is this a healthy relationship.?

Question

My love seems to always make me feel like i am unworthy and dirty and full of sin.She tries to make me prove my love for her over and over.She tends to be a bit egotistical and gets mad if i talk to people who don't think that she is the greatest thing ever.She threatens to torture me if i look at anyone else or if i learn things that are not in her "how to love me"manual.She has convinced me that without her in my life i am worthless and will certainly live in pain.She has a very violent temper and has no problem slaughtering anyone that doesn't give in to her demands.She makes promises that things will get better but she still controls me through fear and intimidation.I am probally better off without her but i'm afraid to think for myself and make my own choices in life.Should i continue with this relationship?

i was just asking because this seems to be the realtionship between man and god

Answer 1

If you decide not to go on with your love, doesn't that mean that you "hate her and are at war with anyone else who loves her?"

Also, on her birthday, when everybody else takes the day off, will that mean you'll have to work, just to prove you're not a hypocrite?

Answer 2

Bubba you are not dating a woman....you are dating a little girl with a princess complex. Get out while you can because you should never be with sombody that tries to make you feel worthless. If she truley loved you she would make you feel like you are on top of the world all the time.

I don't know how old you are but let me tell you this...I only had 1 REAL girlfriend before I met my wife and i met her when I was 28, I will be 31 in Jan. You may have a long dry spell before you find another woman but it is worth it to find the right one. NEVER EVER let sombody treat your heart like it was a toy. That is what this stupid girl is doing to you. Dumping her may hurt at first but you will survive.

Answer 3

Well, besides the fact that your current relationship is sinking, more of a love hate kind of deal, I must ask, Have you done anything to deserve this treatment?

Have you flirted with other girls or cheated on others or been rude or insulting to her? Have you done something unforgiveable in the love manual? Have you yelled at her or made her feel this way? If not, talk to her. If this happens one ore time, and she knowingly does something bad, end the relayionship. just friends. Or maybe not. she may be able to forgive you, but she sounds like she'll never forget. You can lean for choice making support from your loyal longtime finically stable friends or family members. Best of luck!!

Answer 4

Absolutely not, it's an unhealthy relationship. She is bad for your self-esteem, she has a violent temper, and she seems pretty mean. These are all things that should be a warning light that say, "avoid at all cost." It'll probably be difficult breaking up with her, as she is so incredibly demanding, but you will have to eventually. You deserve better, and no offense, but she's got to grow up.

Answer 5

What are you saying!
No it isn't a healthy relationship. You shouldn't be intimidated. by her. And a relationship based on that is not a relationship based on trust and love. How long can you think you will last? be strong, you are better without her.

You are comparing your relationship between the relationship of man and God. You forget one thing God does that your love doesn't. God loves us with all his heart and soul. He helps us in hard times, and when He makes us go through hard times, it's to help us grow. Because it is only through suffering that we become stronger. God has feelings and is waaaay better!

A healthy relationship is based on love and trust, not on intimidation and fear. it sounds more of a dictatorship to me.

Answer 6

This is no different than any other abusive relationship.
The one in control (god) makes the other feel less than worthwhile and continually reminds them of their faults (sins and so on).
And no matter how battered, the victim (christian) keeps saying "it must be my fault somehow. If only I were a better person, they'd stop. I'll try harder."
And so on ad-infinitum.

Answer 7

Hopefully, this is some kind of joke?? She sounds like a psycho and would report her to the authorities immediately. Get a restraining order on her or stay away order.
Depending on your age (which you didn't mention) if your underage, speak openly to your parent. If your an adult report her to the authorities. And the same way you read a book on "how to love her" get one about "loving yourself" '-)
Speak to friends, family and those you love you for support.

Answer 8

she sounds as if she's indecisive and insecure. she probably had problems from the past with other people. i think you need to talk to her. i think she is scared of losing you, she wants to hear that you love her, she wants you to be the only one to think about her and only her.

this is certainly not a healthy relationship. she wants to feel superior...it almost seems like she's bipolar? she wants your love, she probably would feel lost and hurt without you, but then puts you down with anger to put herself up maybe.


you really need to consult with her. tell her how you feel. tell her that if you don't talk to her seriously then you can't bare it.

just make sure you don't leave her with things unsaid and done. if you leave her like this...it would almost seem like she would hunt you down and threaten to kill herself.

hope things work out

Answer 9

Other this is an s&m relationship, and you are trolling, or you just don't have you can of nuts.
If this woman is "slaughtering" people it amazes me that she isn't in jail at this moment.
Just seems to be an odd choice of words, and where you posted it.
SUSPICIOUS!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Sounds like you hooked up with my ex-wife...

"She has convinced me that without her in my life i am worthless and will certainly live in pain."

You're that easily brainwashed???...throw the she devil out and go get some counseling...seriously...