I currently live with my mother to help her and her husband financially. I dislike her husband a lot. He treats my mothers sons and daughters terribly. He treats his own son like no other. Ive lived on my own i was struggling for a while but i was a lot happier.I dont know if i should go with them and deal with the issues but be closer to my mother.OR if i should continue my own life and be here alone 10 hours away from my mother.I have no family to fall back on anywhere.But then again i cant deal with the stress.
2007-12-09 08:46:21 · 4 answers · asked by winniethepoohluver1029 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You could still move out on your own even if you move to the new area with them. It sounds like being on your own is a good idea. If you're capable that's what I would suggest. Enduring moms husband to be close to mom isn't necessary. Move close enough to visit mom but on your own so you don't have to deal daily with the drama. You could also stay where you're at but it sounds like you already know you're really going to miss mom. Also staying behind some place where you have no family could make it very difficult and lonely. Weight the pros and cons of both situations. Best of luck!
2007-12-09 09:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really want to stay there. You have the phone, the Internet, snail mail, and you could go visit from time to time. Your mother and your sisters or brothers could come visit you, as well.
Staying there will help you develop your independence, your personal strength, and your confidence.That's important for your future, no matter what that will be.
It seems to me that if you were helping them financially your step-father should have had more appreciation for you. Since he didn't, staying with them puts you in an abusive situation that is not healthy for you.
If you struggle financially when you are alone, take on a roommate to help with the bills. It's time to create your own future, not theirs. That is their responsibility. You've been the cocoon, now be the butterfly and fly away to your own life.
2007-12-09 09:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth are you "helping" your mother financially? She is married, and you didn't say she or her husband were disabled or retarded... You are not responsible for your mother, or any other adult... Your sense of responsibility toward your mother is rather co-dependent behavior, and not very healthy for you.
Your mother made the choice to marry this man, and her relationship with him is not your concern... if he treats others with disrespect, he does...
It doesn't seem you need family to "fall back on"... it seems they are using YOU UP!!! Take care of you, and let others do the same.. even if it's your mother...
2007-12-09 09:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is you crazy? Let them go and get on with your own life.
2007-12-09 09:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋