to 10k. The wittesses r his ex- hoodlem friends whom really took it. he has no criminal history what would be the punishment and would we as parents be responsible
2007-12-09 09:07:36 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
word of mouth generally isn't enough to get a conviction. And if these ex-hoodlum friends have any records their testimony won't be credible. I would talk with a lawyer and see what they have to say. But worse case scenario is he would get a little bit of time in juvenile hall and pay restitution and in which cause you may be responsible for. Depending on his age and where you are located.
2007-12-13 05:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, there is a difference between an accusation and reality. You need to find out all of the facts and if he isn't arrested, etc. they are intimidating you. If he is arrested, get him a good attorney. If he did do it, he can later work and pay you back for the attorney, but this will keep him from getting an unfair sentence.
You could be made responsible. I don't know the laws in your state. It is best to check into this, but not before you find out if they are going to file charges, etc.
Don't pay them just because they SAID he did it. What next? He stole a 40,000 car. And they you have to replace that? Where would it stop? Get the facts, and then get him some legal advice, if needed.
Good luck. 15 is a horrible time of their life; I hope this all goes well for everyone involved.
Also, if this becomes reality, get an estimate (a legitimate one) on worth of article. Not hearsay; no proof, no way to know value.
2007-12-09 09:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know as parents that you always want to think "Not My Child".
But the reality is , is that sometimes it is your child.
You say that he hangs with hoodlums, then what does that make him? I know that you didn't teach your child to be a follower, so could he be the leader of the gang of hoodlums?
You need to talk to all of them and explain that if they return the ring now and only now, that maybe the owner's won't prosecute them.
You "must" make your child think that you will throw him and the rest of his friends under the bus. That you will not put up with this type of behavior.
Do not back down! Let him know that if he goes to jail that you will allow him to stay there (at least a few days) and it will ruin his chances for College or anything else decent in life.
It was only a matter of time before your child did something wrong also while hanging around the "hoodlums".
And, if you couldn't control him from associating with the bad guys , what makes you think that he didn't do it?
If you take your child's side on this, he'll continue in this direction for years to come thinking that he has you totally fooled, and that you'll stand behind your "baby" regardless.
I know you've heard of tough love before, now it's time for you to practice it on your own child before it's too late.
2007-12-09 09:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by dtown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents should be blamed for how their children behave but I don't think that works in this case, something was taken and the person being accused is not the one who took it. If the people who took it are ex-friends, there is motivation right there, they want to get back at him for something. If the police get involved then the puishment could just be time in a teen criminal center.
2007-12-09 09:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by sparrowszealot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're ex. hoodlem friends as you put it, I'm not sure they'd be deemed credible witnesses. Wouldn't someone have to produce the ring? I don't know the law very well but I would imagine if he was found guilty, he would probably get a suspended sentence because of his age and the fact that he has no history, but he would have a criminal record. Your responsibility as parents would be financial I would suspect.
2007-12-09 09:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by tarasheridan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is responsible.
Why would someone bring a $5-10k ring to a party and take it off?
2007-12-09 12:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is no good evidence that he took the ring, i don't think there is much anyone can do.
and if these friends of him are accusing him, and have criminal records, perhaps the people who lost the ring could take a closer look at these "friends".
people need to keep their valuables locked up or in a safe place..
if you are concerned about what the law might do, perhaps seek a consultation from a criminal law attorney.
all the best... and your son needs to find new "friends".
2007-12-09 09:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If they are taking you to court- get an attorney.
If this is just a he said she said thing and isn't legal- I wouldn't do anything! How do a bunch of kids get their hands on a wedding ring? Shouldn't that have been on a finger somewhere? Sounds like irresponsible parents. Who lets their kids have a house party AND leaves valuables like that laying around?
2007-12-09 09:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it back. Your angel either did it or knows who did. Do you have 10K. I would sue the both of you for 50K.and say they took my rolex too. Poor parenting can cost you.
Kid needs a good kick in the butt and so does his mate. My dad wold not have hesitated. I would never have been involved with hoodlums and my folks would not have made lame excuses for me.
Accountability. Try it
2007-12-09 09:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by frank 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being accused and being guilty are two different things. If he said he didn't take it, as his parent, you have to stand by him and stick up for him. Get the police involved. If he is innocent then you have nothing to worry about. If he is not, then the police need to be involved to teach him a lesson so this doesn't happen again. Either way, it gets handled properly.
2007-12-09 09:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋