What did i do wrong?

Question

ok, so on friday my boyfriend of about a month told me he thought we should break-up and that he was sorry. all i could do was stand there and nod so he walked away. thru my last two classes all i did was cry and try to figure out what i had done to make him break up with me. on wednesday he'd been telling me how much he wanted to go to the movies and that he loved me, then on thursday he was acting kinda funny and not really talking much so i asked if he was ok and he said yeah. i asked his best friend if he was ok and he said ya and then out of curiosity i asked if he was going to break up with me but his best friend said definintely not and that he loved me. He was my first boyfriend and i'm really kind of sad about it, but i don't want to make it seem like i blame him or anything because i really don't. My question(s) are 1) what did i do wrong, if anything? and 2) how do i act around him tomorrow at school, we have an english presentation and hang out with the same people.

Answer 1

You need to be straight with this boy, if he didn't give you any actual reasons then you either need to ask him why; or realise he is not worth it.

At school you can either a) blank him
b) treat him like you would a friend
c) act as though hes a stranger
or

d) ignore my advice and do what comes naturally.

But PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE don't be a complete nasty person to him. And dont' worry he obviously didn't deserve you.

Answer 2

Its a hard thing to deal with when your first relationship ends but its something we all must go thru to grow. When you are in school you like many people at once sometimes and your feelings and crushs can switch on a daily basis and with the snap of a finger. I think he probably likes someone else. At least he was grown up enough to tell you he didnt want to be together anymore. It was probably for the best too. I know it doesnt seem that way for you, and the feelings of guilt and sadness and embarrassment are normal. But remember IT WASN'T YOU! You didnt do anything wrong it just happens. Tomorrow act cordial, say hi , but dont pay too much attention to him. Don't talk bad about him because since you hang out with the same people it can cause people to take side and may make you lose friends. Don't tell him how sad you are that he left because that lets him know he has contorl of your feelings and may make him use that control to take advatnage of you. Let him think you are fine and nothing is borthering you. Let him see what it is he gave up, a happy cheerful beautiful girl. Thats the best way to make him sorry for doing so, willingly. #1 word of advice Don't beg or cry for him to get back with you!

Answer 3

You didn't do anything wrong (because if you had, he would have been very vocal about it). You're both young, and you're trying to figure out exactly who you are. Unfortunately, in the course of doing that, some boys (as well as some girls) develop a sort of "kid in a candy store" mentality which makes it difficult for them to make up their minds about things, and they tend to flit foolishly from one thing (read "person") to the next. I suspect that's what has happened here. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he eventually comes back wanting to be your boyfriend again. You're free to do as you please when that happens, but I recommend telling him "no". (You can understand flighty behavior, but you shouldn't reward it.)
This is raw for you now because it's a first, but there will be many other firsts for you over a lifetime, and this will fade into an empty footnote over time. If it helps you to know this, we've all been through it at one time or another. The loss is his. No matter how you feel inside, hold your head up and go on as if nothing's happened. Better days are definitely ahead. Good luck, and Merry Christmas!

Answer 4

People change you probably didn't do anything wrong, but just ask him why? That way you don't keep blaming yourself. It sounds like the break up was not on bad terms so I'm sure he would be kind enough to tell you. Some people are meant to be in our lives forever and others just for a bit. Some relationships are just learning experiences. Ask him then quit blaming yourself and be happy and move on. I bet what life has in store for you next will be even better.

Answer 5

Something might have come up with him and he needs to get things straightened out and relationship stress would not help him in that situation. Act yourself tomorrow, as if nothing happened, only talk about the situation if he is willing to.
Lastly, when a guy says he's alright, a lot of the times its not that way and if you had talked to his best friend as well, chances are he'd cover for him so you would not worry.

Edit: Forgot to mention, it doesnt seem like you did anything wrong, he might just have lots of things going on.

Answer 6

Well if you seriously want to know what happened and why her broke up with you then just ask him. I mean, if you were as close as it sounds then he should be comfortable telling you. And it probably isn't YOU that did something wrong. Maybe he's got a lot going on in his life, that's all.
And the whole friend thing:
Act normal. Just be his friend like you were before you started going out. You might have some more history now, but that doesn't mean you can't act cool around eachother.
:)))))
good lucks
xoxo
-ELLIE-

Answer 7

1) what did i do wrong, if anything?

You did nothing wrong and the only way yo know it is to ask him. Are you willing to do that?

Maybe he has his own insecurities or maybe he has fallen for some other girl.

2) how do i act around him tomorrow at school, we have an english presentation and hang out with the same people.

Just be normal. Talk only when necessary but be cordial. Do not smile unless he smiles at you and do not try to avoid eye contact. Just be yourself!

Answer 8

You did nothing wrong, it is just young love and all about hormones! He was attracted to your looks and that is something you tire of, you need mutual interests etc. This comes with maturity! So don't try to figure it out. Just remember he was not the first and even if he was, he definitely won't be the last. The best is always last! And
by then you will be older , more mature and ready to settle down to one!

Answer 9

OMG It's your first boyfriend when you see him 2marrow act like nothing gets to you and act like nothing bothers you cause you can do way better u still haven't met any others guys and you still have your whole life to live. Plus thats what i did i didnt pay attention to my ex and now he has a girlfriend and hes calling me so get over this guy and act like nothing is bothering you and move on trust me it works!!! Let me know how it goes!! P.S. you didnt do anything wrong you were just probably to good for him!!

Answer 10

U didnt do anything wrong. Ur bf has his priorities mixed up.How can he tell u he loves u then break up with u the next day.Dont let this bother u too much.Just take things easy and u'll get over him in no time

Answer 11

1. it was probably that he just stopped like you im 14 and it doesnt happen as easly as it did when i was younger, i would just kind of stop liking a girl. so im guessing that you did not do anything wrong he may have met someone he likes more or something.
2. just act like he is your friend or you dont even have to talk to him, live your life the way YOU want to. dont let somthing like that affect you, you will get over it and find someone new.