my grandpa is not eating anything or drinking anything or taking his pills. He says he wants to die. we tried calling 911 and they brought the paramefics but my grandpa yelled at them to get out and if they touch him theen they will have a fight on their hands. everyone is worried. my aunt flew down from seattle yesterday and everyone has tried talking to him out of it except me and my cousin Jamie and we are supposed to talk to him today. I don't know what to say or do or feel. They have already picked out his suit and talked about taking out the carpet and replacing it and selling the cars and i'm scared. and my birthday is next week.
2007-12-09 04:46:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
"I love you" and a big hug.
He's an Adult and it can be hard to tell him what he wants. Just love him anyway and cherish the time you have left with him. Lectures aren't going to change his mind. Show him love that will do more then any amount of talking. Just have fun spending time with him. Don't feel like the is the end. He may change his mind. But you never know when ANYONE's time is up. Even if he started eating and taking his pills. Life is short, even though he feels it has been long enough. Enjoy the time you have with him.
Good Luck, and I'm sorry, but I know what you're dealing with.
2007-12-09 04:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hugs and prayers to you and your family. I don't have much advise, but perhaps you should turn on the TV and get some DVDs with comedy. Offer your grandpa sweets. Many older adults facing their last days seem to love sweets, especially if they aren't supposed to have them as part of their diet. It's like rebellion for them. My grand-mother would pass up dinner and insist on cookies. My 85 year old neighbor will have jelly sandwiches and orange soda. She has always hated soda and wouldn't let her daughters have it growing up. But she loves it now. Play some old music from your grandpas "good ol' days". Maybe he is just tired and finds no reason to live. If this doesn't work, don't blame yourself. This is not your responsibility. Just spend time with your grandpa and hold his hand and talk about the things going on in your life. If he can dance, ask him to dance. He can dance from his chair if you just dance around the room to the oldies. I hope this helps......my prayers are with you. With love, Clay
2007-12-09 04:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by Clay G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 04:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to have a reason to live. Find something to engae his time and make him feel valuable. Look into outings for elderly at the YMCA, library, church. Let him learn new things, introduce him to the Internet and let him find something he likes to do on the internet. If you can buy him a wii, my company runs nursing homes, we have found that the wii has rfenewed intrests with those with limited phyiscal ability, the bowling and boxing game can increase their range of motion of ability and they love it.
Have grandpa volunteer to do the readings for children at the libraray. He needs to feel wanted and needed, everyone does.
You can also get him a pet.
2007-12-09 04:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the police can do something if he is suicidal. Call them and ask that a mental health hold be placed on your grandfather.
Also call your local office for the Aging and get thier advice. Good Luck.
2007-12-09 06:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by fnd40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about this. I have worked in Assisted Living for Seniors and we have these situations all the time. We are always told by families and their friends that it's their decision and they know when it's time to go. Maybe he's hurting inside that none of you are all aware of. Maybe the pain is too much for him to stand?
Don't forget to tell him how much he means to you.
I always tell people that they have lived their life to the fullest and when they sleep, that they are finally happy. *Wishing the best for your family.*
2007-12-09 04:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by s.omner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know his situation, nor do i know you. but when an elderly person wants to go, they want to go. they dont want to live in the pain and misery they're in. its just as if you were dying and you had no legs and you couldnt use your arms, how would you feel. talk to him about it. ask him his reasonings. my grandma did the same thing. it sucks, but its gotta happen, you'd rather them die and be painless than live and be constantly hurting.
2007-12-09 04:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by xyourxmyxonexandxonlyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your birthday have to do with this situation? Some adult in your family should be talking to his doctor.
2007-12-09 05:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you tak to him try to make him talk more not to listen to you
ask him about his problem and prmise him to be a good help
I feel so sorry for you
2007-12-09 04:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Shy One . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be just tired, why we get old and our spouse is gone, you just get tired. Be as supportive as you can, and let him know you love him.
2007-12-09 05:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋