My husband has a brother that has been 18 since March and has has 3 jobs all for about 2-3 days each. He lives in Kentucky and we live in Virginia, but he calls and whines endlessly to my husband about how hard his life is and woe-is-me crap. He has a girlfriend who has just turned 18 and is fully supporting him, she works and buys his food, pays when they go out on date, everything! She is an idiot. My husband asked him if he was using protection, you know, and his reply was"sometimes." i am about to scream at this kid to get his head out of his butt and get a job. What is going to happen when said girlfriend gets knocked up and he is without any income or insurance. He still lives with his mother in her basement and his main objective of the day is playstation 3. When my husband was this kid's age, he had been in the Marines for 7 months. When I was his age I had been in the Navy for about 6 months. We have tried to talk him into the military, no use. What can we do?
2007-12-08 17:23:25 · 7 answers · asked by Cha togar m'fhearg gun diola 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This kid needs a rude awakening. Your mother in law is not doing him any favors. His girlfriend has very low self esteem it is purely evident. She is not helping him out. She is desperate. He should be a man and step up to the plate and find a good job. He can go to college or join military and step up to the plate. NOW is NOT the time to join the army or marines unless you have a death wish. Trust me I come from a military family and now is not the time. Your brother needs for you and your husband and mother in law to sit down with him and his girlfriend and advise him that he needs to be responsible and if not he needs to go and move out. If you put him on notice and stick to your guns he will see the light. GOOD LUCK !!!!
2007-12-08 17:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Joe A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk with your husband now about not helping his brother. If you help him financially, you only enable him to be a bum and not grow up. You are not really helping him at all. Get with your husband tomorrow to discuss this. The next phone call you get from him is that his girlfriend is pregnant and he will want to know what to do. Let him grow up the hard way. You two are good examples of responsible adults. Thank you for your military service, also. People like you and your husband keep the rest of us safe here at home. :)
2007-12-09 01:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a concept... the Service is NOT the answer for everything.
He's still a kid, he's only 18. Legally, yes you're an adult, but he might be light years away from mentally being an adult. Especially if his mother coddled him his entire life. Sounds like he's the youngest of children, so I would expect that treatment. Why don't you try talking to the mother?
Brandon
2007-12-09 01:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by El BrandO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do ..If mom is letting him live rent free...He isn't ready to be a grownup so he isn't going to want to get a job. So he will most likely become a nothing with a playstation 3 and a knocked up girlfreind...He has to want to get a job and become responsible..Noone can make him..Especially if Mom is letting him live there rent free.
2007-12-09 01:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't talk him into the military, we need men not boys.
Other than that, none of this is your business. You cannot compare anyone else's life to yours. You are not his parent. Stop answering the phone. What in the world do you care what he does, that's his mothers job. Not everyone matures at the same rate, and he certainly isn't asking anything of you.
2007-12-09 01:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the girl that hes a loser, and tell the brother to get a job or stop calling, blocking phone calls works too!
2007-12-09 01:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Sami d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, just tell him to stop calling
2007-12-09 01:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋