I always had a crush on my ex's best friend, even when we were together. We broke up two years ago, but I recently was lost my apt, and moved into my ex's apt. We sleep in seperate rooms, and their is nothing between us anymore. However, I hooked up with his best friend three months ago, and we have been talking and seeing each other ever since. My ex found out, and was livid, but we were through two years ago! Well, now I cannot see his friend, and we are limited to exchanging emails daily. I really want to see him, and my ex is making life for me miserable. I am a grown woman, but I feel badly about this whole thing. I do not want to stop talking to his friend, we get along better than I ever did with my ex, and he is closer to my age. Am I wrong for wanting to be with this guy, or what? Can anyone out there relate or help me?
2007-12-09 02:09:10 · 5 answers · asked by Gigi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello Sweetheart,
Although you broke up a while ago I'd say that this isn't right for someone to do. Even if you guys claim not to have feelings for one another there still might be a bit of animosity. You just need to find another love interest. There are many men in the world that would consider themselves lucky to be with what seems like a strong minded person like yourself. Honey just let this go. Good luck!
2007-12-09 02:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous_898 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what did you think would happen when your ex found out you were dating his best bud?Never ever should anyone think they can live with an ex and just be friends and still date other people.How would you feel if he started dating one of your best friends?The only thing I see here to do is move out and then you can see each other whenever you want.
2007-12-09 02:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Janell T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot relate...never been in this situation, but it sounds awful. Your ex cannot control you, but if you are living in his house without a contract or lease agreement, he can throw you out in his fits. You might have quit seeing this guy if you really need a place to stay. I would start looking for another apartment. This is bad for ex to be holding over your head! I hope you get everything worked out.
2007-12-09 02:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by forestbythesea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. Know that by you seeing the "best friend" you are crossing sacred ground. When it happened to me they made me choose on who I could even be friends with. The ex didn't want to be around us when we were together. It made just hanging out difficult. I would talk to the "best friend" and find out how serious he is. Does he really want to lose his friend for you.
2007-12-09 02:15:15 · answer #4 · answered by calendargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are "a grown woman" get your own place, date whomever you want. Obviously he thinks the is something between you still, otherwise why would you be living with him? Get out and start living like "a grown woman".
2007-12-09 02:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋