we arent rushing at all, we just started talking about it. hes not forcing me or anything, he said he'd wait if i wanted. we both trust each other a lot, and we're in love, but do you think we should just wait it out?
2007-12-09 08:00:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait until you're married, that way if he's not the one, you won't have any regrets!
2007-12-09 08:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by C1-J2 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Contrary to popular believe, if you're both sixteen then it's not illegal for you to have sex in most states. Personally, I'd wait, there's plenty of time for that. I'm a Sophomore in college and am still a virgin and think I'm better for it. The problem with sex so young is that it really starts to detract from the emotional aspect of the relationship. Yes, you love him, and you want to show it, but eventually it starts to become distracting and the focus of it. And just remember, the more guys you're with, the more baggage you'll carry into you marriage.
However, I do understand that /not/ having sex can be almost as distracting as doing it. If the sexual tention is building up so much that you start having trouble just being alone together, it might just be time to bite the bullet and take the consequences as they come. If that's what you decide to do, though, PLAN ahead of time. I'm not sure how your relationship might be with your mom, or even another adult nearby, but I would highly suggest getting on birth control (I know my mom offered to take me to get some when I was considering sex at your age. You might be surprised, most parents are happier that you're taking the initiative to get the proper protection other than trying to hide your activities. Make the point that you're going to do what you're going to do and they can't control if you have sex or not but CAN control if you get pregnant.) I have so many friends who relied just on condoms and really regretted it.
Anyways, good luck with whatever you decide to do. And I congradulate you on talking about it with your boyfriend before hand, that makes all the difference!
2007-12-09 08:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would wait just a little longer. If you are both virgins then you really have something special and there is no need to rush. Why don't you both make a spectacular plan and save money toward that plan... Save and plan until you are at least 18...You can do something like a big trip to another country for two, a cruise... basically anything you want but, make that the time that you both will come together intimately. Make it as special as you can because you'll never forget your first time.
2007-12-09 08:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jane C 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
People will say you're young but you're a pretty average age I was in love at your age but it is uncommon so be sure of your feelings. Just talk about it more. Make sure youre not gonna get a freak out by parents. Get some condoms, either ask your parents or go to planned parenthood and get some birth control. It's great that you're planning it out because that means you can be extra safe. If you feel ready and have taken precautions then I say go for it. However, if you are doubting it then just wait it out. May want to have some protection haandy though. Often times once the talks start coming it doesn't take long and you don't want anything to happen you're not ready for.
2007-12-09 08:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by tcb 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. There are too many consequences having sex outside of marriage and at your ages you're going to deeply regret it one way or the other. If you start having sex now, you will be rushing things. Sex will become your focus. You have your post-high school education ahead of you and what if you find out he's not the one. Will you continue having sex with every guy you meet thinking he's the one? Even if you use protection, it's not 100%foolproof. The best protection is abstinence. The trust and respect you now have for each other will become drama and baggage. When you see each other talking with someone of the opposite sex, you'll become jealous, you'll wonder if they want to have sex with them. When you don't hear from each other, one of you will be wondering if the other is tried of them. This list can go on and on and on. If a man truly loves a woman, he'll protect her virginity until marriage. Continue trusting each other and if it's true love, you'll wait until marriage, and instead of having sex, you'll be making love with one another.
2007-12-09 10:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-10 22:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So I'm not gonna tell you to wait until marriage b/c I know lots of people say to wait. But its hard and I'm kinda goin through the same thing. What really keeps me from doing anything with my boyfriend is my best friend.She is 14, had been dating this guy for like 3 months, and they had sex. It was a dumb decision. Don't get me wrong, she's not a whore but she loved him and he loved her. But now 2 months later, they're broken up and I can see how much it hurts her. They're gonna get back together but it really messed her up. They used a condem but she still thought she was pregnant and she stressed about it forever. So I mean I honestly don't think the consequences are worth it, but that's your call.
2007-12-09 08:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your only a teenager. Give it some time. Do not do anything you may regret in the future. Plus, yes, it is illegal at 16. I'd advice to wait till you're more mature and you're sure this relationship will work out forever. I also agree to wait till you are married to have sex.
Hope that helps some.
Best Wishes.
:-)
2007-12-09 08:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by suzyqnelly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
16 is a good age. You know what you need to know about having sex and a year and 5 months is obviously a very trust worthy relationship. I think if you two feel very comfortable about it then you should have sex. Its great that he isn't pushing you. Use protect, Im sure you know that. Make sure that it will be peaceful, because you dont want people walking in on you. If you can trust a parent maybe you could talk to them about it...they could give you some important and useful input. It would be easier if you just told them cause then you would be able to talk about the pregnancy possibility. But I think that if you two are that into each other and your comfortable about this...then go for it.
2007-12-09 08:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by LexiSexi 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Check the age of consent laws in your state (it varies, but at 16 you're probably both fine). If it's legal and you're both into it, go for it. If it's not legal but you're still both into it just be a bit more careful about it. As long as you both want to have sex, there is nothing inherently wrong about it.
2007-12-09 08:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your choice, that's between you and him. If you two think you're ready for anything that may happen as a result of having sex, then I think it's fine. Me and my boy friend are waiting, as we are not ready for the possibility that we may conceive a child.
2007-12-09 08:06:15 · answer #11 · answered by Ugly Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋