Not a priority...?

Question

Ive been with my boyfriend for the last 3n months. We have yet to hang out outside of school. So basically im just at school girlfriend.

Repeatedly I have asked him to do other things outside of school but he always turns me down. Yet when his friends/ the guys ask him he says no which turns into a yes.

I have voiced my feelings about this and he said he wouldnt do that nemore. Now today he is going with his friends to an ice skating rink down the street from my house. I told him previously that I wanted to go Ice skating with him and we still havent gone.

It really hurts that he puts his friends before me when at home. At school its a completly different story.

Now I want to know what I should do now?
What would you do?
Mind you that we are both seniors. He is 17 going on 18 and im 16.
I dont mistreat him so he shouldnt mistreat me either.

Answer 1

You're a Friend only he will move on an so will you you have to decide who goes first.Move to a different circle see if he follows??

Answer 2

It's not a question of mistreating one another but rather him neglecting and ignoring you. In order to mistreat someone, you would have had to spend a sufficient amount of time together to be able to say that you're treating each other like anything at all. What you two have going on hasn't had time, or even the effort, to reach the level where there has been any kind of real interaction between you two whatsoever. You certainly do have the desire and are willing to put forth the effort to reach that level but he, on the otherhand, does not and will not.
Be that as it may, it's plain to see that what you are to him is just what you said. You're a school girlfriend, someone who he can maybe use to show off and act like a big man on campus. It's also plain to see that the type of relationship that you're looking for isn't one that he is capable of having with you, that he isn't likely to change his behavior and he's always going to go be with his friends instead of wanting to be with you. So rather than nagging him to treat you like you're someone who is worth being with in an outside open social setting, stop causing yourself more drama and heartache and cease being with him altogether. Just chalk up these past three months as a learning experience and realize that this wasn't ever going to work out. It's not that he's a bad sort of person or anything like that. It's just that you two have different priorities that happen to have clashed and you both probably need to pursue other options and go your seperate ways. Where he has his friends and is indifferent to your needs, you especially need to pursue these other options since your voice is the loudest and your concerns and expectations and desires are the greater.

Answer 3

Depends on what kind of guy he is, as to what I would do. But it seems like you need to do a little investigation work. If it were me, I'd get myself together with a best friend and head down there to do some investigating to see just what the big deal is. You don't have to confront him, just watch; Who knows, you might find out something interesting. You guys are a brand new couple. Where I live, that's the time where you do the most dating lol & friends take second chair for a decent while.

Answer 4

You might think of him as your bf, but I'm not sure where his head's at....well, I think I know what part of his anatomy he has his head stuck up, but I'll be a gentleman and not say.

I know most boys don't particularly like girls when they are pushy, but you have given him plenty of chances....you've dropped hints, you've even come right out and said that you'd like to do some things with him outside of school. About the only thing left to do is to tell this kid something like:

"I like you...a lot. But I will not be just a "school girlfriend" for you. If you want me to be your gf, I want to be able to spend some time with you outside of school. And if you can't take any time away from you buddies at all, then you need to look for another girl."

And if he won't, dump the idiot...it will be his loss. You will find some guy that will enjoy your company all the time. And in the long run, you will be better off....you shouldn't settle for the leftover scraps of attention from some boy....even if you do like him a lot. You deserve better.

Answer 5

It sounds like he wants to have a girlfriend only at school. He must figure he needs one for his school rep. It looks better to the guys. But he wants freedom out of school. Is he in a group where most of the guys have girlfriends. If so, you are just for show. You are going to be just this if you don't ask him right out why. Why only at school, Why no skating, Why nothing else. You know this is what you've been thinking too. you are a smart girl. You have the right to know what you are. A girlfriend or a trophy at school. I think you deserve better than how you are being used. Theses are the questions you have been wanting to ask, so ask.

Answer 6

If he has a problem with being seen with u in public, then he's not worth it. You are his gf, and you should have priority, expecially if it's for an outing u've expressed interest in before. He's hiding something, and this is one game of hide and seek that's gonna end badly.

Answer 7

He might have another girlfriend or something if he doesn't has noting to do with you during the evening and only see you during the school day. Or he thinks his friends more important then you. Something seem odd and I would try to find out..

Answer 8

he's still immature u kno how boys r these days... if u feel that its not gonna change then u need 2 drop his a.s.s. like a hot potato....apparently he doesnt care about ur feelings outside of skool