Like the above states, I just found the guy that I Iike is gay. Not only that, but he is going out with one of my guy friends. They've only been going out for a few days. This is just according to another one of my guy friends that they're gay, but some of the things they were doing (feeding each other, arms around one another, sitting too close, etc.) makes me believe that they are.
I feel like a, inadequate human being who will never be worthy of love. I'm feeling so many things right now and I don't know what to do. I want to go up to him and ask him if him and the other guy are really going out, and then I'm going to ask him to just be quiet and listen to me. I think I'm going to tell him that I liked him and that I apologize (b/c i kept hitting on him) because I had no idea and that I hope he and his boyfriend are happy together. I think that's the only way I will get to move on.
2007-12-09 04:26:25 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be careful. Your other guy friend might have told you he was gay as he wants you! I would ask the "maybe gay" guy if he likes boys or girls. If the answer is what you suspect, you can move on.
2007-12-09 04:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Alli*LOVES*Artie*Lange 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be so silly! I know you might be hurt and upset right now, but everyone goes through a stage where they think they are in love (usually though its only just a crush) with someone unobtainable! There is someone out there for everyone and you will get over the guy you like eventually. I think talking to him and explaining how you feel is a good idea and that it will probably help you, plus the boy will be able to comfort you and make things easier. You will probably end up being better friends (even if its not what you want right now). Go watch Will and Grace. Poor Grace was in love will Will but he was gay and now they are best friends. Its a very funny show, and it might help you to cheer up!
Finally im sure you are a beautiful young woman with plenty of opportunity to find the person right for you, and who will love you and like you back just as much. Just don't rush it, someone always comes along when you leats expect it!
2007-12-09 04:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just say nothing and leave it alone. He was unaware of it anyway, and under the circumstances, there's no good reason to bring it up. Unavailable is unavailable, no matter why that's the case.
This in no way makes you an inadequate person, in fact it has absolutely nothing to do with you. You may THINK this is the only way you'll move on, but I'm sure you're mistaken...you really just want confirmation of your suspicions (but confirmation will not make you feel one bit better, and will likely engage you in an awkward conversation about things that are none of your business anyway.) Just move on by moving on; happiness is ahead of you. Good luck to you, and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-09 04:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel inadequate because your gay-dar is off.
And if you're going to let this one situation throw off an entire lifetime of dating and relationships, then life is going to suck for you. So he's gay??? Oh well! Yeah you embarrassed yourself for hitting on him without knowing. That might not be the first time you'll do that. But eventually you'll find a straight guy who will hit on YOU-- so there won't be any doubts.
2007-12-09 04:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't feel that way
Actually I think what you're planning to do is a great idea rather than doing something immature like probing with questions like why he's gay
(I'm bisexual and both guys and girls have been questioning why I'm 'that way' psh...)
But it's good to have a primary source rather than hearing such and such from another person
Hope this advice helps...
2007-12-09 04:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by GeiSasu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your knight is out there awaiting you somewhere, so don't despair. You will find one another. If you feel the need to talk to this guy, then by all means, go ahead. He will probably appreciate the forwardness and honesty. Especially since you stated that you are willing to wish him well in his relationship. Do what you feel necessary to clear your mind so that you can move on. You deserve it.
2007-12-09 04:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by snowcell77@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a lucky person. Think if you had gone together for several months or years, then you found out. He may really like you as a friend. You could just stay friends, but please don't look for anything more. I'm sure there is the right guy out there for you, you really sound like a sweet person. Good Luck!
2007-12-09 04:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by postal p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you hoping once you confess your feelings for him he will magically turn straight? Because that doesn't normally happen so don't be disappointed when he shrugs it off. If you are telling him just to get it off your mind...by all means go ahead..just ask yourself how that will affect your relationship with him in the future.
2007-12-09 04:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by HatingF8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your a very intellegent person.. yes you should tell him so it's not always on your mind and distracting you of things... if all that is true then just be friends .. i have a guy gay friend and he's a really funny and cool person to hang around with.. but anyways, just tell him maybe it's not true....good luck
2007-12-09 04:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard but its a good lesson learnt- the only good men are gay- straight men are secretly gay - but because they cant come out they treat females like their Mothers.
No fake/
2007-12-09 04:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋