Question for mature women and some men?

Question

Ok for years women have been calling men cheaters, but these days women are on a rampage when it comes to cheating, i've been cheated on once, and i learned that women lies are on point, because you will never know. I have a theory that all women have deceiving ways in them, and i also believe that in a relationship a woman will cheat at least once or more behind your back.

I'm not saying these things because I'm hurt or anything, I'm just deciding on taking the playa route, in that way you can avoid scandalous women, and be single, and date numerous of women. I'm 19, and older men always tell me never trust a woman, because once you do...it's over, and i learned never be to emotional with women, because they can detect these things, i also learned that maybe some woemn from ages 26 and up can be faithful in relationships but younger ages starting from 18 are attention whores, and thats a stage they go thorugh in life before they are mature about relationships..so they will cheat

I'm sorry, the question is do you believe that a relationship can last forever without any infidelity?

Answer 1

First, let me turn you over the knee of a beautifully imperfect, attractive and mature 49 year old WOMAN, and teach you a thing or two.

The day you decide that "women" are all the same, that we are all this way or that way, even to a small degree, is the day you might as well resign yourself to living alone. You will never understand even ONE well, as you have made up your mind already.

Both men and women have much gray in them, are rarely "good" or "bad", but darling, intent is everything and our experience dictating much of our actions. We come from different places, each hoping to only survive and be happy. Some, both male and female, have learned not so great ways of protecting their hearts, of getting what they need, of coping.

"You women" is a sure sign you have experienced very few and if men are called cheaters by me, it is the men who cheat that I would label, and not the entire gender. The same is true for women, tho statistically, men do cheat more often.

But before you go screaming "foul", let me explain. I think men cheat more often because the are more visual creatures, and because biology dictates that they mate often, while women are hardwired to mate well. This would have to do with their reproductive cycle, the fact that they haven't a nine month gestational period to worry for between procreating. And there are many reasons to cheat, not all of them making the cheater a total monster. Until you have experienced a 25 year marriage, the illness of a spouse, the death of a child or a partner who is cold and unloving, you have not experienced enough of life to "get it" just yet.

We simply have different goals, men and women, are made differently and most men who say women are "deceiving" as a whole, have been badly hurt but feel more masculine if they simply blame the female character... then they need take no responsibility for their own choices, so I would suggest you take such comments with that in mind.

Both men and women lie, cheat, manipulate, do things to hurt others for personal gain, whether intentional or not, steal destroy and murder. Neither has a monopoly on being jerks.

As far as a man "never being emotional" with a woman, what is wrong with her "detecting these things" and who in the hell have you been taking advice from?

Look, all I can say is that if you want to live alone forever, or worse, end up with some totally nasty piece of baggage as a partner for the rest of your life, then yeah, never show your emotions, never be soft or loving, and for sure never trust. This way you will never have to fear being unhappy or hurt, or being in love or enjoying the company of a good woman.

May I suggest you take your advice from men of a higher caliber and then tell me what side of the world you are on so I can keep my decent, loving and beautiful daughters indoors if need be?

Stereotypes are the source of much misery, so please, don't buy into everything you hear. If you see yourself a decent man, then there is at least one decent woman out here to match, so go easy on the sweeping generalizations, especially if you only intend to listen to total bores and then imitate them.

There is so much good in the world, in love and in what happens between a man and a woman, but once you reduce that to the kinds of things you seem so ready to swallow, you are LOST.

Please, don't worry so much about being a man for the moment, try being a human being first. You could use a little experience in THAT department.

Answer 2

ok well your statements are false. I'm a 21 year old woman I've been living with my bf for over a year and I've NEVER cheated on a guy. I agree that woman and men are equal in the sense that they both cheat, but COMPLETELY disagree with you say all women 18-26 ar attention whores. You deciding to be a "playa" I hope that goes well for you, because one day when the women are looking for some one to settle down with, you'll have the rep of being permiscuous. Good luck

Answer 3

Women seem to mature earlier than men, from reaching puberty first, to actually becoming rational human beings. I don't know that men ever reach "maturity". I've been told I should grow old gracefully, and I say I'm going kicking and screaming all the way. Women seem to handle it better. A woman in her 40's or 50's is a better lover than a younger more hormonal partner.

Answer 4

If you don't trust a woman then what do you have?

Some women do not cheat. Some do.

In my experience, women are most likely to cheat before they are in their mid - late 20's.

I have 3 X's that all cheated on me. I have several that I cheated on. esp. when I was in my early 20s, for some reason that was when it all happened. After that I stopped doing it because it always ruined the relationship and it took up so much time and energy, it was more worth it not to cheat. What do you get out of it? A few hours of hot sex and dumped. Not really worth it - at least not anymore. You might also get a disease, and maybe give that your girl... ouch!

Answer 5

50% of women cheat in America!
The other 50% do it over seas! Just joking.Did you read what you posted? Because I have to tell you,you are a schmuck! My god man,and you say your going to be a player? In what,SHOOTS AND LADDERS! And I find it hard to believe you are 19! I can see why you got cheated on! You sure it was only once?With your thought proccesses,and your wacked out personality, you couldn't hold a conversation with an answering machine! Well,I have to go change my pants,because I pissed them laughing so hard that your going to be a playa!

Answer 6

Men and women cheat for roughly the same reasons. There are plenty of reasons to cheat, but no honorable ones. Find an honorable woman; be an honorable man.

Answer 7

but you cant base everything on just a few experiences
im not 19 yet... and im happy to say im not an attention whore.... and many of my friends aren't one either.

you really need to get to know these girls first... before you go on dates
if you see patterns of lies and she does things for attention... then no more dates....

you need to give her respect (and make sure she respects you back), you need to give her space (and tell her that at times you need your space), you need to show her you care (and she will show you just how much she cares too)

love is more than an attraction... its about respect and trust
and you need to gain that respect and trust.. and make sure she feels the same way.. .and then... you will find that great girl
and there are some out there... but if you are meeting drunk girls at a bar.. what more do you expect?

Answer 8

Someone hurt you very badly, and that's just sad. You're young to be labeling all women as whores and liars who are not to be trusted. You're going to miss out on the "real" women who ARE out there Be careful, yes; but please take the time to get to really know someone before you stick a label on them.

Answer 9

Okay..? Women wont like you even more if you cheat. I don't even know what your talking about because I never cheated on someone.

Answer 10

cheating is overrated. Your still young so take it for what it is now. Have fun, you dont HAVE to settle for anyone just now anyway. YOull meet the right person.