Collegue changing her atitude?

Question

A girl who is 10 yrs junior to me joined the firm. I used to give her ride to office.I was admiring her positive atitude and was liking to talk to her as much as possible. I started doing things out of my way helping her and I used to feel happy for the same. I just wanted to spend sometime every day. From her side she used to talk to me and sometimes she was supportive in giving advices on career. She presented me a small gift after we met after longwknd. I was curious to spend time with her as it was longtime. I was waiting for her in office after my working hours which she does'nt know. In last minute she took ride back home from another collegue. I got disturbed and called her after she reached home saying that I was disappointed for not coming initially she told u should have told me.Next day she told why you want to spend time with go home and spend time with ur family in rude way and ur only my collegue. She stopped coming in my car and does not talk to me.What I should do?

Answer 1

Back off. You may be fascinated with her positive attitude and want to spend time with her but it sounds like you may be smothering her. She may feel overwhelmed if you wait for her and want to spend so much time with her. She hasn't worked there that long and she may feel that you don't know each other so well that you should spend so much time together. Her comment that you're just a collegue indicates she feels you're getting too friendly.

Give her some space and let her regain her comfort level. Maybe say hello to her once in a while if you see her but don't wait for her or look for her. Eventually, she'll start to feel a little more comfortable with you and then you can talk to her about what happened. Apologize if you came on too strong, tell her you didn't mean anything by it and tell her you enjoy her company. She may not realize how magnetic a personality she has.

Answer 2

She is worried that you are getting too emotionally attached or attracted to her. She does NOT want a romance with you, does NOT want the appearance or rumors of a romance with you circulating around the office, and does not want to create friction in the office environment.
I would suggest backing away socially and maintaining professional behavior and composure. In other words, you greet her like anyone else in the morning, then leave her alone unless your tasks require you to interface with her.