I HATE MY SISTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (i pick best answer)?

Question

She is a *****!
I have to do all the chores yet my parents think shes perfect.
My grandpa dieing of cancer lives with us and always sticks up for her. I cant stand him. I am Christian and dont want to hate anyone. How can I stop hating my sister?????????????
She has anger management problems too. How can I ignore her without accidentily talking to her out of anger????

Answer 1

Because you mentioned that you are Christian, you know the importance of filling our hearts with love and seeing the GOOD in someone....and everybody has some good. Learn to start paying more attention to your sister when she IS being kind and thinking of someone else other than herself. Point it out to her - ask her doesn't it feel good to be that way? Then you can add, I'm thankful to have a sister like you that can do that. See, it's about focusing on the positive, and after a bit of time, your sister will see and get it - the way you really want to be treated by her. Just think, you are then being very Christian by helping her have some guidance in her life :-)

Answer 2

I understand. I am the oldest of 6 children .. only 1 brother. I have one sister who is married to a man with a lot of money .. so all the rest of the family thinks she can do no wrong because she spreads all her wealth around. Honestly, I think I am richer in many more areas of my life, not just monetarily.

But, I don't think money is your issue in this case. Why don't you start silently just watching your sister for several days and see if there is a certain thing she says or does or a way she acts that everyone seems to like her so much more. I am not saying you should be exactly like her so that people will like you too (which I am sure they do!) You should be yourself -- your own unique person. But, maybe she sits with your grandfather and holds his hand and talks to him where you may not do that as much. Maybe she does things like talking to your parents about their feelings, compassion .. something along those lines where you have a harder time in those areas? I don't know your sister or you .. so I am just basically guessing. Try not to ignore her ... go to her and tell her how you feel ... you could both get closer by having a good discussion. Good luck!

Answer 3

You need to talk to your sister and tell her how you feel. If that doesnt work then you need to look at this from a POSITIVE point
of view. With you doing all the chores is helping the family thru a sad crisis at this time. Your Parents and Grandpa probably dont see the way she is towards you. Remember no one can make you MAD, SAD, UNHAPPY unless you ALLOW them to. It also seems your sister needs to go to anger management classes to help her control her anger. You should feel sorry for your sister for the way she is. You dont hate her you hate the way she treats you. Just be yourself and try to say something nice to her even when she is being mean to you. Best wishes...

Answer 4

I dealt with the same thing growing up. The harder I tried to make people see what she was really like to worse I looked to everyone. Talking to my parents didn't help. They accused me of trying to make her look bad because of jealousy.
I had no choice but to focus on my own responsibilities and actions. Now that we're adults things have taken a bit of a turn.
I've made better choices, stood up for my beliefs, and don't sink to drama. It took many years but my parents have long ago admitted that they didn't want to see her problems growing up so they ignored them. Now she's an adult with all of the same issues and no one can help. She's been this way for too long and there's nothing anyone can do for her.
Stay away from her. If she gets you going then take a 'time out'. Get away, even if it's only to your room until you calm down. If you react out of anger it only makes you look like the bad guy.
It's not easy but don't expect anyone to side with you or see your point of view. Just do your best in all of your responsibilities. It might mean you ignore a lot of bad treatment on her part. However, if things get abusive and the parents don't step in, do not hesitate to talk to a trusted friend or even a school counselor.
Sometimes all you can do is 'be the bigger person'. Ignore the sister and the families ignorance to her issues. As soon as you're old enough get out on your own and make a life for yourself. Someday those around you will realize the sis wasn't so perfect but they will remember that you took care of yourself and made your own life in spite of the situation. They may never admit it but you'll have the self satisfaction of knowing you made it on your own without being babied like your sis. Best of luck. Sorry I couldn't give you a perfect fix.

Answer 5

Sounds like your family is dealing with a lot. Caring for a terminal parent is not easy. It takes 2 to argue. Don't be a part of it. Take the high road and kill her with kindness. Trust me, it works. I am as nice as I can be to those who are angry. It deflates their anger. Also, agree with everything she says. If she says you're selfish. Agree and say you'll work on it. You can't argue the point and when you agree, she can't argue either.

So it goes like this.
She says, "You're selfish."
You say, "You're right. Can you show me how to be more sharing?"
Then you get her to share with you and tell her what a good sister she is when she models the behavior.
The key is being sincere and not sarcastic.

Also, if someone (like grandpa) is sticking up for her, that means someone is attacking her. Would that be you? Stop doing that. No one wins. If you always do what's right, you'll never have anything to apologize for.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. just cause your sister has an anger problem doesn't mean you have to do her chores. stay calm and also talk to your sister and tell her that you would like to be treated different. Best Of luck

Answer 7

As a Christian too, I will pray for you. As a sister who just lost her only brother in a car accident, I beg you, please do not hate your sister. When I was younger, my brother and I didn't get along at all, and my father used to tell me something that always stuck with me. He said, "You really don't know what you've got until it's gone." It's true. I always thought he didn't know what he was talking about. He was right. My brother was my only sibling. Now I'm the only one left, and my mother is dying of cancer. Please, don't hate her. Instead of completely ignoring her, try this. When she says something mean, instead of getting mad and saying something mean back, give her a hug or tell her you love her. Tell her you're praying for her (then do it, too! The Bible says when we pray for our enemies, it's like reaping hot coals onto their heads). If you find yourself getting angry, walk away without saying anything to her. Perhaps she'll notice that she isn't able to get to you anymore, and she'll start being nicer to you.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

you seem rather angry, too.

the best way to avoid an angry responnse to anyone, is to count to 20 in your mind before you say anything -- practice this all of the time. it works, but does take practice.

this way, you won't be a person who gives knee jerk responses, and you will probably be happier with yourself.

i'm sorry your sister doesn't do any of the chores.... i used to do everything, too... and after all these years, it doesn't seem important anymore... your parents need to issue some control over your sister.. it's their responsibility to do so.

take care...

Answer 10

dude i totaly know what you mean!!!

my sister is the yonger one in the family and both my parents were the younger siblings so "they know what she's going through" (there words not mine)

and sometimes i know they favor her!

ok so heres what i do...

get even with her
but dont tell her

clean the floor with her toothbrush

tape something of hers to the ceiling


believe me it helps

email me if you thinkof something


-tawny=]