does your partner reach your expectations or did you just settle.
the question stems from the fact that a friend of mine (married) told me that you never get the one close to your "standards" but some times you have to settle.
Is that the case with you?Is the one you have your dream girl/guy or are they a miniature version of it
2007-12-09 04:25:08 · 17 answers · asked by cleo s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear Cleo:
Like the lyrics of the song states:
"You Can't Always 'Get' What You
'Want' ...................
You Get What You 'NEED' !"
Life is Magical!
I think a Flaw in Human Dynamics is
our "Disney-Love" Fantasy Perception!
(More so with young women)
Many live a DREAM of *some~
* "Knight In Shining Armor" ~
* "Prince Charming" SYNDROME!
Then some are Paralzed into INACTION~
by thinking they must just "Settle-On"
Lower Expections!
I think we need to focus on
The Vast Middle Territory!
I.E.~ Get Out Of Fantasy Dreams
of Knights Awaiting~ &
Stay Away from "BAD-Boys"
& settling for Mediocre Relationships!
There is tremendous Depth between
Fantasy Un-Realism, up top~
To Bad Boy Mediocrity at the bottom!
Focus on the middle ground!
That is where you will find Substance
& True Happiness!
This is where you will find your
NEEDS Will Be Met!
("Wants" are a bit too selfish!)
Does this make sense to you~ Cleo
Good Luck!
Have FUN!
Be Positive!
2007-12-09 04:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by LedHead 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some things I just would not settle on. Morals etc. Those expectations where met. I think everybody has the perfect partner in their mind. That won't happen. The perfect person will have some small things that are not perfect for you. I like my wife imperfections. They have made me a better person.
2007-12-09 04:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by djcapron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. I am divorced because I just settled. She was not really close to what I wanted but I was young and thought I could make myself happy. It doesnt work like that.
I think you will not find someone perfect to your expectations but if you are patient you can find someone who will be special enough to ignore the things you were hoping for.
2007-12-09 04:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by Google Rules! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Settling is the wrong word. I think compromising is a better word. I have never met anyone who is perfect in my eyes.. remember perfection is a relative term... meaning something different to each of us. So you compromise a little... you don't settle.
2007-12-09 04:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope I do not settle. I am dating a guy right now but in my heart I know I do not want to marry him.
I will just make a major decision soon to move on. I've always heard never settle, there is someone out there for you. I want a guy who is always in love with me and shows it!
2007-12-09 04:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never had an ideal...I just met a man one day and knew that he was the one for me...before that I never even thought about "standards" or a list of requirements....I dated men and had a couple of long term relationships...then met the right one.
2007-12-09 04:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only negative thing I can say is my man gets too defensive when we fight, it escalates to a level I never wanted it to go. But other than that he's everything I've ever wanted from a man... He's handsome, sexy, smart, sweet, and he loves me, what more could I ask for?
2007-12-09 04:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
people are not perfect.. in fact, there is nothing that is perfect except god..
usually your dream guy or girl will be the one who is perfect in your eye..
but in reality for sure your loved ones is the closest standard to your dream guy/girl..
2007-12-09 04:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by princesschaermaine_pinkflux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect someone to meet all your expectations. When you love someone, you love them for everything they are. Including their faults and differences. I wouldn't call it "settling". It's just the way things go. You take people for who they are.
2007-12-09 04:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-07 20:08:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋