me and my boyfriend decided today to come to an end?

Question

me and my boyfriend of 3 yrs have decided to come to an end. buti feel like i made the worng choice. can someone please help me figure out how to do anything to get him back. men, what can a female do to blow you away and give you a clear picture that she appreciates you and needs you. what do men want or need to feel that way? help me please

Answer 1

When it's over, it's over.

Answer 2

Before you go off and try to "get him back" evaluate why you both decided to end it. Make a list of all the stuff you agreed about when ending the relationship and you will see it probably was for the best. You are better off calling a GF and going out for dinner with her to talk it out too so she can remind you of things you hated about the relationship. It is always hard to let go of a long relationship but if after 3 years you both called it quits than it really is quits. Sorry. Time to brush yourself off and find yourself without him again. You were comfortable but were you "happy"? I would bet not. So be happy that you have a chance to get on without the burden of a bad relationship. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well... I'm in a similar situation, I must say... I was starting to date a girl, and it seemed to be working well, but a few days ago she decided it was best for us to end it.

God knows I want her back... :(

Have you thought that your boyfriend might be feeling the same way, deep inside? It's hard to say. Clearly you are feeling the same way; you have regrets, you are not 100% sure you've made the right choice, which means that there is something about him that you really love and need.

However, this does not answer the question: should the two of you get back together?

You have not explained to us the reason(s) why you and he broke up. Was one of you unhappy? Did he cheat on you? Were there other people you were interested in? Was he completely not the kind of person you want for yourself, even though you know you both feel something for each other? It is in light of these factors that you must decide whether you two should really get back together or not.

I can't answer these questions. No-one can, except you. You're the one who can feel and know whether you are willing to take him back or not. The choice is yours. It's in your hands.

So what do do? Here's my advice, if you agree with it, and if you feel you want to take it:
Call him. Tell him you want to think about things better. Tell him you care for him and need him. Tell him that he really means a lot to you and makes a major difference in your life, and that because of this you need him. Tell him you'll never forget him. Tell him you still love him and want him back.

Or tell him he needs to do something differently. Tell him you respect his feelings, but must respect your own above all else. Tell him things would never work out between the two of you. Tell him you don't want him back.

I'm sorry, but you're really the only one who can decide what you want to say to him. So think about it carefully. Choose wisely. But what I'm trying to say is: whatever you do decide to tell him, please, TELL him. Don't leave him wondering about what could be on your mind, because that is not good for a guy. Every passing moment is probably making it harder and harder for him to take you back. So if you really regret your choice... you might want to have a very serious conversation with him, telling him EVERYTHING that's on your mind, and showing him that you really need him and accept him despite all of the problems and imperfections.

If he doesn't want to talk, try again later.
If he still doesn't want to talk... give him some time.
If he still doesn't want it... consider moving on.

But if he's at least your true friend, he will ALWAYS want to talk to you, even if he can't talk to you right away.

No relationship is healthy unless people trust each other and build their relationship based on UNCONDITIONAL FRIENDSHIP.

Unless you are good friends to start with, you will hardly go very far. And unless your friendship is going to last forever, you will never be able to have it turn into something even more beautiful.

Solve the doubts. Talk it out; it is absolutely vital that both of you are ready, willing and able to talk about anything with each other. And if you're religious, pray about it; it can really help. After everything's said and done, you'll find your way.

Good luck.

Answer 4

To be completely honest with you, if he didn't fight it very hard when you broke up today, then there's probably not a lot you can do to get him back.

I'd say wait a day or two, see how much you really miss him, and then call him and tell him. Chances are he misses you too. The best thing you can do is be as honest with him as you have been with us. Tell him that you feel like it would be worth it to try a little harder, because you don't feel like this kind of chance comes along very often, and you don't want to miss yours.

Answer 5

Dear Friend,

I have gone through a lot of drama in life. I may not be able to answer your question precisely, but please read through.

I had a 7 year long on-off relationship with my latest ex. I was thoroughly dedicated to her and never ever looked at other females. Yet she treated me like a trash can, dumped me quite a few times for better opportunities only to get hurt and come back. In short, I was reduced to her safety net. Eventually I decided to dump her and she accused me of being unfaithful and said that I was dumping her as I had found someone else. But the reality is that I dumped her because of HER and not for a 3RD PERSON.

If he decided that he is not going to be with you, and if he is not seeing any other girl, the believe me, he has made up his mind NOT to be with you because of YOU.

In all probability, it will be futile for you to expect him to come back. He might under exceptional circumstances, but I suggest you move on!

Answer 6

If you feel like you made a mistake, it's never too late to call him up and tell him you feel that way. Remember, men aren't mind readers, sometimes being blunt is the best way to come out and say it. Giving hints may sound good, but if he doesn't get the message and goes on to somebody else then you've already lost your chance. I'd say your best bet is to call him up and say how you feel.

Answer 7

As a female I would have to say that it's his job to get you back. A man needs to be a man and pursue you.

If you go after him then your being the man in the relationship and making most of the effort. Sure he'll like it when you do all the hard work and he'll expect you to keep doing that the whole relationship. Bad news.

Answer 8

tell him how you feel 3 years is alot of time to just let go of the relationship call him tell him if he thinks you made the right choice if he says yes or doesnt answer then leave him a message if your having sex tell him you want himm and do something new.

Answer 9

OMG!!!!!!!!!! I am sooo sorry sweetheart! Well all I cna tell u is not to make it obvious that you want him back. Try and see if there is any one else. Try that for a while. If that doen't work, go back and talk to the original guy. Good Luck Hun!!

Answer 10

well.. im not a boy.. but i went threw the same problem as you.. and it was for 3 years to.. / but.. i think.. you guys should really talk about this.. to each other. and tell him.. while u are crying.. that u need him in ur life. and u love him so much.. and make sure u are crying cuz it makes boyz feel so bad.. and that they want u in their life to.. good luck

Answer 11

There is nothing any of us can do to help you out...you need to call him and tell him your feelings..and whatever made you break up with him in the first place..you need to talk about that too..and maybe you can work on it..