I met this guy about a month & a half ago & we've became friends w/benefits. I've never done anything like that before...he has. The only other person besides him that I've slept w/is my ex husband. This guy & I communicate everyday, but thru texting only usually...which is kinda weird. But I am more comfortable w/it this way anyway, since I'm not used to the fwb thing. So I really barely even know him at all....there's only so much you can say thru texting. Plus the times we've seen each other we haven't done much talking if you know what I mean. But I can't stop thinking about him. I want to be around him & see him all the time. I don't really understand why I can't get him off my mind.....I barely know him! I feel like I want to be w/him...but how could I know that for sure? We don't get to see each other much, due to our work schedules & we're both single parents. I seriously miss him, but I hardly know him...this is so weird!
2007-12-09 06:10:27 · 15 answers · asked by love my life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw, I know some people might think this, but I know for a fact he is not married. And also, he has told me he isn't looking for a serious relationship right now, but he does have feelings for me.
2007-12-09 06:12:49 · update #1
I've gone through this before, and for me, neither time turned out well....One person always wants more than what the other can give. I've been on both ends...the person that wants more, and the person who can't give more. I think that the time I couldn't get my fwb off my mind was because I liked what he gave....the benefits, not so much him. If you have feelings for him, not just sexual feelings, maybe you should tell him. He might think it's weird bc like you said, you hardly know him. If you wanna get to know him better to see if he's the type of man you'd like to have more than a fwb relationship, tell him as well. But don't confuse one thing with another.
2007-12-09 06:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text messaging and a few occasional sexual encounters do not a relationship make. Take it for what it's worth........if you like having sex with him with no commitment, keep it up. If you care for him, it's time to stop. Doesn't sound like he cares for you.
And since you are a single parent........Be careful. You sure don't want your children involved in this mess. If it becomes nasty and your ex-husband gets involved (his kids?) you are at risk of loosing your children.
Is it worth a few text messages and a roll in the bed to risk your children?
2007-12-09 14:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by hvn_fun2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're about to wander out of the FWB zone, smack-dab into the middle of messy-relationshipsville. (Unless you happen to be fortunate enough that he feels the same way you do.) Either way this progresses (and I certainly wish you all the best), knowing more about him is a necessary first step, so slow your roll just a little bit and endeavor to do just that. Good luck to you, and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-09 14:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing weird about love. Just keep in mind, while it sounds like you've fallen for him, how does he feel about you? You could be setting yourself up to get hurt. Why texting instead of talking on the phone?
2007-12-09 14:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's kind of how it was when i met my current boyfriend when i was working/dancing at the club. i didn't really know him, and i was just doing my work like always but i felt this attraction to him, even though he's more than 30 years older than i am. we're still together and i'm very happy. so i guess the answer to your question is yes it's happened to me and i kept with it
2007-12-09 14:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffani S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you want to be more than fwb with him. sounds like you want a real relationship, but maybe he doesn't. you need to talk with him about that. if he's not ready for a real relationship with you, then GET OUT! there's no sense in getting hurt. :)
2007-12-09 14:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♫How does she know?♫ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are physically attracted to him...sex can be addictive when its good.
Lucky dude, a few text message and he gets laid. I wish I could find a low maintenece chick who puts out like you!
2007-12-09 14:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have had friends with benefits, but I never got attached or wanted them around me for anything but sex.
2007-12-09 14:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He doesnt respect you! "Friends with benefits" sounds so much prettier than "booty call" doesnt it? Lose his number and find someone who wants all of you.
2007-12-09 14:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by blwilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think is right if u want to be a fwb fine if you dont tell him how you feel
2007-12-09 14:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Allison H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋