pursued me and lavished attention - everything wz wonderful - until I texted him FU. I now recall he said to not ever say this to him in the past... i am not a crazy, rarely say FU but his behavior really sent me..... he is very driven, in sales, stressful job... probably he is a control freak and I now realize he has probably heard this from women in the past... there are likely control, & anger issues and i will likely back off from him anyway ... he will not answer my calls/texts. i stopped yesterday after a couple of calls/texts/apologizes, he had siad we would talk about this during the weekend but he hz cut off all contact. IS- it over and this is his way of telling me? he teaching me a lesson?control by silence? he is seeing how i handle the silence? or he is trying to figure it all out before he calls? i'm not contacting him again - it his txt to me after F U txt was" very very bad move. me no like F U. no way I deserved that.. will he call? bizarre behavior..
2007-12-09 05:03:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sent him the ultimate turn off. Learn by your mistakes and delete that phrase from your vocabulary in dealing with any future boyfriends (or, indeed, anyone).
Content yourself with knowing that he was probably too good for you. If you are concerned about people being 'controlling' by being silent, then you haven't grown up yet.
2007-12-09 05:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, to be honest, think maybe he liked someone before a lot but now you changed his mind and he isn't really sure if he should go out with you because he wants to know its you he wants and not someone else. It also may be that you've been friend zoned in a way where he likes you but he knows it won't last forever and he can't decide if your friendship is more important to him or not. I would try not to throw yourself at him as much, because it essentially sounds like you worship the ground he walks on while he is on the fence about giving you a second glance (not exactly but just a metaphor) Of course, show you're still interested. I've never understood why girls think they can really make a guy jealous by playing hard to get, if he's on the fence and you don't show any interest what so ever he'll walk away no problem, believe me. Good luck, it seems like you love him but you are most definitively not IN love with him. You are really only in love with one person in your life (if you are lucky) so be careful and try to have fun with your childhood :) sounds like he really cares about you.
2016-05-22 08:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, not that this is how he is, but this is what I have experienced in the past. He is using this incident as an out. He needs it to be that you are the bad guy and so he doesn't have to end it, so any little f*%k up that you do is his entitlement to act a fool and treat you like s*&t. I would watch the behavior to see if he attacks you for little things, if this is the case he is trying to get your goat so that you will do or say something to offend him so he can get mad and spend time away, in the meantime he is off screwing around behind your back and you are home worried because omg, I shouldn't have said or did that now what??? It's all a mind game...be careful...
2007-12-09 05:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by KellyG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he can say whatever he wants and treat people however he likes, but if someone dares to call him on his bad behavior, he hurts them with silence. I would look for him to get scared that he's losing you, should you choose to go silent [which you should at this point, there isn't much you can do after you apologize] and then he'll try to win you back either with kindness and sweetness or with insults aimed towards you. He kind of sounds like a mean person who cannot admit that he is a bad boyfriend and his sensitivity leads him to be even more mean than ever. You're better off without him. Put your profile up on a dating site and meet someone who isn't such a psycho. He obviously deserved what you said and he knows it but wants you to take the fall for his bad behavior. Don't do it. Dump him.
2007-12-09 05:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by Aiden 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you mentioned several times about his control issues .sounds to me you know exactly what hes doing .hes got you all wrked up and he knows it ..do NOT give in .you made a mistake ,you apologized ,thats all you can do .if he was or is at all serious abou this realtionship he will get over it .if not let him go .he can have this drama with someone else .some one whos willing to sit around and worrie and wonder ..omg is he mad ,what can i do ,what DID i do .blah blah blah ..i know 4 months seems like a long time ..BUT 4 months from now you can be in a much better place ...this is just my 2 cents .take it with a grain of salt
2007-12-09 05:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he told you to never say that to him..and you did then chances are you struck a nerve. Just back off.. if he calls then he does if he doesn't then you probably really upset him. I don't think control or seeing how you handle things are a part of it he's probably just mad or offended that you said it, especially after he told you not to. And if he really is trying to do anything like that then you're better off without him anyway.
2007-12-09 05:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive gone past the line before... but we take a few days to cool off... and then I would call and apologize. And try to never say something disrespectful again. Some people cross the line and its ok... its normal... if you do it constantly then thats different. he should forgive you and not act like such a kid. Its not like you actually went into his face and said it. That would be a bit harsh.
2007-12-09 05:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you started it by sending him an FU text. He is probably pissed off. Some people think that is just as bad as spitting in your face! Let him cool off and apologize for the nasty text.
2007-12-09 05:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like being told to FU by my girlfriend, but he'll get over it. Just keep calling him periodically to say you care, and give him some time. He's probably overwhelmed right now, and needs some space. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't call him to apologize, and tell him about your day on his voicemail. Let him know that you still care for him.
2007-12-09 05:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by kusheng 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He should atleast contact you to let you know where he is.. he may be cheating... but if everything was fine then why did you tell him F U? i know you did it out of anger but i think just wait til he calls you don't text him don't call him because it seems like your obsessed if you do... let him make the move and try and do something so your not distracted by this...good luck
2007-12-09 05:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋