Were you married before you had kids? Did you wait until you were married to start having kids? I'm ust asking cuz most of my family had atleast one kid ot of wedlock. I'm making myself wait until I'm married to have kids. It's just something I said I would always stick to. I have no problem with it either way. Just curious what other people did. What age were you? Were you engaged? Was the baby planned? Are you still with the other person?
2007-12-08 17:28:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm 23 will be 24 when I get married.
2007-12-08 17:42:37 · update #1
Hello.
I always wanted to be married before I had children.
But then it was an unplanned pregnancy, and I was only eighteen. My boyfriend of two years asked me to marry him just before I found out I was pregnant, I said yes of course even though I was young.
Soon we found out we were having twins, and we decided we would wait until the twins were born before we got married (I didn't want to have to have a maternity wedding dress! I wanted to look back and see how thin I was, not fat! Haha).
When the twins were a year old, we got married. It was beautiful, the girls were dressed up gorgeus, it was overwhelming.
Then four years later, we had another son. Four years after that we had more twins, and now we are expecting a sixth, a girl. And to tell you the truth I am only twenty-seven!
But yes, I am still with my gorgeous husband we have been married for eight years now.
Good Luck.
:-)
2007-12-08 17:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by x. Mommy Kate .x 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We'd been married for a year and half before becoming pregnant. Our son will be born close to the two year anniversary of our marriage (of course we'd been together for 5 years before getting married). We both felt it was important to be married (for us) before having children. Our son was planned (although he's coming a little bit earlier than planned!). I was 26 when I got pregnant and I'll be 27 when I have our son. My husband and I are happily married and thrilled about the addition to our family! Three is the magic number!
I applaud you on your mature decision to wait until marriage. It's obvious you've thought this out. It's not necessary to be married in order to have a loving relationship, but it's certainly a good idea to know what is important to you.
And I think Madame XC makes an excellent point. Marriage is not about the fear of "god" (at least it wasn't in our case), it was about having a legal contract which gave us, as a couple and a family, certain protections under the law.
2007-12-08 18:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When i fell pregnant with my son, i wasnt married, and im still not married yet, and to be honest things are good the way they are with my partner and i. i am 20, 21 in feb and my partner is 22, our son is 14 months now, and doing well, yes we r engaged, and are very happy, we were engaged b4 our son came along, and we are still 2gether to this day, we have been 2gether for almost 3 years. The way i c it is if u love the person what does it matter if ur married or not. but i every1s different, Good Luck to u both, and all the best xx
2007-12-09 03:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was married before I had kids. Yes. Yes, the baby was planned. It was after I was married so I was already engaged. Yes, I am still currently with the other person.
2007-12-08 18:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby was planned. I am married to the father. Children are better off being born into a married family not just for those reasons like more stable home etc,.. But for health insurance, tax reasons and other things that being legally married gets you.
2007-12-08 17:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by MadameXCupcake 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We've been married for 5.5 years - we just started trying 2 years ago to conceive our first child.
I think it's best to get married and then wait a few years and then start trying. It's important to have some alone time to build your bond and learn more about each other, then you'll be ready to devote more time to raising your baby.
2007-12-09 00:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 3 children when I got married at age 25. My 3 children were from previous relationships and no were not planned but very much loved. My husband and I our now expecting our 4th together (his 4th my 7th) but my kids are just as much his as our kids are.
Good for you though for waiting until marriage!! I hope that my children do.
2007-12-09 00:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by still_crazy_mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 and my husband was 26 when we got married.Although we were trying for a baby when we were just engaged..nothing happened but after a month and a half of being married...bam..I'm pregnant so maybe it was destiny for me and my husband to be married before we conceived our daughter.
2007-12-08 20:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Starr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child at 20 second one at 22 wasn't married and I have been with their father for 10 years.
2007-12-09 16:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married in March and fell pregnant in May. We have not used protection for about a year though and figured that we would let nature take it's course. Had I fallen pregnant earlier we would've gotten married as my husband is catholic. It would not have bothered me though. I am 23
2007-12-08 17:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by ஜBECஜ ~Mama to Lucy & bump~ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋