My room mate and I are two very different people. I don't party and often go to bed by midnight, whereas she will stay out most of the night. We worked through this issue though, and have never really had any disagreements or problems. We get along really well and talk to each other when we are both in the room, but we never really hang out together. I have grown to care about her quite a lot, and worry about her when I don't see her after a night out.
But last night she came back at about 3:30 with a guy. This was enough to wake me, since they were both presumably drunk and were very loud. I didn't really mind to much till they started having sex. I chose to get up and leave. I didn't go back till over an hour later because i was so disgusted.
Please don't think this is just because I am a prude. I have had my boyfriend over multiple times, but we manage to contain ourselves till she is gone.
She tried to say sorry this morning, but i'm upset and don't know what to say. What to do?
2007-12-09 01:18:14 · 25 answers · asked by EaAUma 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It was incredibly rude....however, sounds like she realized it by trying to apologize. I'm sure she was ashamed of herself for being drunk and bringing some guy home (I shudder to think if it was just a guy she met that night). Accept her apology but make sure she knows that this cannot happen again. If it does then time to get a new roommate.
2007-12-09 01:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That just is not fair, but again I don't know how to help, just be thankful she is not living with you forever... Make her know you are upset but be assured she will also feel very guilty and was probably quite drunk... Let her grovel to you for a while, I know that is disgusting and I think I would have gone mad but because of your living situation there is not much you can do unfortunately other than show her how disgusted you are and pray she doesn't do it again... I wish there was more I could say but I understand the position you are in and there is not much more :( good luck with everything
2007-12-09 01:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by Gina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her, that you were very uncomfortable, not only with her having sex in the room while you were there, but with her bringing back a man, you do not know... that's dangerous for both of you. Tell her, from now on, no strange men, (established boyfriends excepted), and NO sex in the room while the other roommate is present. Period. Plus she was very inconsiderate in waking you, in the early hours of the morning. Set down some hard and fast rules.
2007-12-09 01:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Foggy Idea 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like they were was too wacked to realize you were in the room when they started to get it on.
I'd be upset, too. If this is someone I cared about, I'd be more upset about their own lack of respect for themselves, that led them into such casual sexual encounters that they didn't even care who was watching.
If she was that drunk, I think, as a friend, I would have made an effort to throw the guy out when things started getting a little racy, especially if it was just a casual pick-up. She might have thanked you in the morning.
2007-12-09 01:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing and you were not being prudish. I think that was disrespectful of your roomate and should not have happened. Sex should be a personal thing, not a spectator sport. I would talk to your roomate about it by saying, "About last night, I would really appreciate it if you did not let that happen again. It really made me feel uncomfortable."
2007-12-09 02:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Christine H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that it was not very polite and explain to her that it bothered you...She was drunk when she did it (not an excuse) but realized in the morning that she was in the wrong and tried to apologize for her little indiscretion.
2007-12-09 03:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be pissed and wouldn't want to talk to her either. i say give urself some time to cool off and then tell her how u felt about that and that u dont want that to happen again. she should feel ashamed of herself for doing that. that was total disrespect drunk or not. just stay away for a little then talk. because if i was to talk to her now i would probally try to whoop her a$$
2007-12-09 01:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by gurllucky7 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have to sit her down and tell her how you feel.let her know you bring your man over and don't go there so why should she that is not cool or respectful for either person that is a line she should not have cross as a roommate
2007-12-09 01:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by ¸.•*´`*♥ GODEZZ ♥*´`*•.¸ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have all the rights to be upset!!!She didn't respect you behaving like that and you should just tell her that.If this is gonna happen again, just ask her to let you know it early so that you can avoid being stuck in such a weird situation.
2007-12-09 01:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Brenno 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
She was drunk. She said she was sorry. Time to discuss some rules about what is OK and not ok. Forget this and move on.
2007-12-09 04:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋