something.
Second you can talk to your parents, but at the end of the day they can make you go to church. As long as you are a minor and they put a roof over your head they have a big say in your life.
2007-12-09 09:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Gamla Joe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. One day, though, I spoke to them truthfully and honestly about my beliefs. I was lucky enough that they were able to open their minds enough to see things my way. However, you may not be as lucky. My advice would be to be honest, and explain to them, in an honest, open fashion. More important, learn about other religions, philosophies, and ideologies. Give yourself at least six months before making this decision, to see if this is what you want.
If your parents truly love you, they will let you believe in whatever you wish to, or not to, believe.
2007-12-09 10:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regarding the rules and rituals, you have to do as your parents tell you. You probably won't change their beliefs, but they probably won't change yours either. Keep learning and studying about different religions, and then make your own choice when you are older.
2007-12-09 09:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by yutsnark 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how far are you willing to go? You can just outright refuse to go to Church, but you will more than likely get grounded everytime. Have you actually discussed this with them? If you can defend your beliefs really well it might make it easier.
2007-12-09 09:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Lynus 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my parents are like that too. There's no way I tried everything. Just go with it til you're 18.
2007-12-09 09:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Laughing all the way 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my idea is give your self more time with your parents to understsnd them and ask every thing what ever you have in your mind that pushes you to change the relegion.thanks.
2007-12-09 09:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by your,s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what the Jamaicans did when the Catholics 'civilized' them. Outwardly they pretended to be Catholics, but inwardly they continued practicing VooDoo. They even used pictures of Catholic saints to represent their Voodoo spiritgods.
2007-12-09 09:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋