how do I deal being lonely especially when new years is coming up?

Question

i was supposed to transfer to a university and live in the dorm there and was hoping to get a gf so i can look at her eyes as if no one else is there with a big crow in new years now guess what?? im gonna be spending a lonely new years eve no friends...the plan to transfer was last year and now its almost new y ears again! and now im thinking wow another dreadful year!
i moved around alot when i was young..and now i go to a junior college...its like impossible to make friends(commuter school) and i tried out the clubs there i didnt like it...they were oh so gay......and i thought i was gonna transfer and live on a dorm...and meet friends....but since of my financial difficulties.....i wasn't able to transfer...now i wont get a gf!!! thats what i was planning and now its ruined cuz i wasn't able to transfer....i started beinbg social later in my life but i can't look back at it now! HOW DO I GO THROUGH A PAINFUL NEW YEARS!!!! IM SO LONELY LOL

Answer 1

i think if u'll stress on the matter of not having a gf,ur new year will be more than dreadful.learn to live and enjoy in the present.somehow,somewhere there is surely someone waiting for u.

Answer 2

A Junior Collage with a dorm? Where do you go to school?
forget about the relationships for now. Your 20's are when you determine what you want, what you do not want and what you will put up with. Do Not Settle!!!!!!!
Hang out with friends that are in similar situations,,not everyone has someone to take home for the holidays, nor to kiss at midnight on New years Eve. Don't fret.
This will all sort itself out.
I have to ask, What makes you think that if you live in a dorm, you will "get" a girlfriend"? I be live without doubt that she is out there for you. hang in there. Gather a group, even if a small one, for the celebration.......I remember I was so turned on and excited to learn how to play Farkle and Domino's while I was stuck at the dorm during the holidays. But, I won, and I kicked ***. Be bold, brazen......you have what It takes. Women love men with a goal and intellect. Happy Hanuka, merry Christmas, and all the others.........If you ae in a dorm, or on a CCCampus, make frienda with some really great gals.......they can gudie you, love you, support you.....you should never have to spend a holiday alone, ever.
How old are you, anyway? Not for me, but I have a georgeous gal, college student, running nher own business, supporting herself.........are you reay?

Answer 3

OK, first, stop trying so deperately to find a girlfriend. People can smell desperation a mile away and it´s a HUGE turnoff!!!

Instead of looking so hard for the social life you want, try doing something that will help someone else. Get a volunteer position, even if it´s only helping out at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen for a day or two. You´ll meet new people, who might become friends, and you´ll be doing something a) to get your mind off yourself, and b) good for someone else, which will make you feel better about yourself, and also make you more attractive, so other people might be more interested in getting to know you better.

There is really no reason why you should be so isolated, even at a community college. Is there a coffee shop or snack bar on campus? Ask out a classmate, or set up a study date to get together and hang out, work a little, have a cup of coffee. You can try all sorts of things, but don´t wait for someone else to make the first move, or you may be waiting forever. (and I mean classmates of both genders, don´t limit yourself to looking for a girlfriend...you should probably have guy friends, too. Never know what kinds of connections - work, social - you can make through them).

Good luck, and don´t get too discouraged. But having someone to kiss when the clock strikes 12 isn´t really all that important. I´m married, which was supposed to guarantee me someone to kiss at midnight, but I can´t keep my hubby up that late. He peters out at about 9 on the best of nights. Oh, well, more time for me to waste on the interenet. :)

Answer 4

The fact that you are in junior college...any college (other than clown college) Is what I would call truly frightening. I have a question... why do you need a large black bird with you when you look at a hypothetical girlfriend "in" new years eve? I think if you concentrated more on your studies...such as learning to spell and accurately represent yourself in type, so that you could ask a legible and coherent question... you wouldn't be so lonely. You aren't going to junior college to pick up chicks! You are going to junior college because you can't spell or type a sentence correctly. You are going to junior college because you OBVIOUSLY don't give a damn about your education. You have been thinking with your penis and not your mind. Now both are soft. I don't know any women that would want to be associated someone so blatantly uneducated. The mind is the largest erogenous zone... look it up.

Answer 5

Your about to cry you are believing this aren't you? Your not going to have it hard, you can go to a movie, call friends, or your parents or go home and see them.

Hard is being in a war zone with only guys you just met in the last three months and you haven't got a note from home and you don't have the money to get a PC or have emails address you lost replaced yet.

That would be hard and I would cry with you, but you going to be a adult, have kids, be a parent, support kids and a wife and work a job oh and get a degree and buy a home all in the next 10 years. What is so painful about having to wait for it to happen and not expect it happen right now? Learn this big word and it will help you in life, love, and making money, the word is "patience".

Answer 6

First of all how old are you? Where in the world are you? You should never have to be lonely. Alot of the time I choose to work New Years Eve. I dont like the partying and the crazy drunk driving...what I like to do is come home from work the next day and snuggle up to somebody special and say Happy New Year. No need to wake up after getting so blitzed that you cant remember who (*or what) you brought home and saying "Oh my god, I did it again!"...Thats my take on the whole mess. Hope you open up and let somebody in sweetheart. Take Care.-Rachel.

Answer 7

Try to look at a different way. You are just not going to be with a lot of people new years. It does not have to always be a big deal party kind of event. Rent a bunch of movies you like. You must live somewhere and have neighbors, see if anyone wants to join you that night. You can live your life regreting the things you are not able to do or you can find fun in the things you are able to do.

Answer 8

Have a party or go to a restaurant that is having a party and make new friends. The holiday are lonely for lots of people sometimes the best thing is to just get through it. Sometimes being with someone is lonely too.

Answer 9

Welcome to the club! Here is what I do: I through myself a party with a movie, a good dinner (usually a pick-up or delivery from my favorite restaurant), a glass of wine, and whatever else I desire! It is not as bad as you think!
The other thing I do is work! Our company pays double time to anyone that works Christmas Eve and Day and New Years Eve. So that is an extra bonus!

Answer 10

Enjoy it while you can. I enjoy my own company but due to family and friends I get very little time alone. One day you will be married with children and wish you could spend some time with just yourself.
Look at it this way, At least you wont have to do stuff you don't want to and are able to do the things you like while alone.