I met this guy a few months back, I cheated on him he cheated on me, we don't trust and we lie to each other but everytime we try to call it quits one of us calls or we just don't give up, I don't know if I want to be w/ him but I know I don't want to be w/out him, It's such a weird feeling; Has anyone had a relationship like that where you try to let go but for whatever reason you can't and if so, how did it end up? why can't I get over him and let him go? Please help me figure this out!!
2007-12-08 17:54:33 · 5 answers · asked by Danny82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it isnt love. It's lust. Something about him keeps you wanting more. I think its the sex. I think you should back off and stop being so dependent on each other. Move on to someone that is deserving of you. perhaps its best to just be single to figure out what you truly want.
2007-12-08 18:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by lukewarm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you need some time to think about things. Explain that this is not a breakup, just a mental vacation for you. Then, actually do it. Take a couple of weeks for yourself where you do not talk to him. Do nice things for yourself. Destress yourself. If at the end of the few weeks you are still thinking about and want to be with him (for him, not because you haven't found anyone else), then you need to talk to him.
At this point you explain that you care about him and would like to continue things, under different circumstances. Let him know that honesty is the best policy and take that advice for yourself too. Explain that even though you are going to get angry with the truth, you will get angrier if you hear the truth from somebody else. So if he is to be the man by your side you need to build your trust in him.
Also let him know not to mistake your kindness in taking him back, for weakness. For yourself, if he cheats on you again, or is not honest- leave and don't look back.
Just a sidenote- I would be a little concerned that within the first few months both of you have cheated on each other. That is usually the time when everything is all rainbows and butterflies. So if you are going to torture yourself, make sure the guy is worth it first.
2007-12-09 02:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my boyfriend like about 2 years. At first I only wanted to play with him like about a month but when I really spoke about break-up that day, he could help his tears. He left and returned a day later, saying: I don't know when I'll get numb, but right now I'm painful. He told me how he was cheated by his first love and how he cheated a few other girls. And through those experience, he realized cheating and playing with other's heart only ends up in hurting himself. So he wanna be serious this time. I was moved and we reunited. It's true that we still quarrel, break up time after time. But each time we become together again, we feel our love grows stronger
so my advice is stop cheating on each other tell him how you feel. If he feel the same, you'll probably be happy then.
2007-12-09 02:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by cuteyboy2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok the main thing is trust if u dont have it forget it . u to can like hook up but dont go out
2007-12-09 01:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by tbdxray00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u guys should be swingers
2007-12-09 01:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋