Let's just say that, what if Megan did not kill herself as a result about what happened on MySpace. Let's say that she turned the violence onto others.
What if she killed her parents in a rage, or brought a weapon to school and killed a few people. Will people still be blaming the mother who created the page for causing Megan to snap? Will we want Megan off the hook because we are able to empathize with her and not blame her for her violence?
All in all, you are responsible for what you do. Whether you kill others or kill yourself is in your hands alone. You are held accountable for YOUR actions.
2007-12-09 06:34:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
cyber-bullying, physicall bullying; what is the difference? you can walk away from your computer. no questions asked. this poor teenage girl was way too messed up to have needed help to kill herself. where were her parents? apparently too worried about what was for dinner and not that their daughter was disturbed. what kind of horrible parent lets a child with a mental problem on a website like myspace or any other site to where people CAN harrass you. we have all been the subject of a bully in our lives but for a cyber bully, just turn off your computer. plus how pathetic does megans mother think we are to believe that megan believed in a good looking boy, named josh who she never met, never talked to, had no phone number for and no address for really existed? why did the mother not ask to meet such a great nice boy? oh thats right, megans mother did not care about her daughter, just give her some pills and let her be.
2007-12-10 06:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case there's tons of blame to be placed. On the two girls who created the myspace page and the mother who allowed it too happen. As well as Megain Meier's parents for allowing her to have myspace in the first place her parents knew it too. There's an age limit for myspace for a reason.
Secondly her parents needed to get her better help. If she was depressed and the antidepressants weren't working. Where was the psychological help too trying to change her thoughts to I am worth something. Instead of keeping her on the same ones that aren't even helping. There are anti depressants that if they don't work can lead to suicidal tendencies.
From what I gather your scenario is flawed. She wouldn't have hurt anyone but herself. She was upset about what was told to her that she was "better off not on earth" or whatever to that extent. If she flew into a rage I could understand that and I think most others could understand that.
You say everyone is responsible for their actions. What about people who suffer from profound psychological issues where the understanding of right and wrong isn't there. They think their actions are normal and nothing wrong with them? You can't place blame soley on one person in this case there were plenty involved who all should feel a sense of guilt. But in the end the parents of Megan should be blamed the most for not helping their child get the help she needed. Esepcially if they already knew she was suicidal.
2007-12-09 17:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Steven R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's not forget that Megan Meier should never have been there to be bullied in the first place.
She was not old enough for a myspace account. She had on a previous occasion shown herself to be way too immature for a myspace account. And yet her parents still allowed her, not only to have an account, but to friend people who she did not know in real life.
Yes, you are held accountable for your actions. And the parents who allowed their vulnerable daughter to lie in order to set up an account that they knew full well is considered unsuitable for a child her age by the owners of the site itself, have a LOT to be held accountable for.
2007-12-09 15:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think the girl should have been on myspace to begin with. She wasn't even old enough to have a myspace. Let alone talking to someone she "didn't know". (she knew the person apparently, but they were posing as someone she didn't know. she didn't know that. For all she knew, it was some random guy named "Josh".).
It makes me sick how people blame myspace for their child's actions. It wasn't myspace who hung her. What she needed was help. Not to have her problems ignored until it was too late. Anyone who would kill themselves over someone saying "i dont want to be your friend",already has all kinds of issues to begin with. It's not myspace and it's not the person who was doing it. Although, the person who made up that fake account was ignorant also. She didn't make the girl commit suicide.
Everything gets blamed on myspace and other people these days..
but yeah, she was responsible for what she did. Not anyone else. Not an internet website.
And her parents even allowed her to talk to someone she doesn't know on myspace. What kind of parent allows that?
2007-12-09 15:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are correct that we are responsible for our actions. But its not that simple in this case. We are talking about a young teen that suffered from depression. And a grown up MOTHER (mind you!) that was bullying a child! So I'm sorry, in this case, no matter how Megan snapped, that mother is the straw that broke the camel's back and should be held accountable.
2007-12-09 17:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As far as I'm concerned, Megan Meier wasn't a violent girl, just a depresed girl that was harrassed on the internet.
True, she did take her own life, but it was EXTREMELY irresponsible for a MOTHER to want to mess with a young girl like that.
I see what you're saying, the mother didn't string up the rope, but what if she had not sent messages to her?
2007-12-09 14:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jeans 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
This is true. But with youth comes stupidity. Someone who is already on edge doesn't need much to push them off. I agree that it's Megan's fault that she's dead. But that mother was wrong for facilitating that bully behavior. Teenagers have fragile psyches and can not control their impulses the way adults can. A grown woman should have known better.
2007-12-09 14:41:37 · answer #7 · answered by Brainy Smurfette 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I agree.....but consider the two age groups here. She was very young and not emotionally mature. The grownups should act their age, there was no need for their actions. That should be taken into account, right?
2007-12-09 14:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by jermicine 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is responsible for her own actions and it is sad. However, this was a grown woman who bullied a child. How ignorant and stupid is that? She should have to take responsibility for her part in that.
2007-12-09 14:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by pinkpiglet126 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
thats stupid, the mother who made the page did not cause her to commit suicide, she was damaged form the start. If smething as simple as I don't want to be your friend made her comit suicide, then she had deeper issues, and her parents should be to blame, not myspace, and damn sure not the other mom.
2007-12-09 14:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by mysonsmommyga 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋