im 16 he is 19. we were pretty much unoffically dating due to our age. I knew that there was a law keeping us apart and that things would be though for the next year or 2. well last nite, I had a strange dream. I had drempt that we were about to kiss and then some woman found out about our age difference, and then the next thing I could remember was us running away from her and then him disapearing, not answering his phone.
well we were talking through email and he said something alonf the lines "there are lots of things keeping us apart, and i wish i could tell you that that doesnt matter to me, but it does" i respect that, cuz I dont want him to get in trouble beacuse of me...I asked him what he ment by that, but hes not online to reply. but if he ment what I think. I cant handle that. I am crying as I type. I really like him and want to be with him, and its hard for me to think I have to wait a yr or 2. and I feel that its my fault for being so young. I dont know what to do... help
2007-12-09 08:55:29 · 10 answers · asked by Ladyjack12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not your fault that you're too young, that's just the way the world works. But the problem is, is that he's right. Despite love, if there's so many things like that keeping you both apart then it is time to break it off. I know it's tough, it's hard to lose somebody you love so very much, but it's also time to think of him as well. He could get in a lot of trouble for being with you, and it sounds like your subconscious was giving you some type of warning that somebody out there doesn't like your relationship. Likewise, if you keep it going then it sounds like both of you may be in a lot of trouble, and you could leave him for good. I'd suggest telling him that you both should wait until you turn 18, the best part is? That a lot of things can change in two years, and somebody you thought was the best guy ever might of just turned into a piece of sludge.
2007-12-09 09:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're comming from, sweetie. I'm not going to be a jerk and tell you something you don't want to hear as far as "you're too young." Screw that. To me, you seem mature enough to understand the dangers and risks of the illegality of such a thing so I'll speak from the heart; You're pass the bar of people telling you what you can and cannot do as far as love. Few questions first, no obligation to answer, but how long have you known him and, if this is an internet matter, have you met him face-to-face? Now as far as my advice, you need to relax a little, hun. Take a day, talk to a friend, but you definately need to build up some kind of foundation before you even think about how to deal with the worst. Count your blessings, and don't let your feelings cloud up your brains. We can't help our ages, so don't stress yourself out more over things you can't control. Lastly, having been in a similar position as you, the worst thing for you to do right now is let your mind wander. Focus on one issue at a time, alright? Whenever you start to feel yourself lapsing into a pool of questioning him, yourself, or a bunch of "what-if's," STOP YOURSELF and talk it out with a bud. Whenever you do talk to him, and it'll be best if over the phone or in person, not email, make sure you get EVERYTHING off of your chest. Communication is important.
--Here if you need more advice, Good luck--
2007-12-09 17:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Panda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if its early in your relationship then I can say, you will have a few nights of crying and playing your sad love songs and feeling alone... theres no doubt about that. But you really cannot change the way he feels and maybe its best. But in all honesty I dont think your age is a huge difference.... Its only a problem if your parents think its a problem... thats really only when the trouble will happen... no one else is really gonna care.... so if you guys are worried about what everyone other than what you parents would think then thats just ridiculas! If your parents dont have a problem with it, then theres no issue! And if it is a big deal with your parents all i can say is "if you love something set it free, if it comes back to you its meant to be"
2007-12-09 17:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by VMG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing. I'm so sorry you're feeling so bad. But don't jump to any conclusions. Just because he's not online doesn't mean he's ignoring you or has broken up with you. Call him tomorrow when you're calmer and talk it through. If he does want to split, don't worry, it'll be nasty for a while but in time you'll realise that you ARE young (which is not your 'fault' by the way), and you have your big, long and fabulous adventure of a life ahead of you. Good luck and chin up, T.
2007-12-09 17:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by tarasheridan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww, it's not your fault. try to study or have fun with your best girl friends and have a girls' night out. That happened to me, this guy really like me, but he's like 10-11 year age difference to me, since I'm 13, so we just remain friends. I used to like him, but now I don't.
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-09 17:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't worry
ur young you will get over him and find some1 better
and if he is letting other people change ur relationship, than the guy aint very brave
2007-12-09 17:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by BlankOrangePsychology 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need a boyfriend now just have fun go study and stay in school ull tahnk me
2007-12-09 16:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's probably trying to tell you a secret, but it's hard for him to.
2007-12-09 17:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Shy Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's ALWAYS another guy!OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
PS technically this guy might have been guilty of statutory so next time keep it to someone your own age ok? peace!
2007-12-09 16:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 16... you're going to have alot more relationships.
2007-12-09 16:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋