What are your views on 'Divorce'?

Answer 1

each case is different. If you have both worked at it but it's not happening it should end. But also I don't think it should be taken lightly.

Answer 2

I recognise that sometimes it is the only solution, sometimes I feel it is entered into rather than work out a solution. The problem then comes from a Christian re-marriage. I do not understand the Anglican view saying that it will not remarry a couple in Church but will give a blessing. I am equally cynical on the stance of the Church of Rome which seems to allow a divorce and re-marriage if there is enough money around.

I think the whole matter must be thought through clearly. If a marriage has been destroyed to the point where it can not go on then surely a second chance should be permitted. I cannot make Judgement on the matter of when or how that chance be permitted. I am just pleased that I have not had to go through it

Answer 3

Divorce is highly discouraged in Islam which is my religion because it breaks up the family unit and destroys the children. It is only to be used as a last resort when all attempts to reconcile the marriage between the man and his woman have failed. In fact in Islam the woman has to wait 3 months before the divorce is final so the husband can determine if his wife is pregnant. If she is pregnant then she has to wait until the baby is born before she can get a divorce. Then the children go into the custody of the father. This is to protect the children especially the daughters because the mother's new husband might rape the girls and abuse/neglect the children. But if the husband's new wife hurts his kids he can divorce her. Whereas the wife can't stop her husband from harming his step children. If the man and his woman have sex during the three month interim in Islam then the divorce is off and they are still married. I personally don't believe in divorce unless the mother or her children are being abused by the husband/father.

Answer 4

In God's view, when we marry someone, we are making a vow between the husband & wife & God, that they will remain together "until death do us part." Marriage between husband & wife is a picture of the relationship between Christ & His church. It is monogamous and eternal.

When the Mosaic law allowed for divorce it was due to the "stiff-necked" ways of the Israelites, per Jesus Christ. Jesus said, that the only reason for divorce should be adultery on the part of one of the spouses. However, even in this, He never condoned remarriage. As a matter of fact, when He met the woman at the well, the sins He forgave her were her several divorces & remarriage.

Since this is the R&S section, what should be paramount is God's view on this. Anyone who is a Christian should adopted this view, as well. The tragedy is that the divorce rate in the U.S. is identical amongst professing Christians, as with the secular world. Along with acceptance of abortion & homosexuality it is the other major area in which the Body of Christ on Earth has truly missed the boat.

Answer 5

Obviously, it's not something that I think improves our lives in any way. But sometimes it's necessary. The problem, though, is not with filing for divorce when it's not working out, but rather with marrying someone with little or no forethough because if it doesn't work, "I can always get a divorce". And also people who don't make the effort to work things out before filing for divorce. Marriage takes work. If you're not willing to put in that time and effort, don't get married.

Answer 6

Divorce is wrong.

I don't say that to judge because I myself am divorced and remarried. But I have come to realize that I didn't understand the importance of my commitment, my vows, the needs of my children, the value of putting others before myself, and of course the will of God.

Getting out of a marriage because a person is unhappy is selfish. First of all, marriage isn't about making you happy. This doesn't mean you have to be unhappy, just not focus on yourself. Marriage is a partnership, it should be that each person is thinking about the other. It's a giving relationship not a taking one. When spouses think of themselves first, then they are destined for problems.

In our society we have been told that we are to be happy. Watch out for number one, and all that kind of garbage. Well, a marriage is sacrifice, giving when you don't feel like it, loving that person when they aren't at their best, bringing children into the world, turning over the fruit of your sacrifices to God. He in turn, will shower you with his grace. This is what I did not understand when I was married before.

Divorce can be the only answer when a spouse turns abusive or if they completely withdraw from you, emotionally, physically, mentally etc. You cannot control another person, and may have to leave. Of course you cannot stop your spouse from leaving you if they want to. Sometimes we just have no ability to stop it.

But, it should not be seen as an option that we hold in the back of our minds when we get married. We should be not thinking we will just get out if we're not happy. For the most part that's what happens. When the lust wears off, the day to day grind sets in, and people don't feel special and happy anymore, they walk out. They give up the chance to find a deeper and more secure love in exchange for the feelings of new love. New love always wears off...but the depth of committed, hang in there, for better or worse kind of love is worth the struggle.

Answer 7

I don't like divorce at all, I think that God is saddened by it.

I'm not looking for pity but as a child, my parents had gotten divorced because my father used to beat my mother, so I believe that even in God's eyes, divorce in such a situation would be all right, all though He is dissappointed in the marriage, I do not think He would want us to remain in harm's way.

However, relationships that have lost the spark, or had someone cheating or something along those lines, where no one is either being beaten to death, or being put through such a mental ordeal that they're on the brink of insanity, can be worked out.

Answer 8

Having never had or wanted a religious wedding divorce although traumatic was the best thing I ever did,I have been married a second time for 11 years after being single/divorced for 8 years,I just made a mistake first time around,maybe because she was a striking 6foot leggy blonde who was older than me...proves looks aint everything hehehehehe

Answer 9

Sometimes its necessary.

You give it your all and it still is in a bad way why suffer?

Staying for the kids (which is an excuse used by many) does more harm then good. So if its bad and you cant find common ground anymore and counseling didnt work,etc.

Divorce and find your happiness again.

Answer 10

Praise be to King Henry the 8th .

I guess divorce was not necessary when life expectancies were about 35 years . I could not stay married to my adulterating wives .

Answer 11

If a couple just can not work it out & they have truly tried then Divorce is the road for them ☺