2007-12-09 00:01:17 · 25 answers · asked by alexis christian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If someone is that selfish then they are not ready to be in a relationship that ends in marriage.
2007-12-09 07:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No hon.If they REALLY love you, they will marry you anyway,cancer and all.Look up hydrogen peroxide treatment,and I have also heard also if you run a small electrical charge through your system(9 vols like the little 9 volt battery) it kills the parasites that cause cancer and any type of oxygen enrichment helps.Also try the herb stores.II m not saying NOT to do chemo, but after seeing how it just seems to "finish off" all the people I have known with cancer, I think I'd try those other options first.GOD still heals too, find a church that believes in miracles and laying on of hands.The United Pentecostal churches are great.
2007-12-09 08:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Please be honest with the person you love. You dont say if the cancer is terminal or somewhat curable, like breast or skin cancer. Although there is always a chance for it to come back, alot of cancers dont return.If this person really loves you they will stand by you and will be there for you when needed. And you wont feel like you have to keep hiding things as to why you are sick.If this person dosent stick around , then its best to find out now. Do you really want to find that out when you really need them? I wish you peace at this upsetting time in your life. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-12-09 08:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bird lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how thats possible. If you're getting married to someone, that implies that you love and know that person and that person knows and loves you. I don't see how a relationship could grow to the point of being ripe for marriage and one side not know about the other one's cancer. And to answer your question, I think your partner deserves to know that you had/have cancer. Give him/her some credit. That person might be your biggest champion, the one thing that pulls you through and makes the tough times easier to bear.
2007-12-09 08:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Speaking as someone who has had cancer that is a bad idea. We need support through it and if a person loves you enough to want to marry you do you not honestly think that they would want to be there for you ?
2007-12-09 08:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Isis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Communication is key in a successful marriage. Major issues should always be discussed with one's partner. If you are unable to discuss the cancer with him/her, then you are not ready to marry this person.
2007-12-09 11:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have to tell them. If not for reasons of honesty in the relationship, then financial reasons. It might be considered decietful it you marry and expect them to pay for your treatment, ending in more heart ache for you because they feel tricked and betrayed.
Better for them to know up front and decide to marry you anyway as most people would do if they loved the person with cancer.
2007-12-09 08:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think so. i believe one of the most important aspects in a marriage is trust. if you have cancer and do not tell your potential spouse, then you are beginning this next phase of your relationship on a lie. if you are afraid that telling him/her will make him/her not want to marry you, then it's likely there are issues in the relationship that will also put it on shaky ground in the future. not only does he/she deserve the truth, but you should have someone walking with you through life - cancer and hopefully beyond - that will continue the journey with you. for both of your sakes, i encourage you to talk with him/her about it. best wishes.
2007-12-09 08:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Matty'sMom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to tell them you have cancer then you don't really care about them or love them. They need to know. It's going to have to come out at some point.
2007-12-09 10:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all its like a very unfaithful act if you love someone you cannot betray them or lie to them so its always good to talk about your matters and if you tell them about it if that person really loves you would never leave you so be bold and talk about it.because keeping someone in dark is not a good option or what will happen when they get to know afterwards and be very hurt of this fact that you lied and didnt even say nothing about it.if you have cancer its not the only thing which should be bothering you and you should also think about your new relationship your going to bond into.so dare and talk about it.
2007-12-09 08:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by Glasswings21 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, they need to know this kind of stuff. How would you feel if your husband one day ended up in the hospital and it turned out he's been battling cancer for years? If he purposed to you then he loves you and will want to help you though this...
2007-12-09 11:31:58 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋