played, used, wanted,..... what? seriously could i get some input?

Question

I have been with my bf for almost 2 years and a few weeks ago he broke up with me. This was a very serious relationship to the point that we just assumed we would and planned to be married. Now we have gone through some rough patches and are very confused and it doesnt help that we live an hour and a half apart and always have. We have broken up yet we still see each other sometimes and are taking time right now to just be single and think. We planned to do that when we broke up but he ended up getting with someone else a week after we broke up. He doesnt really know why but we talked and he broke up with her and is back to the original plan. We will talk again when he comes to Christmas to see how we feel. In the meantime I am finding that I have a male friend who I am starting to really like. I know I am not over this other guy, after 2 years how could I be, he is the first one I have ever loved and in 5 months I will be moving to his city. But my friend that I am crushing on is

right here. I dont want to hurt him by just rushing into something the way my other man did. Yet I dont even know if i would want to date him at all because in 5 months I am moving to the city where my ex lives and will be away from my friend. I am very confused because I dont want to let my ex go and he doesnt want to let me go...but this is very stressful because now we have both found a friend that we have feelings for, yet in 5 months we will be living 5 minutes apart so what is the point in moving on if we know that we are just going to start back up again when I move to his city?

by the way, this friend i think is more than a crush but not as much as love, i mean he has really been there for me since the breakup and even before that i kinda had a thing for him that i kept down since i knew i loved my bf and i thought he loved me too. But this friend is so sweet, he holds me and strokes my face and hair and kisses my head and holds my hands telling me it will be ok....

maybe i should clarify, i dont want you all to think that my friend is even more of a jerk than my ex....we have been friends for about a year and right off the bat we clicked and have been really comfortable with each other but for as long as he has known me i have been with this other guy....so he has never tried anything and i really dont know what he feels for me other than friendship....i just know that i have plenty of other guy friends, some who have known me way longer than this guy, and while they do hug me and talk, they dont do those sweet things like he does

by the way, my friend has a gf now, they just got together and nobody is really sure why because they havent even been friends and they seem like a very odd couple, we kinda all expect it to end, but i cant be the girl that steals a bf regardless of how i feel about him or how wrong the relationship seems, i guess im just expecting theirs to end soon and it will give me the time i need to get over mine that just ended

Answer 1

Word of advise... leave the x alone! Hes a guy and yes your probably thinking you two have been together so long that he has to care but when you guys took time to be alone and he got with the other girl maybe that was his nice way of trying not to hurt you by telling you hes ready to move on and start dating other people. and being a guy, if your going to be around, why wouldn't he get with you when he's not with someone else?! He'll use you if you let him. If you love him let him go. And move on... ask your guy friend if he interested. You never know this one could be the right one.

Answer 2

seems more like your just a comfort couple.you need more time before marriage .date more people be sure.more that half of marriages end in divorce.don't be another statistic

Answer 3

u wanna kno what guy number 2 feels about you answer this. if givin the opportunity, would he have sex with you......... if he would u got your answer

Answer 4

go with man number two, you will be glad you did.