My younger brother died three months ago. My mother and I were planning on going to a candlelight service tonight held by a grief support group in our area. However, I've changed my mind...I don't want to go anymore. When I asked my mother if she could just drop me off at home instead, both she and my grandmother became upset with me. Is it wrong of me to just want to be alone, instead of surrounded by people telling me how sorry they are, saying saccharine, cliche statements that are no more than empty words? What is so wrong about just wanting to be by myself tonight?
2007-12-09 08:34:55 · 6 answers · asked by Shadow's Sister 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your grief is yours. You do not need anyone to validate what you are feeling or how you're dealing with it. It's is understandable not to want to go. They may feel you do not want to pay respect or tribute to your brother. Just explain it's too painful to go and hear all of those things and you just need to deal with alone in your own way. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-12-09 09:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to skip out on the support group, but i don't really believe people are insincere when they tell you they are sorry for your grief... it's a grief support group, so everyone knows what grief is about.
You have your own way of grieving, and apparently wish to be alone instead. that is perfectly ok... and if mom and grandma are upset, they will get over it.
take care... and if you need help with your grief, you can look up COPING WITH GRIEF on Yahoo search engine for more info.
I AM very sorry for your loss.
2007-12-09 09:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People handle grief differently. You may want to be alone, and that's okay. When I get upset, I'm the same way. But some people want to be comforted, even if it's just empty words.
2007-12-09 08:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by Person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see nothing wrong with staying home. Your dealing with the pain of your brother in a different way than your family and there's nothing wrong with that. Just make sure that if you need to talk to someone, call someone that you can trust and they are an understanding person.
2007-12-09 08:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by faithful_nascar_fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 06:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by hone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong. If you cannot bring yourself to go to your brother's candlelight service, you don't have to. Just go home and sleep. That is what is best to do.
I'm sorry about your brother. Good luck and god bless.
2007-12-09 08:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by Dina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋