I met this guy online...merely for sex..as agreed..but things goes wrong...I fell inlove with him..and he in the other hand sometimes show same mutual feeling but sometimes give me a cold shoulder.
I would really want to know, would a guy really appreciate a relationship like this? or is just a fling or a convinience?
I am confuse really.
Please help.
Thanks
2007-12-09 01:45:56 · 22 answers · asked by DoubtInLove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all your comments. actually I have the same thoughts..just that I want to have second opinions...
2007-12-09 02:00:55 · update #1
A relationship can form even if it started out merely as an agreement for sex. But, like any other relationship, it needs to be formed based on a mutual consensus. Make sure he's interested in you in the same manner that you are interested in him, or you'll build yourself up for a letdown.
2007-12-09 01:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Tim G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy sometimes shows you a cold shoulder, it does sound like he enjoys the convenience of you being available on demand and of not having to consider you and your feelings whenever he can't be bothered. Thus, your current situation is probably ideal for him.
However, if he sometimes seems like he might want more too, then perhaps given the choice between having to put up with you all the time, or doing without you all the time, he might choose a relationship?
I think if you give him the choice of going on as you are now, he won't choose to commit to you, but if you tell him that you can't continue having casual sex, he might decide that your relationship is worth developing.
If he doesn't want a relationship now then he probably never will, and you are better getting out of it now anyway before you really get hurt.
2007-12-09 01:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can work out even if it was originally based on sex. However, this was a mutual agreement based on the sexual satisfaction only. You tell us nothing to indicate there was ever any other factors involved. Therefore, you have no reason to assume that his feelings have changed just because yours have. IT'S A FLING OF CONVENIENCE.
You have no reason to be confused. If you must get an answer, you can certainly ask him, but be prepared for it to kill any relationship, including the sexual part.
Good Luck
2007-12-09 01:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex only does not make for a strong foundation, and once you "go there" it's pretty hard to go back and start a real relationship. Besides, sex is way more fulfilling if there is true emotion between the participants. If a fling is all you are interested in, just be clear from the beginning....if you are hoping something more deep develops...go slow.
2007-12-09 01:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely not. The basis of any relationship is trust, love and confidence to live together. Everything between sexes may start with attraction that is sex based, but if you leave the relation solely to stand on one leg, ie. sex, then the fall of the relation is imminent, because sex based relation will get awkward sooner or later. Thus I strongly feel that sex based relation is not a relation worth to call such, it is like going to a woman with pament and have sex.
2007-12-09 01:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 21:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by dickison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking will I get love and respect from a guy I offer sex on a plate to, at his convenience, the answer is no!
You are really worth a lot more than that.
When you learn to love and respect your own self-worth, then perhaps you will meet someone similar!
2007-12-09 01:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very rarely does a relationship based on sex last. There has to be more to a relationship then sex. It gets too repetitious so the interest will die as others come into your life
2007-12-09 01:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by James S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if both people want a relationship will it work. Since you met online just for a casual encounter that's all it may ever be to him.
2007-12-09 01:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably is enjoying "the booty call" relationship. If he was REALLY Into You, you'd Know it. He would make it Obvious. Be careful with online "meetings". There are a lot of Psycho's out there !!! Good Luck !!!
2007-12-09 01:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by casper 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋