It's been a while now since i've had a boyfriend. sure i'll have flings with boys and i'll be talking to one, but things never compleaty fill out. i tend to lose intrest real fast in guys, so i move on. i just dont know what to do. i'm real athletic, one of the top students, independent, and i know how to have a good time and live life. it just seems like no guys want me. i also get into situations where i like a guy and he likes me but he has a girlfriend, and i just hate being that 2nd girl. should i lower my standers? ..i just want to be happy.
2007-12-09 06:01:42 · 14 answers · asked by KC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, you don't need a boyfriend to make you happy, only you can make you happy; there is nothing wrong with being single...secondly, you sound like you have a lot going for you and maybe your independence and pride show and guys can sense that you are complete and dont need them in your life
2007-12-09 06:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The young have ever felt thusly. You say you are "real athletic, one of the top students, independent, and i know how to have a good time and live life". But then you say you just want to be happy. Do you think your standards are too high, to consider lowering them?
Mrs. Guy and I (married 33 years) believe that there is someone out there for everyone, and eventually you will find each other.
2007-12-09 14:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are having flings, maybe you should raise your standards if having a fling means being sexually active with them. Guys really aren't interested for very long if a girl who they know has sex loses interest then moves on. You may have a reputation that you aren't aware of with the guys at your school if you are doing this. I do not know what grade you are in, but nowadays it seems that couples do not last as long as they use to. Besides, I totally agree with the others that are telling you that you do not need a boyfriend to make you happy. In fact sometimes it does the opposite.
2007-12-09 14:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you might have stated the cause of your problem in your question: you give up and move on too fast. Do you actually want a boyfriend, or do you just want boys to be interested in you? There's a big difference. Nothing wrong with being single, of course, but if you want a relationship, you have to make some effort to get out there and get to know guys. If you act totally aloof and unavailable, guys aren't going to bother with you for long.
2007-12-09 14:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me that guys are a bit hesitant to go out with you if your track record with dating is like what you described in your question: "i tend to lose interest real fast in guys, so i move on" what guy is going to want to spend his time and energy getting to know you when you will more than likely get bored with him, lose interest and move on. I think since you are still young (and in school...am I right?) then you should just focus on your studies and athletics since that is what you enjoy. If you aren't seen trying to flirt it up with a ton of guys all the time, then the "worthwhile guys" will not feel so intimidated by you and may want to get to know you better. I don't want you to think that no guys want you...just take a closer look at yourself and what you are offering. If you were interested in a particular guy but his reputation on dating was like yours...would you be very willing to take the risk? Work on trying to change a few things on your end and then I would bet money that guys would be more interested. Good luck.
2007-12-09 14:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you lose interest in guys quickly, then it's probably for the best that you aren't in a relationship at the moment. It doesn't mean that you won't grow out of that, but it's honestly very possible that you're just either adventurous or you have really high standards that no guy can live up to.
if you're sorta like that, then it's very possible that you just see a guy with a girlfriend as a challenge, and as soon as he were to break up with her for you, you would realize that you don't actually like him and you really don't have any interest in him.
You'll probably grow out of it in a few years, but until then just hang with friends and enjoy yourself with any encounters with guys. No rush into relationships. It's probably best off for most people if they don't get into a bunch of relationships before they're ready; 2 week relationships really aren't good for anything except 2 weeks of sex.
2007-12-09 14:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't need a guy in your life in order to be happy. Look for things that other than guys that make you happy. It could be community service, it could be some creative outlet, it could be a sport. When you are able to be happy without a boyfriend, that'll likely be when you catch the interest of some guy.
2007-12-09 14:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys like to know that they fill a needed role in a girl's life. It helps relationships if there are complimentary strengths and weaknesses in the partners.
Where one partner has it 100% together, a potential mate may very well say "Hey, no room for me here ....."
Happens a lot.
2007-12-09 14:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by marty p 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it will take a while till u find a right BF if ur not intersested in any its not the right time normal age when bpeople find a GF or BF is around 14-15 and up
2007-12-09 14:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by xxxrub3nxxx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all don't lower your standers, you deserve the best.
second of all you got to believe in yourself, sounds very hackney and stupid but it works.
first thing you should do is love who you are, don't have doubts about yourself and believe you deserve the best, and then go out there with that feeling and try meeting new people don't be shy let them know who you are, and in the end love will come and you'll find what your looking for.
2007-12-09 14:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by ofek 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋