my friend is 12 yrs old and she thinks she is ready to have sex im trying to tell her not too because if she gets pregnant its going to ruin her life but she wont seem to listen to me i know its none of my buisness but i still care about her what should i do only serious answers plz and thanks........
2007-12-09 03:17:01 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she will not listen you need to tell an adult who can make a difference in her life.
I know, but if you actually care about her, it is the only logical thing to do.
Love and blessings Don
2007-12-09 03:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
To start with I think everybody could do with a friend like you :)
You've done right by advising her to wait. Sex is emotional and once your cherries popped thats it, no getting it back.
The legal age for sex is 16 and thats for a reason, under that age your body is still physically developing and so are your emotions.Your friend maybe thinks shes mature enough but even when youre my age sex is still a rollercoaster.
I wouldnt push her too hard about as the more you tell her she shouldnt the more she will want too.
Instead you should maybe suggest looking at other peoples first times, ask somebody whos older that you both trust, most people I know would change the first time, myself included!
Theres isnt just pregnancey either - STD's are now very common.
In the end though, if she wont listen to you there is nothing you can do, you have tried and thats what matters, youre a good friend and have given the support you can, after all said and done no matter what anybody thinks its her decision and dont feel bad if she does go ahead.
Youre a bright young lady, keep yourself that way, more yooung people should be like you ;-)
2007-12-09 03:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. OMG!
2. Ur doing the right thing
Has she got her period yet..If she hasnt she cant get pregnant....
I would do a little reasearch on STD'S and Pregnancy to present to her..
If she had the guts to tell you, the 2 of u must be good friends so you should find out a little more about the situation such as has she found/has in mind a special guy....
Does she really LUV this guy?
Why does she want to do it?
Is it peer preasure?
Are any ppl she hangs around having sex?
If she wont listen I recommend telling her parents.
Tell her parents(mom more than dad) all the details thats u know...But tell them to just have "the talk" with her or something so that she dosent think it was you who told...
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A smart 12 year-old!
2007-12-09 03:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by nuttiebabie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 is way too young...I know telling her parents may help, but she may just rebel and go out a get with whoever...IF you think she would rebel/ runaways, etc. then don't tell her parents. But talk to her and remind her of STD's, pregnancy, and little word - 'slut'. I mention this because she is a kid and kids at school can be really cruel. If she does have sex and people find out she will probably be labeled and that label will likely stick with her till she graduates high school. Maybe even beyond. Maybe that will motivate her not to.
Hell, if nothing else, let her read all the answers here.
2007-12-09 03:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Hikerjoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, amazing how a 12 yr. old can be thinking this. I hate to say it, but there isn't much you can do at this point. If you have already tried to reason with her and gotten no where fast, then she will unfortunately have to take the consequences she gets.
Obviously, something is wrong at home if she thinks this behavior is ok.
If you have a relationship with God, perhaps you can pray for her. Prayer does work and in this case, that is probably the best thing that you can do.
I am glad that you have the sense to know right from wrong and tried to help your friend.
2007-12-09 03:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's wonderful that you care about your friend, and you're doing the right thing by telling her it is wrong. At this age, it is especially wrong, but if you nor someone else can't convince her otherwise, then she will make a mistake if she doesn't have protected sex. If she gets pregnant, it will ruin her life. Try to get her to talk to her mom, or someone else she trusts if it doesn't work when you talk to her.
2007-12-09 03:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 12 years old wow. I say you let her parents know. This is serious. She will be upset at you for telling her parents but your saving her life. When she is older she will truly be thankful that you did what you did. You'll be helping her. Don't worry about what she will think of you when you do because she will come to her senses and realize that your her true friend and she can count on you.
2007-12-09 03:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by I <3 my life!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u trying to do is totally the right thing..
maybe u should give her the pictures of what gonna happen when she got pregnant and her parents mad become mad about it..
getting pregnant at such a young age is a very serious thing.. so,. she should watch out.. a few kiss is no harm... but doing sex is a major business..
tell her that she will not die even if she stays virgin till the age of 40..!!!!
2007-12-09 03:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by princesschaermaine_pinkflux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your business. Because anytime one of your friends is about to do something potentially harmful and or stupid it's your business.And you're a very smart, mature young girl.
Talk to your parents or your mom about what you should do. And as much as I'd hate for you to do this, because you can potentially lose your friend, tell her you will tell her parents.
Sex isn't just a stupid mistake, it's a life altering experience!
It's not about getting pregnant anymore, it's more nowadays. Nowadays I worry more about my kids getting sick than becoming pregnant!
My pint sized friend, you are caught between a rock and a hard place!
Good luck to you!
2007-12-09 03:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you like it or not, please tell your Mom now. I don't know how old you are as you have only given your friend's age. Because she discussed it with you she made it your business.
Tell your Mom, she will have a better idea how to handle this. Believe it or not Moms and Dads are not stupid people they only want the very best for their children and information provided on a timely manner is a very good thing for them to do. They will protect you (whether you think you want protection or not). The love you regardless.
2007-12-09 03:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by MYRA C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would tell her parents and let them handle it. Her parents can protect her, talk to her and educate her. If all else fails they can lock her up! Seriously!
If not is not an option for whatever reason, then I would at least make sure that she will use protection.
If you are a sneaky friend you can make up a bunch of rumors you heard about the guy she wants to sleep with to try to get her to stick her nose up to him. I did it once, when my friend wanted to date this loser. I told her that a girl we didn't like dated him and she said he was cheap, a pig and only dates blonde's for attention (she was a blonde). It worked!
2007-12-09 03:22:30 · answer #11 · answered by Fetch! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋