i was dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. we broke up a few weeks ago. he has been hanging out with this other girl. i know that they have kissed once, but he acts like it meant nothing to him. he still tells me he loves me, and he also tells me that he's in love with me. i'm still in love with him and i would do anything to be with him again. he tells me i'm the best thing that has ever happened to him, so why would he want to give that away? it's confusing for me. he tells me that i am the love of his life, and i know he is the love of my life. i know that we are meant to be together. i just don't know how to make him realize that if he's not careful, he could lose me. i also want him to realize what he's doing to me and how much it hurts me. i love him so much.
i need help!!!!
2007-12-09 01:57:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ignore him and act indifferent. It will drive him crazy and show him he doesn't hold all the cards.
2007-12-09 02:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by klarf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are very young and this is your first experience with an older boy who is leading you on. He is obviously NOT "the love of your life", if those things ever exist. He doesn't think he has anything to worry about, after all you are still trying to "get him back" when it is obvious you never had him to begin with. Sounds like he wants to have you and others too at the same time, so he just tells you what you want to hear. What you need to do is realize that there are others out there who will appreciate you for what you are. Let him go, ignore him and live your own life. You don't need him to make you a complete person.
2007-12-09 02:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first look at the reason you broke up. Was is just a little fight or do one of you do something really wrong? If you both can get past the reason, then talk to him & tell him you do love & you know he loves you so lets get back together. If he hesitates then he is just stringing you along. Go find someone that wants to be with you.
2007-12-09 02:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by calendargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just playing with your head. He probably does love you because of the time you've had together but at the same time he realizes that he has went as far as he wants to go with you and there is no future. Please don't hang on you will just feel worst in the long run. Allow him to do his thing without sweating him and if its meant to be and he is just afraid then he will be back.
Good luck!
2007-12-09 02:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by antswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen girl. if i were you. id be pissed. obviously he thinks its okay for him to mess around and tell you that he loves you at the same time. which isnt true. you need to make him pick. if you're the love of his life then why does he need that other chick.
tell him straight up "its me. or her." and leave it at that. whatever he choses, let it happen. if he choses not to be with you then be done with him. get another man cus hes obviously not worth it.
i think he loves you..but maybe he's tired of the same old girl. so walk away if he says you guys cant go out.
if its over. its over.
and hes a douchebag that doesnt deserve you if he leaves you.
dont let him have the power in this.
stay strong. <3.
2007-12-10 11:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused, if he loves you and you love him why have you split up? Without knowing this I am not sure what advice to give really. Communication is the best way to go generally. Maybe he is not being honest with you?
2007-12-09 02:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Trouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but don't you think that if he loves you he would be with you now. The best thing to do is show him your not waiting around forever. Start going out with your friends, enjoy yourself and meet new people.
2007-12-09 02:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by Katrina W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes gone you should move on, he is only telling you things like you are the love of his life so he can have some one to fall back on if this other girl dumps him, then he will come back to you ,but only til some thing better comes along, does he care about your feelings?, he is only thinking of himself and you know it, get over him , the sooner the better, remember he will come running back, BUT FOR HOW LONG.?
2007-12-09 02:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by and1231964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's sad to hear your break up and I've come to learn that men are strange, strange animals wo like being ignored.
if you want to play games (something i don't understand, but have seen happen):
when he calls you (if he calls you) you answer and are brief on the phone and tell him that you will call him back
you answer and you are laughing having a 'great time'
--either way, you don't call him back for a few days.
i promise you that he will f r e a k out and want to talk to you!
2007-12-09 02:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him those questions and be bold in your questioning if he says he loves you ask him why does he say that when he,s going out or seeing someone else.
Does he need space?Do you need space?
All these things you have to ask him and sit him down and talk it all through with him and be honest as well!
let me know how you got on.
2007-12-09 02:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by david c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he tells me i'm the best thing that has ever happened to him, so why would he want to give that away?"
But it quite wasn't what he expected the best thing in his life to be. Thats why he broke up with you.
He respects you, but your history.
The Rat
2007-12-09 02:02:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋