how do i cope with criticism?
2007-12-08 22:45:20 · 9 answers · asked by myown91 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
((((HUGS))))
Don't let anyone get to you by their silly remarks, hon. People are mean, always have been and will be. You need to build your self-esteem. And you need to understand that it doesn't matter what others think about you, but how you feel about yourself. You don't need anyone's approval.
Try some good old tricks, like making a list of your traits - good and bad ones. Become aware of your good traits and work on them, let them overcome those that you might not like.
You have to learn how to love yourself, sweetie. Only when you do will others love you too.
First step: remove that sad face from your avatar, it sends out a big message. Wear a smile even if you don't feel like it :)
((((HUGS))))
P.S. When someone says something rude to you, just reply with: ''I'm glad criticising me makes you look better'' and don't forget to say it with a broad smile! You can gulp later when alone, but don't let them know it gets to you. The more they see weakness in you, the more mean they'll get.
2007-12-08 22:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that if someone is criticizing how you look, you know them fairly well. If that's the case, I think you need to find a new group of people to associate with. Not everyone is critical. Join some clubs, do group activities, socialize more. The more people you know the more likely you are to meet people who will genuinely like you for who you are, not for your appearance or how you dress. It's not a problem with you, it's a problem with them.
Keep smiling. We aren't all bad people. :)
2007-12-09 07:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by russj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My self esteem is not based on your opinion. Why should yours be?
I think a woman who is comfortable with herself is VERY feminine. Feminine=sexy.
The real question is one only you can answer: How can you get comfortable with yourself?
What's stopping you?
Actually, maybe your best "cure" would be to find a man who loves you just as you are. I don't know, maybe it is something different about the way God made women: My wife doesn't think of herself as attractive, but I sure do. And I know she sure likes it when I tell her so. Yet even after 20 years of marriage and me doting on her, she STILL needs constant reassurance: Is it just the way God made women?
Didn't Chuck Berry have a Hit song She Don't Know She's Beautiful?"
2007-12-09 07:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep smiling and go on with your day . most people just criticize to build themselves up anyway .
2007-12-09 06:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Homer Jones 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Godfree hit the nail on the head.
2007-12-09 06:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you cut the ground from under their feet by saying "O Thank you for noticing! It's so nice of you, I really love your outfit, where did you get it?"
2007-12-09 07:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. and if that doesnt work than tell them something...i dont let anyone talk sh*it about me..no no no...they will be setting theyre self up for something. anyway just tell them off..mind theyre own da*mn business..or judge them right back..
2007-12-09 06:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by babydollfacee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sticks and Stones may break your bones but words will not hurt you.
2007-12-09 06:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by Shaik Abdul Cader Dawood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them to f-u-c-k off,
2007-12-09 07:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋