Is This Wrong?

Question

Well i have a friend with benefit and we do stuff all the time. and last night after he left i asked him out. but he said "he doesnt want any relationships". i guess thats ok, but i still want to do stuff with him, and im pretty sure he wants to too. is that bad? should i just blow off the fact that he doesnt want to date me?

Answer 1

That isn't "bad", he was honest with you. Just let him know you still want to do things because you have fun with him. Some people prefer to stay unattached for whatever reason.

Answer 2

This is the main drawback to having Friends with Benefits.
Eventually someone is going to want to make a relationship out of it. If the other person doesn't want to then you are at risk of destroying the friendship.

You have two choices as I can see,
1: Forget about him emotionally and keep him as your friend (with benefits of course)
2: Tell him you want to date him exclusively.
At this point you have already crossed the line and will most likely not be able to continue the friends, or benefits part.

Answer 3

If you still want to do stuff with him, yes, you should just blow off the fact that he doesn't want to date you. He must like you, or at least your body, if he's doing stuff with you, and if you don't find anything wrong with it, there's nothing wrong with it. It's just a matter of whether you feel bad about it or not. If you feel it's wrong, it is. If you feel it's fine, then it is. Be careful if you're going to be persistent about the dating though. You may cause him to lose interest. He might think you've become too much trouble.

Answer 4

So, if he doesn't want any relationships why is he accepting "benefits" from you? I am guessing what the "benefits" are and if I guess correctly the you are allowing him to use you....and as you still want to do stuff with him...you are also using him.
I suspect that you are lacking in self esteem and you may think that by "doing stuff" it'll make you feel better about yourself because you feel that he must like you otherwise he wouldn't want to "do stuff".
For boys and men sex is just that........they can quite happily bonk just because someone makes themself available. It doesn't necessary mean they care about you. And this one clearly doesn't otherwise he'd be dating you rather than a so called friendship with benefits.

Answer 5

It is pretty obvious that he just wants to mess around with you without a commitment. If that's what you want then yeah I guess just ignore the fact that he doesn't want to be official with you. But if you have serious feelings for him then I say just stop fooling around with him and take things slow and maybe he will want to be with you later on down the road. Its just that you have to think about like what if you do continue to fool around without a commitment and he finds someone else that he wants to be in a relationship with, then that puts you in a bad spot. Its obvious that you are probably a little in love with this guy or you wouldn't have asked him out, and what would you do if he did find someone else? That's just something for you to think about.

Answer 6

If he really wanted to date you you would be the girlfriend not just a sex buddy. Maybe its time for you to move on, because you are getting attached to him. What you have is all you are going to get, if you want more you need to find it elsewhere.

Answer 7

depends if your just happy having sex without the relationship. if you are then carry on having fun. if you're not happy then u will probably be best ending it and finding someone new coz otherwise could ruin your friendship

Answer 8

if you like him sex would only be no strings for him. you will be hurting yourself afterwards and you'd feel used. Think about it

Answer 9

Just keep having fun. Sex with no strings is the best way to be!!!