abusive ex boyfriend?

Question

i am 21 yrs old and just got otta a bad realationship . my ex boyfriend bit me all over my arms bcuz i slapped him in the face for trying to have sex with me while i was crying becuz he broke up with me.........hes kinda sick in the head well my mom was watching from the window i got outta the car finally and was acting like i was gonna throw my coffee on him but he kicked it outta my hands then my mom called the cops the cops r pressing charges .now my ex b4 that called me telling me my ex boyfriend is trying to get him to testify and tell every 1 that im crazy......y am i crazy? yea for outting up with that crap....y do abusive guys never think its there fualt...y is this my fualt he has a history of hitting me he has left bruises the size of my palm all over my legs just becuz i want to go to piolet skol he threw a lipton bottle thro my car window and sharrtered it ...what the heck is his problem? and when it comes time to go to court do u guys think he will be put away.

the cops are the ones pressing charges.........at the time i didnt want nothing to do with this.....but now that "brad"s calling my exboyfriend for help im kikinda pissed hes telling him im this horrible person but he dosent belive him or n e thing he knows this guys a puss he acually beat him up b 4 so y in the hell is brad my ex calling my other ex after he already beat him y does brad think my ex would help him ? is he that stupid

thanks guys .................i call the cop that is handleing all this and he never really get back to me sometimes i think i will never get justice.... but i do have a girlfriend that is gonna go into his work he works at a gas station and pretend that she want to go out on a date with him and then when he come out for this little date hes gonna be surprised to see my big *** cousin standing there waiting to punch him the face

thankx for all the responses.......ive talked to alot of ppl about this and the sad truth is that he really belives he did nothing wrong.. so even if we do go to court hell never really learn his lesson and when my cousin does beat him up maybe he still wont get y..............and that sux

trust me i understand there is obviously something wrong with me ....that i ever even datede this person....but i think i thought shitty of my self and humbled myself to be with him becuz i really didnt think i could do better

thanx every 1 for ur support i really appriciate it im not gonna pick a best answer becuz u all were pretty right and u all were sincere thanx again

Answer 1

Put a bullet to his head.

Answer 2

It might seem harsh but It's also your fault for coming back to him time after time. If you know he was abusive from the 3rd or 4rth ddate in your life, then you shouldn'jt have ever contact him or be near him. You should have gone the other way and reported to the police EARLIER. Yes, it is his problem but the only person that can really help you is you, remove yourself from the situation. No one is preventing you but your abusive boyfriend. It really goes to show how weak human nature is. Take pictures of your body right now and reported to the police. If he can get a gone and shoot you, then he'll just kill you next time. Also, move away from where you live with your mom. Go somewhere else you'll never see him again and live your normal life. Abusive guys don't know the different between right or wrong, something psychology is wrong with them and if you think you can change them, then your wrong.

Answer 3

Any woman that stays in that type of relationship has serious image issues. Dominant men find your weaknesses and exploit them, making it that much harder to leave. They ruin your self-esteem, make you question your self-worth, and generally reduce your ego to nothing. Given all that, it becomes increasingly more difficult to leave that relationship because the woman will feel like she can't do any better, and in some cases will actually feel that they deserve the abuse they are forced to take. The bottom line is that nobody is better than anyone else. Nobody deserves to be abused, mentally or physically. Men who treat women that way are actually weaker than the women they hurt. There are lots of men out there who will treat women as they should be treated... with respect. There is absolutely no benefit to being in an abusive relationship. Those small fleeting moments of happiness when he does something nice are all negated by all the badness. I hear women say "but he does the nicest things for me" or "he loves me". If he loved you, he would treat you as an equal and not as a punching bag, physical or otherwise. Leaving a relationship can be a scary thing. And with your self-esteem ruined, you will have doubts as to whether you can meet someone else. The first thing you have to do is rediscover yourself. Think of yourself as the person you once were, and the person you want to be. If you act as though you are the person you want to be... Eventually, it won't be an act.

Answer 4

hmm. history of abuse, your mother a witness to this, an ex tellinging the ex to testify of his behalf. Sweetheart go into that court, with full confidence, and don't u let him stare u down. Judge will put him away, after you tell him of all the time u took his abuse because u loved him, and hoped to help him get better, as there is mental problem with him.
He calls you craZy, Well get all those who know and don't like him, to testiy, that he's the crazy one.

Do you have the guts, or do you care about your selfrespect encough to go throught then only take action. Otherwise any half heart action is just gona make him more angry and crazy.

If not, just say sorry to the guy, and just be glad he is breakingup with you. He could have stayed with you and u would suffer abuse all your life. GET OUT, GET TOUGH AND GET A GOOD EDUCATION!

Answer 5

We can only hope he is put away to get some mental help . BUT with the court system today you have a 50/50 chance of him going to jail . The reason he says it is your fault is he has a mental problem and nothing that happens to him is his fault no matter who or what did it . I have know allot of theses guys and it always someone else who did it to them . When you get to court be honest and when you have to look at him look him in the eye do not turn away . You have to show that you are in control of your life now not him . You can do it just believe in yourself as much as we do . Go into that court room and take back your life from him and walk out a stronger woman .

Answer 6

make sure you have your Mom take pictures of all the marks on you so you have evidence and even go to the doctor and get them to report it if need be. Atleast you will have witnesses. Staying calm during the hearing is you best bet. You are the victim here and act the part. Don't give the judge any reason to feel you are partially at fault here. Do not act out of anger. Just stay calm and answer his questions.

Answer 7

i feel so terribly sorry for you.... its so upsettin to even read... you must hav been through hell... for him, i can only put it in simple words, Drag him to Jail, Court, Mental Hospital.. wherever possible, and rather to all of the above.. If u let him go, then i would say u dont respect yourself, and you will put another one in your shoes soon.. He needs some brains, and only Law can put it in his empty head... Girl stand up and fight. Show him that you were not born to take his ****. For any emotional support, ever, pl do get back...
Once you teach him good lessons, it time to focus on u then... but first make sure he reaches where he deserves to be...

do take good care of yourself..

god bless you.

Answer 8

You women put yourself in these bad situations and then start crying how horrible this guy is. He didn't wake up and start punching you, he work up to it. The signs were there and you allowed him to take the next step. It's your fault, because you allowed yourself to get in this bad relationship. I don't feel bad for you, you did this to yourself. You said; "Your not pressing charges the police is." first; it is the State that moves this forward.The reason the State takes over, is women like you allow these dirt bags to get away with this abuse. If they didn't take over, he would get away with it and move on to the next person. It's women like you always crying about how you are being treated then don't do anything about it. You just want somebody to feel sorry for you. I am not one of them. You are weak and stupid. If a man is hitting you and you take it, stay with him and do nothing, you deserve it. Next time stand up for yourself and stop acting like a victim, if he hits you take a bat to his head... it that simple. Stop letting others fight your battles. This is your bed that you made, now lay in it.

Answer 9

You need to look at your self also ......yes get this guy put away.... but you need to ask your self why you did not leave the FIRST time he showed any aggression toward you.
No one deserves to be treated like this , but you responded to his actions with violence also (or threat of it) you just needed to get away and call the police, as for your mom
just how long did she just stand there and watch this scene unfold? Sounds like some family counseling is in order and get this guy and all other scum like him out of your lives!

Answer 10

First, if he did that before, like you said, there is a 'history of him hitting you' my god what else do you need? why are you going back with him? does anybody really need to tell you what to do? c'mon! you are 21 not 14 girl! and if we advise you to do something.....are you really gonna do it? or CAN do it? maybe the one that needs to be put away... in counseling... its you, don't get me wrong, I mean...your self-esteem, if you work on it ( with help) you are going to start seeing things more clearly BY YOURSELF, that's the best way of fixing things, and keep them that way, a learning experience that will stay with you forever. Good luck girl, and take care.

Answer 11

Hi Lisa M.

First of all ur ex boyfriend is not a tru man.

1.Man shall never hit a woman no matter how crazy or not.
2,I think this scum bag of a punk loser needs to get his sry azz in a bootcamp.....So the drill instrutor can make him feel like a srry candy azz punk as he is........