I'm not happy with anything in my life and want to change?

Question

At the moment I'm this boring kid who goes to college and does the same thing day-in day-out with a routine and timetable etc.

I really hate my life at the moment, with my parents laying down the law, setting restrictions etc.

To be honest I don't think I'm going to be able to carry on with it all much longer. I'd really love to just quit everything, get a job, move to london and go out every night having fun and seeing what life actually has to offer,

At the moment I feel I'm missing out and wasting my youth.

I've applied for Uni etc but I don't want to go for the course just to get away from here which is stupid and a waste of money. I don't even want to go down that route, I want to be a performer but at this rate that's never going to happen.

help~

Answer 1

hey,
i relate to you so much because this was exactly how i felt last year.
Now its all changed.
I appiled to the fashion retail academy in london and now live down there.
I absolutley love it.
You have just got to find something you love and make time for it .
You say you like performing why not get involved in local perfomances and this could lead to other things.
There is no need to get upset and down about things because things also fall into place eventually.
If u fancy a chat my email adddy is
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so send me an email
xx

Answer 2

Unreliable Source,
Gee, you've even given your Avatar a depressing name.

I can feel your need for variety. I just finished my last college class in June of '06. From that I have learned we humans excell the best when we limit ourselves the most. That's why teachers give you assignments -it's focuses your energies and drives you to completion.

I think, from experience, you have some depression at the moment. So it seems the things in your environment are what you want to escape. If you were to move to London, you would feel fresher for a while. You might even have some fun, see new sights, and move out of the depression for some time.

Alas, if the problem that has you feeling this way is not overcome, the feelings will all return. That's what people are referring to when they say, "Where ever I go, there I am." Unfortunately, problems are as portable as we are.

My recommendation is that you stay where you are for now, and seek a counselor who can help you dig out the cause of your feelings and address it. Not as much fun, but much better for your lifetime. What you learn in counseling is how to look inside yourself and root out problems, then solve them. After that, where ever you are, you're happy to be there, and it won't matter about the restrictions you have in life.

You are not wasting your youth, I promise. The partying you see others doing is actually the way many of them are avoiding their problems. Especially the drinking and drugs that is usually at the bottom of a party. It masks the real problem, and the euphoria some people get from partying goes away as soon as the drug wears off. And it can be replaced by the utter misery of addition. When you don't get addicted, you're fortunate, but the emptiness you are left with after partying feels even worse than you felt before. Your body won't let you keep that up for long, so it's not a path to even fleeting happiness.

Going to a university is not for everyone, but it surely is the best thing for most of us. If you live in the UK I don't know about this, but in the US, most universities offer counseling for their students as part of their tuition.

Becoming a perforner is a wonderful ambition, so don't be defeated. Many universities teach the arts, be it acting, music, dancing, or fine art. Getting your degree in the arts is a great way to support your ambition, and develop it to "the next level."

It's in your heart, now do what you need to do to achieve your dreams.

Answer 3

If you get a place of your own it would help alot. But if your heart is set on going to London then make it happen. Get it out of your system and then decide what you want to do. Living at home you know your parents will always be setting rules and regulations for you..that's just what parents do. You feel you are wasting your youth because your heart isn't in what you are doing now. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders so I really hope you can get the chance in life that will make you happy. Only you can accomplish this. Happiness is a state of mind.

Answer 4

I had that sort of issue, dead end job, awful routine etc. So I got a job on a holiday park, I had left home and started a new job within a couple of days. I'm now in a dead end job again, doing the open university education thing. I wouldn't change the path I took for anything in the world, the time I spent on the parks was the best time I had in my life, I really had a sense of acheivement and fun. It was amazingly hard work though. You have to make the changes you want to make and work with all your heart to get where you truely want to be and never regret the chances you take. You won't always get the fairytale ending though, but the journey can definitely be worth it.

Answer 5

When you get out into the world and have no qualifications then you will find life really hard. Education is the best thing for obtaining more money, trying to tough it through life which so many young adualts try do is not the option. The easiest and cheapiest way to obtain qualifications is with your parents help. If that means having to abide by there rules well so be it, in all reality the time spent with them is minimal to you it seems like a eternity but it isnt. From a adult point off view they are trying to get you used to rules and regulations which is a everyday part off society. Stop being selfish and handle, for when youre out on youre own the bills increase a lot.

Answer 6

Aw- growing up can be so horrible at times but sticking to routine and guidelines is what makes us responsible and safe. The time will fly by- i would love to go back to that age and have routine and guidelines. It never seems like it at the time but breaking free is not too far away and routine and guidelines help us to do that safely and well balanced. London has nothing to offer - trust me. Jobs and homes are hard to find. You would need thousands of pounds a month to live in London nowadays. Try looking for a hobby or an interest to absorb yourself in when not at college that will help your days go by and your life seem lighter.

Answer 7

If this performer job brought you an income would you pursue it? Most people would say yes. Do what you are happy doing otherwise, like you said, its a waste. Most jobs as performers, depending on how creative you are, don't pay the bills until you are well known or your work is highly appreciated. If you don't want to pursue a college degree like your parents feel its to your benefit, then get yourself a job in the day, perform at night, and then eventually move into your own place. Then you will be pursuing your own dreams and no one will bother about your schedule, your happiness.
Good luck.

Answer 8

I feel you. I think everyone goes through this "growing up" stage. Definitly look into a performing arts school if you are serious about it. You need to explore your insterests and learn who you are. This is the best time to do it because you have nothing yet to tie you down.

My only advice would be to be careful about the going out every night to have fun. Life needs balance and limitations. Be social and enjoy life, but still be responsible and have limits. This isn't really something one can be taught though. You have to learn and achieve balance on your own.

Persue your dreams, and if you can afford it, move out on your own. The simple act of living on your own is a huge step in growing up.

Answer 9

begin today becoming the person that you want to be, that is the best journey in the world

you didn't mention what your dreams are really, your dream can't be to NOT do something, it has to be something to do or be

getting away from something is not a dream, but moving toward something is a dream

start by deciding what is important to you to be or do, don't make it a dream of having something, those are hollow in the end

once you have a dream make some goals out of it, steps to take, like (just an example) say your dream is moving to Australia

good goals would be to find out facts about Australia, meet Australian people, create a plan with a job or opportunity in Australia, then pick a launch date and go for it

you have to give your life meaning, no one can do that for you

Answer 10

the best thing to do is just think about what you really want in your life. If you really do want to be a preformer, then Go for it!! you gotta believe in yourself and not let anyone else (your parents) tell you otherwise, try everything you can, play at local bars, and enter contests and you'll get somewhere, just take it one step at a time and focus on the positive. Sounds cheesy but it will help! Good luck, or should i say "break a leg"! Ps. education is very important too!