i've caused my family to have a huge fight and now i feel horrible
the fight was over (don't laugh) hannah montana tickets
my family was all gathered around the computer waiting for the bid to end on ebay and...we had won!
than we realized it was the wrong date, we bid for tickets on the date we cldnt go...and we won
my mom was very upset because she was against us going away, and we ended up spending $950 on tickets we can't even use
my dad suggested that since my mom and him can't go that day
we could get friends parents or our 21 year old cousins to take us
but my mom got very mad because the day of the concert is also the day of an xmas party she's throwing
she started yelling
so she suggested that we donate the tickets to a charity
she also said that because of this mistake we have ruined all our chances of going to the concert
this concert means the world to my sister and i
i dont kno how she cld crush our dreams
our family is wealthy, we cld donate the tix and purchase others
2007-12-09 03:48:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but she said we have no chances of going now!
my dad got angry because he knew how much it meant to me
my mom started yelling that he will stop at nothing to give his KIDS what he wants but not HER
than she started to cry and my dad got mad and left the house and drove away
i went up to my mom and told her how i thought this was my fault (i was watchin the ebay bid) and that i had found some places we chld donate but she said
I'LL HANDLE IT YOU'LL NEVER EVER SEE THOSE TICKETS IN YOUR LIFE
i'm very upset about this, i feel bad because
1. i wasted my family's money
2. i caused my family to fight
3. i ruined my sister and i's chances of seeing our idol and favorite singers
and 4. i took those tickets away from some one who could have really wanted them
basically, i feel horrible
how do i resolve this?
what would you do?
please help
2007-12-09 03:56:21 · update #1
so none of you would allow us to get other tickets for the day we COULD go?
2007-12-09 04:37:00 · update #2
EVEN if we purchased the absoloute worst, CHEAPEST tickets in the venue?
(we just really want to be there!!!!!!!)
2007-12-09 04:39:53 · update #3
{{{HUGS}}} I'm really sorry you're having such a rough time right now.
As the parents, your mom and dad are the ones who had the responsibility of reading EVERY DETAIL of the auction to make sure they were getting what they wanted. Since you're a minor, I assume it's their eBay account, too, so they're doubly at fault for not reading the fine print. In fact, you can read this on eBay's rules--make sure you really, really want the item, and that it meets your requirements, before placing a bid.
You now have a few options:
1.) Donate the tickets to a charity, as your mom suggested.
2.) Try to sell the tickets (realizing that you'll probably take a loss, but at least you'll get some of the money back).
3.) See if someone can take you to the concert. Granted, you'll miss the family Christmas party, but there will be plenty of other parties in the future, whereas the concert will be a once-in-a-lifetime thing. Your mom should quit complaining and consider this a Christmas present to you. You won't be a kid much longer and she'll regret being mad at you for something that is ultimately her and your dad's fault (because they should have paid better attention to the auction details).
Whatever you decide, learn a lesson from this--ALWAYS READ THE FINE PRINT. If someone had taken a few moments to make sure the date was correct, this wouldn't be happening now.
edit: Reading your additional details, it seems like your parents have personal issues that go beyond anything you did or didn't do. The fact that your mom is saying things like, "You'll spend money on the kids but not me" is a big hint that there are other problems in the background, ones that you might not be aware of. STOP BLAMING YOURSELF. It isn't your fault if your parents can't act like mature adults and solve their problems without screaming at each other like babies throwing a tantrum. Like I said, THEY are the grown-ups, THEY should have read the auction description thoroughly. It's easy for a kid to let their excitement get the best of them and not pay attention to the fine print, but they should be more level-headed. Also, they shouldn't make promises that they don't intend to keep. By buying the tickets, they made the promise of letting you go to the concert, and now they're backing down because of THEIR mistake. Unfortunately, you might not get to go to the concert, but life is full of disappointments that we can't change. Just stay out of their way for awhile. Maybe your mom will calm down and change her mind.
2007-12-09 04:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by Antique Silver Buttons 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, just because your family is wealthy is not an excuse for wasting money. Now, if you believe you caused your family to have a huge fight, and you feel horrible, why are you not willing to do something about this? The solution is simple: Tell your mom that you are sorry for behaving so selfishly, and you will go to her Christmas party, and you will go graciously. Or you can act like a spoiled rich kid, believing that your parents owe you $950 concert tickets, in which case you will learn nothing about the value of family, and the spirit of Christmas. If you truly feel horrible, then do the right thing. If you only feel horrible because you won't get to see the concert, then you really don't deserve such a gift from your parents.
2007-12-09 04:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's sad. You should donate the tickets and buy other ones. Make sure your there for your mother's party and do everything you can to make it a success. Hanna Montanna will pass. Believe it or not some day you'll be telling this story to some one and say, "Why I was so set on that silly concert I'll never know." It will happen. There will be lots of concerts. But you only have one mom, and some day she won't be there. It's easier for you to believe that your mom will be there and this Hanna deal is the end of the world. Please stop crying and just love your family. Be mature and keep all the superficial things in perspective. Your mother is so important, make sure your good to her.
2007-12-09 03:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by MessieJessie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
must be nice to have that much money to throw around for some tickets i would be able to give my 2 yr old nephew a great christmas with what you spent on that instead he will have nothing because i can't afford to buy anything not even christmas eve dinner. so why don't you see if you can trade them or something like that and don't sweat the small stuff. your upset because of a concert when there is plenty of other people out here going through alot worse than you try thinking about that.
2007-12-09 03:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by LOVE4ME 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Donate the tickets, as you said you could afford it. It will make some others that couldn't affort to go otherwise very happy, and in turn take away some of the hurt at your house.
In the meantime, purchase some others, but make sure that Mom and Dad are in on it. (But if it's a bad mistake to mention any more tickets right now, be the adult and forego the concert altogether).
2007-12-09 03:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, just re sell the tickets. have a family meeting have a group hug and point no fingers. Hey you know that there will be other "Hannah Montanas" she is just an engineered superstar that is being used to make a few people filthy rich. Enjoy the thought of the gift that your family was prepared to spend 950 dollars on, by the way that is just insane that can cover rent for two months for some people.
2007-12-09 04:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Canuck1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try and keep some perspective. Donate the tickets or sell them. Concerts are not important. Being a good person is.
2007-12-09 03:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness sweetie, i am so sorry. fighting with family is never good and i know how badly it hurts. give the tickets to a charity (hannah montanna will have another concert but you don't want to risk your family for the tickets.) Your mom overreacted and so did your dad. i mean you tried to apologize and she yelled at you.
all i can say is to donate the tickets and apologize to your family. in no way is this your fault. you didnt purposely waste their money and donating the tickets to a cahrity will make everyone feel better. good luck and god bless!
2007-12-09 04:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by MissSamanthaAnne 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the first answer, if you paid that much for the tickets on ebay when the concert gets closer resell the tickets on ebay, you might even make a profit.
2007-12-09 03:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by john d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point as I see is not the price of tics just now.
Just a family ego issue.
so let it cool. When you grow up, you will realise such things are not the end of the World. Howsoever you wanted to see it, it does not matter as much as love for family.
Had you not made an issue of it, it would have resolved itself; maybe Mummy would have said, let the kids go...
Say sorry to Mummy whenshe is in a better mood. Things will work out.
2007-12-09 04:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋