2007-12-09 02:11:09 · 26 answers · asked by NHBaritone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well, perhaps I hurt them too much for them to forgive me right away. I can always hope for the best. If it was a small infraction, or only a perceived infraction, at least I know I tried.
2007-12-09 02:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish you had provided more information, because there could be many different answers, depending on the people involved, the nature of their relationship and the nature of the infraction.
Is it typical for this unforgiving individual to be unforgiving? That should tell you something right there.
Did the infraction grievously and profoundly wound the unforgiving person? Are we talking about a forgotten errand or invitation? Or are we talking about an extramarital affair? Big difference! Deep hurts can take a very long time to heal.
Did the infraction represent a potential threat to the life, safety, security of people, pets, or property? Are we talking about taking someone's children out on the expressway without seat belts on? This is very dangerous to the children! Are we talking about forging or misusing someone else's credit cards? This indicates a serious lack of trustworthiness on your part. Or are we talking about a failure to introduce someone at a party?
If someone asked for my forgiveness for taking my children out in a car without seat belts on, I would probably forgive them, but would never trust them alone with my children again. Would that be considered "unforgiveness"? Maybe, by some. We can still be friends; I'll still be pleasant to you, but you will never again have unsupervised access to my children.
See, it all depends.
2007-12-09 12:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Catherine V. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to accept it. If I have sincerely apologized and they refuse to forgive, there is nothing more I can do.
But forgiveness can be a process. For some it is not easy. So, even if they do not forgive, you can continue to love them and treat them well...always mindful that they are loved by Christ just as you are.
2007-12-09 10:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Misty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have truly repented of the act and went to that individual and asked for genuine forgiveness, then there is nothing else you can do but go on. God can change their heart, and if they are His He will begin to convict them and they will be miserable until they come around. Your part is done now friend, put it in God's hands and move on in peace.
2007-12-09 10:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by dooder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the circumstances. If their refusal to forgive directly affects your life, like they're a boss or something, you may need to go to an intermediary. If it doesn't, just shrug your shoulders and tell them it's on their head now.
2007-12-09 10:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sathya Sai Baba once said to a Lawyer "The Law begins where the Love ends".
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SAI RAM
2007-12-09 11:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by jayakrishnaathmavidya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you feel that way. I have asked you to forgive me and you refuse. The burden is on your head now.
2007-12-09 10:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts, it really does. But if I apologize and they refuse to accept it, there is nothing more I can do except pray for them. Any further contact will just make matters worse.
2007-12-09 10:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would question if I deserved the forgiveness. If not, then I have work to do. If yes, I would forget it and move on.
If you need advice, I can help. email me.
2007-12-09 10:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by Higgy Baby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the person/circumstance....I don't like it, but I have done what I can and only God can show them. Thank God that He forgives us every time we ask.
2007-12-09 10:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by Indy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋