I speak very fast, lacks thought processing, have so much to say , feel have been chased, feel like I have to say quickly otherwise will lose interest from listeners, Frog leaps my words in wrong order and speak 'ga ga' English that what my ex said and dump me as a result.
I feel something is dying inside me as I am very friendly, kind and caring person but I make fool out of myself and lose credibilities. I know I am not a fool but aware that I come across like one.
How can I talk in confident? Please, Help I feel like killing myself.
Thank you for reading and postings
2007-12-09 01:36:14 · 6 answers · asked by sk t 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
Yes, English is my second language and my social contact is recently found as I shut myself off from the outside world all my teenage years because of shame.
Now, I am here in UK and glad to find that narrow minded people do not rule my life.
Also, I am get nervous when there is silence and frighten of pauses during conversation.
2007-12-09 03:26:13 · update #1
Is in English your primary language? If not, then you're doing fine. But if it is, then get some lessons.
2007-12-09 01:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by sarah.sazaroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your English sounds a lot better than some people I've heard.
People usually want to know you have an interest in what they have to say too. They will understand if you have problems speaking English, but will like you more if you give them a chance to say what they want to too. If you can let them do most of the talking, they will forgive you for a lot of things. Have patience with yourself, try saying a lot by saying little-smile, look people in the eye when they talk to you, laugh at their jokes, and so on. And forgive yourself if you make mistakes in English-most people understand that it's not the easiest language to learn.
2007-12-09 10:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by kim s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends...if English is not your first language...then trust me, you are not alone. From the way you type, it appears to me you speak it just fine (with a few minuscule issues) but other than that, I can completely understand you. Look up Speech Therapy in your area(where you live)..you may just need a few lessons that'll help you slow down and grasp what you're trying to say without tripping over your words.
2007-12-09 09:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks to me like you speak English well enough, however, it appears you lack confidence that what you have to say will be important to others. I would suggest you try to slow down your speech and think about what you want to say before you say it. When you speak in a more measured way, people tend to pay more attention to what you have to say.
2007-12-09 09:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult a speech therapist.
Also, learn proper grammar...both written and spoken.
The first "sentence" of your question is a prime example. Many people speak in the same manner of how they write.
EMT
2007-12-09 09:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you writing is very confident
2007-12-09 09:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by oneofthoseboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋