things that stretch out the ear lobes and he has these two black "earings" surrounded by his ear lobes. Now I have seen this on t.v. before and didn't think it was an attractive look but didn't think that much about it. When this guy came to our table I don't know what came over me but it actually made me nauseated. He was clean, well mannered, and a really good and attentive waiter but I couldn't look at him because it made me sick to my stomach. We haven't been back since then and we used to eat there about once a week. I kept my son from seeing him by distracting him with other things, because my son is the worst if he sees something "gross" the meal is over. Is there anything I can do to help myself get past this sick feeling when I see this guy? I hate that I feel like that because I don't want to seem mean. Thanks.
2007-12-09 02:13:58 · 15 answers · asked by Corona 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Actually we have to drive 30 minutes away to get to this salad bar...
2007-12-09 02:42:37 · update #1
I do act like I always do, polite. I can't help that my stomach gets like that when I see that guy. I am not trying to be rude at all.
2007-12-09 04:50:03 · update #2
Travelle, I have no idea what females have to do with this, but I would imagine my stomach would react the same way no matter who done this type of piercing. If anything, I am not being judgmental because my question is how can I overcome getting sick, dry heaving, nauseated sick when I see this. Maybe how doctors have to prepare themselves for something gross...maybe it is just born in some people whether they have an "iron stomach" or a sensitive stomach. And for a top contributor, you sure are mean.
2007-12-09 06:42:51 · update #3
Don't go back. If you really want to, then immune yourself to it. Look at pictures of that type of piercing until you feel better about it. Show some to your son to get his reaction before you visit again (and try to be as neutral as possible about it, or even positive: kids pick up on subtle clues, and if you don't care around him, he might not). Humans can get used to almost anything, if we're willing to be around it for a bit.
2007-12-09 05:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by random6x7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's only 2 places I know of in the areas I haunt that still have salad bars. One is in the building I work in and it is quite expensive so I only go there when I want their fish or I forget to bring my own lunch. And there's a place in my home neighborhood but the last few times I stopped there, I was very disappointed with their selection--figured I could go better with the stuff I have at home. I love salad bars. And good for you for eating healthy!
2016-05-22 07:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My reaction would mirror yours. Stretched out lobes are not a common sight and I understand how you must have felt.
I agree with others, stop going there particularly if it nauseates you! There are other good restaurants around.
You could drop by a few weeks from now, perhaps he may have moved on.
You are being honest, not mean. You view this as self mutilation which is why is sickens you. Me too.
2007-12-09 03:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How big is the restaurant? Maybe you could politely ask to be seated in an area handled by a different waiter. It might be as easy as saying can we sit over there, near the window (assuming you see he is working a totally different area).
Or you can stop going there.
2007-12-09 02:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by 2007_Shelby_GT500 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't visit San Francisco!
I actually saw a guy who had forked his tounge in the metro in London. I was starring at his 6-12 inch platform boots and 2 foot hair, and then bam! snake tounge.
The "big loops" are nothing. Have you seen a surface piercing on the neck. Ouch!
2007-12-09 02:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think your attitude is judgmental and out of line, 100%. And, I'm an old man, not a kid. If he's clean, well-mannered, etc., this is YOUR problem, not his.
I wonder if you are so judgmental about the appropriateness of what females wear and do?
If you want a suggestion on what to do, stay away from the restaurant until you can behave like an adult and ignore something like this that is none of your business whatsoever. Think I'm rude, sorry, but I think you are out of line.
2007-12-09 06:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You know, I'd just find another place to go. I mean, there are other salad bars, right? Presumably not all of them have waitstaff with earlobes like that, but they will have salad.
2007-12-09 02:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Find somewhere else to eat. I'm not saying this to sound mean, but he has a right to work. Is it possible to find out what his hours are so you could avoid those times?
2007-12-09 02:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by just me 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
When you go to the restaurant you could always try to focus on just his face rather than his ears when he's serving you.
Hope this helps!
2007-12-09 02:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by kittyluvr0223 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be seated in a different section, I would just stop going there. You don't have to feel olbiged to be accepting or tolerant of his fashion; if it bothers you, just eat elsewhere.
Too much policitcal correctness these days.
2007-12-09 03:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by The Cruise 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋