It really hurts my feelings. She calls about once a month to talk about my neice and will throw in a "how are you" or "take care of yourself". If I try to talk to her about it then she gets really angry at me for "accusing" her of such things. I am to the point that I want to stop communications with her because it's so upsetting to me. Is anyone in a similar situation?
2007-12-08 18:03:18 · 9 answers · asked by sunflowers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not in a similar situation, but i'm writing this all the same.
I'm really sorry about that, I would be upset too. But don't do anything too rash now. When your baby is actually born, she may come round.
If she continues to give you this kind of treatment, maybe you should consider reducing the time you spend with her. If she's making you feel really upset, and really hurting you, you don't want her to be around too much.
2007-12-08 18:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has probably been like this your whole life so don't let it bug you now. My aunt is this way too ... talks about her kids and puts one up higher than the rest until they do something she doesn't agree with and is suddenly the black sheep. It gets old and we have learned to ignore her for the most part. In your case, stay calm. Being stressed, upset and not talking to your mom isn't a good idea. Being pregnant makes stress way more dangerous so deal with it after you have the baby. Talk to her on a one to one level, maybe while she is holding the baby about how you would appriciate it if she would ask about you sometimes because you know she loves you and your baby but feel left out. If she gets upset then she didn't realize she was doing it and is upset more at herself pushing it off on you. If that happens, just give her time and make the effort to ask her how she is doing, send her pictures of you and the baby, hang out with her so that she gets used to you being a mommy and will start asking about your changes too. I'm sure she will come around just be patient, it's a skill parents need. Good luck with her and congrats on the baby!
2007-12-08 18:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. It usually changes when the baby is born... although some grandmas always love their first grandchild most. It's annoying but there is nothing you can do about it.
My mom cares for my niece, so she's more like her child then grandchild. When my son came along 20 months later she almost seemed like she had to force herself to show interest in him. It really hurt me.
Now that he's 2 she loves him for him and also loves my niece. I know that there is probably a difference there but she never lets me know it. She tries to love them equally and treat them the same. That's all I ask.
2007-12-08 18:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by AngelBaby 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let it slide. Sometimes moms are funny creatures. Forgive and forget. You need to live your own life. If she upsets you when you talk on the phone then end the conversation respectfully. You have to respect yourself enough to take care of yourself physically and spiritually especially during your pregnancy and the first 6 months of your baby's life. The later is so important for bonding.
peace,
Pam
2007-12-08 18:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by purpleflyer2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds weird but I think all of that will change once your baby arrives. Grandmas love grandbabies. I am sure she'll be doting on your child too.
2007-12-08 18:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur just experiencing sibling rivalry and jealousy. u think ur mom doesnt care, but u are delusional, because your hormones are nuts right now. maybe ur mom cant imagine u as a mother? maybe she doesnt think its the right time for u to have a kid? u should talk to her about this, and see. there might be other reasons for her not being supportive or seeming to care. maybe ur mom isnt happy that u are pregnant, esp if she doesnt like the daddy of ur baby. talk to her about adoption? maybe she would be willing to adopt your baby from u and then she'd be happy? who knows....u wont know until u talk to her.
2007-12-08 18:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hopefully, after the baby is born, she will come around.
2007-12-08 18:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to bond with a child when it is in someones stomach.when she gets to finally hold her and your baby looks into her eyes and smiles her heart will melt.give it time and don't even mention it .
2007-12-08 18:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mac 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are mistaken, she will be with you when you need her help.
2007-12-08 18:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋