Why do successful, smart women believe men are intimidated by them?

Question

I hear about this all the time. I don't understand it though. Men will charge a hill under machine fire, but are scared "successful" women? Where the hell do women get this idea from??

I should have added since women are clueless and thus cannot figure it out, men ARE NOT intimidated by these women. 9/10 men marry down because of our urges to protect and provide for women - this is BIOLOGICAL and has been proven throughout the world via statistics.

Oh and Cheryl K, I'd like to see the proof that women have been "oppressed for thousands of years" in light of their safe, well-fed and pampered existences at men's expense (would you prefer to be hiding in caves and cowering from wild animals). Oppression or privilege? You pick.

Answer 1

Now you're getting defensive because you feel threatened. Right?

Answer 2

Western society is traditionally a male dominated society. This means that there is an expectation that men will be the major earners (and perform other traditional male roles). A lot of this is still evident today - like pay parity. On the whole men still earn more than women and professional life / career paths do not cater for women taking time out to have children. No matter how you cut it, overall women are disadvantaged by taking time off for kids (loss of earnings).

So, when you get a woman who earns more (traditionally breadwinning is the male role), is funnier, smarter, sexier etc...it starts to encroach on traditional male territory. Unfortunately, there are men out there who are initimidated by women who are successful in areas (e.g money) that used to be male bastions. They just feel threatened somehow. Women have picked up on this. The other biggie is intelligence. It's a just a lot more simple if you are compatible in these areas and then the male doesn't feel so bad. So this is where women got the idea - experiencing it first hand. Needless to say, there are men who don't give a toss how successful their women are and really like it if they are rich etc... Unfortunately reverse discrimination sets it. Women are not usually going for looser men who can't earn a crust!!

Answer 3

I believe that women get that idea from real life experience. There are many more men than you would think that are highly intimidated by intelligent, successful women. Just because this notion seems preposterous to you, doesn't mean you should dismiss it so readily. I have witnessed time and again the nervous fidgeting, sweating and stammering of a man totally inundated with fear when facing off with a man eater. These men do not seek out these situations yet find themselves dealing with this sort of situation more often than not.
I think some very smart and well-to-do women find glee and their egos emboldened when in the midst of hacking up a frail and less than brilliant male. The problem lies in that these women wont take on a worthy opponent. They prey on the weak and easily intimidated. They display true hunter characteristics yet they do not seek the big kill... rather they find solice in the hunt itself.

Answer 4

Playing along with your generalization, I'd say that because certain men tend to crave power (just as certain women do also), they aren't particularly open to not being in control. If a woman has the means to support herself as well as, or better than a man, she's seen as someone who will not be as docile (as she has options). I don't think it's as much intimidation as it is pure loathing.

I understand that a male's role in society is somewhat confusing right now. What's a guy to do when some females expect meals to be paid for and doors to be opened, and others are quick to label males sexist when they're just trying to be courteous? As a society, we are still trying to get everything evened out and understood. Gender roles have developed over countless years, and it will be many more years before we see everything really settle down.

As for your "Oppression or privilege? You pick." statement, I have a few points to make. If you look to the Middle East right now, you'll find a watered down version of how females used to be treated. They are actually quite liberated over there now in comparison to how things were many years ago. Being treated like property and shrouded in burqas, women are not very privileged. Recently, a woman was kidnapped and gang raped by several men. Rather than punishing the men, a judge in the Middle East sentenced her to be beaten very badly. The victim of a crime was not only psychologically tormented by the act, but also by the government, and was severely beaten. Many women have been stoned to death for being raped. Pregnancy and labor aren't exactly peaceful, either, especially in certain underdeveloped countries. Birth control is absolutely out of the question, also. Women have historically been treated as baby making machines, property of men, and punching bags.

Answer 5

some men ARE intimidated by very successful and highly educated women (according to some of my male friends)... but this could be because some really successful women can be overly self righteous and b-tchy... the women that walk around like "men are so intimidated by me" are usually those stuck up, b-tchy ones... those women probably get the idea that every man is so intimidated by them because maybe a man or two was intimidated by her and that made her head inflate and get wayyy too big for her own good!!

Answer 6

a) Many men are. Not perhaps "scared" in the sense you're portraying it (comparing it to machine gun fire), but scared in the sense that they've become comfortable being the strong person in a relationship, and are used to caring for a psychologically "weaker" partner.

b) However, that is not always the case, and some women will throw down this cliche as a type of self-defense mechanism when a relationship doesn't go quite how they wanted it to.

Answer 7

evaluate that it took a undeniable concentration and attempt to develop into helpful - arising those skills would have taken the particular individual out of the loop for arising their 'looking a first rate guy' skills. extra to the factor, it stored them out of the places the place human beings bypass to %. up women... (you don't get plenty reading executed at a bar) yet another severe ingredient is that folk are likely to be extra grown-up of their Nineteen Thirties - they think of in any different case and are possibly extra possibly to be "ok" with following their different pastimes as adversarial to doing the kinfolk component. The human animal is programmed to discover a mate and reproduce around age 14 and starts to taper off from that programming around age 19 or so... finally, i'd recommend that the interest differences while human beings are extra well-known -- every physique getting out of high school has fantastically on the fringe of no sources and maximum possibly no actual sources. At that factor its all ability. as quickly as a individual (male or woman) has well-known themselves with a house and a 401k, there is extra threat linked with relationships - hence there is extra warning. additionally - people who have not well-known themselves by that factor are no longer at risk of be considered - if for no different reason than you will no longer come across them interior the comparable places of artwork and different social circles.

Answer 8

Try picking up a book called "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray. A lot of good insight there.

Basically, men who are insecure in their masculinity want to be the top dog in everything. Consequently, they will either not date successful women at all, prefering women they can dominate to begin with.
Or they will get with successful women and then slowly tear them down by verbal / emotional / physical abuse.
It really is a form of bullying.

Answer 9

because the stereotype is that the man is supposed to take care of the woman.. plus, it can also feel like a contest of who is more successful... chances are, the men who are charging up hills with machine fire won't be scared of a woman... cuz they will have been shot while going up that hill... it will be the guys who were scared to go up the hill who are also afraid of women.

Answer 10

Successful means powerful. Men don't like it when the roles of power are switch. Well most men don't, some like it, some learn to deal with it. It's just the way society is.

Answer 11

Most men feel like they have to take care of their woman.
A successful woman is Very Independent and feels she doesn't Need to be taken care of .
She forgot what it felt like because we have to work TWICE as hard as a man to get were we want to be.
It takes only one man to bring us down.