I was just wondering was you guys think. We're getting married soon but the ring is not important to me but everyone's been telling me that it's his MORAL OBLIGATION (basically) for him to buy me an engagement ring before we get married. What do you think?
2007-12-09 05:26:55 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't think rings are necessary at all and the whole idea of a big wedding is repugnant to me. Your marriage is your personal business and you don't have to wear ring or spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on a ceremony for everyone else to enjoy. It's about making a lifetime committment to each other and you don't need VVS stones for that. Tell your friends to mind their own business.
2007-12-11 04:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by rachel m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A moral obligation does not make something mandatory. If it were mandatory, you would not be permitted to marry without the ring.
As for whether it is a moral obligation, only the two of you can decide that. If he asks you to marry him without a ring, you can say yes if you like (as you did). You have obviously accepted his terms. :)
A ring is just a symbol, after all.
2007-12-09 05:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by PhotoJim 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
congratulations! An engagement ring is not an absolute necessity in order to be married, but the ring is a symbol of the promise of marriage and It is also a symbol of the commitment to join as one in a lifelong relationship as husband and wife.
The act of wearing an engagement ring lets other men know that the woman’s feelings are “engaged by somebody else.”
2007-12-09 05:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I' not sure yo. Personally I don't think it's mandatory. People just do it as a sign of their commitment. But I don't think it's a must. Hell I bought an engagement ring for a woman I was going to marry in the past and in the end, she ended up giving it back to me...dang
2007-12-09 05:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by ID 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't mandatory for him to buy an engagement ring. If it doesn't matter to you whether you get one then the money might be better spent if you put it toward a down payment on a house or something else useful in your married life.
Felicitations on your upcoming wedding :)
2007-12-09 05:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by K. F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have an engagement ring, it can be a good thing that he hasn't got u one yet, because when you go and choose a wedding ring, u can get the engagement ring to match it, (these days u can buy rings as a set), and if your still married in ten years time u can hit him up for an eternity ring too!
2007-12-09 10:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by shorti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no moral obligation and it is not mandatory in any way.
As long as it is YOU who doesn't care about rings or jewelry. And not that it is him being cheap about it. That would be a signal.
If you really want a ring for whatever reason, and he is telling you it isn't mandatory, red flag.
2007-12-09 05:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a bunch of HOOEY.
You and he are getting married, and by now you know what the financial condition of your situation is. IF he can afford such a purchase, AND if you think it is important, then sit down and have a chat about it. Othewise, put on your Smart Hat and focus on things that truly are important.
Traditionally engagement rings are a SIGNAL to predatory males - you be taken, stay away, my guy can afford to marry me, and all that stuff. I am not sure you need that.
The two of you can make decisions like this. When your friends make comments, invite them to mind their own business.
Do you FEEL loved and valued? THAT'S important.
2007-12-09 06:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by Der Lange 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that says you have to have an engagement ring. Him allowing you two to set a date would be commitment enough, in my view.
The whole "2 months salary" thing is an advertising gimmick made by the diamond/jewelry industry that just stuck.
It is appropriate to have a wedding band for each of you, however. A simple gold band would suffice.
2007-12-09 05:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by jjudijo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think an engagement ring is important. you are getting married because you love each other not because he got you a ring. =)
i did not have an engagement ring and me and my husband have been married for almost 8 years.
if its not important to you.. dont do it.. it doesnt matter what other people say you should do!
<3
2007-12-09 05:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by Hazards Of Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋