Would God forgive me if?

Question

I had sex out of Wedlock?
I mean I feel I'm ready but I'm scared I won't go to heaven

Answer 1

Yes, certainly.

Answer 2

"All fail and fall short of the glory"

"There is only one good".

"Do not use grace as license".

All from the bible.

Do not use grace as license. BUT, do not expect condemnation when you fail. Paul wrote in Romans 8:

1Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. The Greek translated here to "in" means literally and figuratively to be in the same location. Be where Christ is, and you will not be condemned.

Jesus forgave the prostitute that was about to be killed by rocks, using the the now common phrase "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone". Jesus also forgave the the ones who hanged Him on the cross by telling His father to "forgive them, as they know not what they do". Even the thieves that were crucified with Him received the the message that they would be with Him in in the kingdom that day.

His potential for forgiveness is unlimited. Forgiveness is His central message. A two way street.

Goodness is defined by the heart and the motivations of the good person. The actual actions of that person are determined by other factors.

Read Romans 7 for evidence.

Then read Romans 8: 1 again.

Jesus forgives.

Choose wisely.

Accept forgiveness. Every day. You will never be perfect until you are perfected in heaven. You will always strive and fail. Accept this.

BUT, never stop striving.

Do not fear. Be confident. Trust in the Lord.

You have not been condemned, The adversary would hope you are convinced that you are. He is wrong.

Answer 3

I am amazed at the naivete of those who think a condom is the solution to all the problems that might occur. I have to wonder if people really give a crap when they offer flippant advise or is it just easier to not care about people because it's the internet and we don't really know them well enough to care. I had a friend who got a girl pregnant because his condom didn't work. It's a real possibility and are you really wanting to bring a child into the world without the security of having two parents to love and raise him or her? Then theres stds. I also have a friend who when she got pregnant was given an ultimatum by her mother, get an abortion or get out. Thankfully she got out but it wasn't a picnic living in government housing. Herein lies a big difference between Christians and atheists. Notice despite thier constant claims about being moral people they none of them tell you to do the right thing but rather do waht feels good for you and try and limit the negative consequences.

Answer 4

Dear Friend,

If you were to have sex out of wedlock, and truly were sorry for what you did, and asked Jesus to forgive you, He will. He examines the heart and knows if we are "really" sincere or not. However, there are always consequences for our actions of disobedience. Therefore, if we "deliberately" do what we know we are NOT supposed to do ...over and over, we have rebelled against God.

If you were to (willingly, knowingly) run a red light and suddenly you were pulled over by the police and you told the officer you were sorry, he may understand your situation, but STILL you'd have to pay a fine. But if you have a habit of running red lights, the fine gets more serious and so do the consequences. When we tell God we are sorry for what we do, that means we aren't going to keep doing those things... again. Does that make sense?

It would be so much easier if we would all just "obey" a Holy God and stop trying to live independently from Him. He wants to be involved in everything we do ...to guide us from the things that can hurt us. God wants us to be independently ...dependent on Him for everything.

Sincerely in Christ Jesus,

lostnsavd...

Answer 5

Going to heaven is not conditionally granted on how "good" you are. Everybody sins, and that's why Jesus died for us. He is the way to heaven, and through faith in His redeeming work on the cross, you will go to heaven.

That does not give you free reign to go sin willy nilly, however. If you have a relationship with Christ, talk to Him about how you are feeling inside. If you are afraid to give into temptation, pray for strength to withstand the enemy.

Don't do the easy thing and have premarital sex and then say "I'm sorry" to God later. That's what I did, and I wish I had waited until my wife and I got married. It is better to not live with regrets than to eat the forbidden fruit.

Answer 6

Are you a Christian? Do you know Jesus? If you are, this applies to you.

God cannot love you any more, God cannot love you any less. You are in. Nothing can separate you from God.
You are really and truly and completely free. There is no kicker. There is no if, and, or but. You are free. You can do it right or wrong. You can obey or disobey. You can run from Christ or run to Christ. You can choose to become a faithful Christian or an unfaithful Christian. You can cry, cuss, and spit, or laugh, sing and dance. You can read a novel or the Bible. You can watch TV or pray. You're free. Freedom threatens relugious people because it takes away their control. Does being free mean that if I don't do what God says, he will still love me? Ues, that is exactly what it means. You might get hurt or regret what you've done, but you can do it and he won't stop loving you. You won't lose your salvation and you won't get kicked out of the kingdom. The more I experience his love and grace, the more I want to please him. You ought to live your life with such freedom and joy that uptight Christians doubt your salvation. Do you know a single atheist who stayed away from Christ because a Christian didn't act as holy and sanctified as he or she ought to have acted? I know they will say we are hypocrites-but usually that is just a smoke screen. The truth is what repeatedly kills our witness is pretense, not freedom.

Over the years, I've seen Christians shaping God in their own image- in each case a dreadfully small God. Some Roman Catholics still believe only they will graze heaven's green pastures. There is the God who has a special affection for capitalist America, regards the workaholic, and the God who loves only the poor and the underprivileged; There is a God who marches with victorious armies, and the God who loves only the meek who turns the other cheek. Some like the elder brother in Luke, sulk and pout when the Father rocks and rolls, serves surf and turf for a prodigal son who has spent his last cent on whores. Some, tragically, refuse to believe that God can or will forgive them: My sin is too great.
There is a myth flourishing in the church today that has caused incalculable harm- once converted, fully converted. In other words, once I accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, an irreversible, sinless future beckons. Discipleship will be an untarnished story; life will be an unbroken upward spiral towards holiness. Tell that to poor Peter who, after three times professing his loves for Jesus on the beach and after receiving the fullness of the Spirit at Pentecost, was still jealous of Paul's apostolic success.
God looks at the heart, not the deeds. You don't go to heaven because of who you are, but because of who God is.
Several times in my life, people have expressed the fear that self-acceptance will abort the ongoing conversion process and lead to a life of spiritual laziness and moral laxity. Nothing could be more untrue. The acceptance of self does not mean to be resigned to the status quo. On the contrary, the more we fully accept ourselves, the more successfully we begin to grow. Love is a far better stimulous than threat or pressure...When we accept ourselves for what we are, we decrease our hunger for power or the acceptance of others because our self-intimacy reinforces our inner sense of security.

No sin is too great for God to forgive. If you are pondering having sex, it won't doom you, but it could hurt you. Satan wants to make Christians ineffective witnesses, depressing, inactive, and broken-hearted. Don't have sex just to keep a guy, or out of a lack of self-control. It could push you farther from God, and create mental issues for you to deal with. You will not go to hell for it, but it doesn't mean you wont regret it in the long run.
Picture a court room with you on trial for doing something bad. The Father is the judge, satan is the prosecutor, and Jesus is the defense attorney. Satan delivers a blistering attack, with lots of evidence against you. You are guilty, no question about it. Then Jesus gets up to speak. He says, "Yes, Judge, my client is guilty, but the penalty has already been paid. By me. In blood." The Father smiles, and nods,"Paid in full. Case dismissed." That's a picture of what happens every time you sin and are accused by Satan.
Perfect love drives away fear. Don't serve out of fear, but out of love.

Answer 7

the things you do in life wont determine if you go to heaven. its if you are a Christian or not(if youve asked God into your heart). and the whole point of forgiveness is not so that you can purposely sin knowing that youll be forgiven.

Answer 8

Would a loving God be terribly upset for you having sex with someone you feel you're ready to have sex with? I'm sure he would understand. I mean, he would probably frown upon losing your virginity in a drunken stupor. However, if you have thoughtfully considered your partner and your relationship, and you think it's fine, I bet a loving God would understand.

If He's not loving or understanding or existent, then why would you waste your time trying to please him?

Edit:
So, someone else said you would regret it? I'm not Christian, but my fiancee is, and we have sex out of wedlock and she believes her God would understand. She believes her (Catholic) God will forgive her.

Like I said, you must consider the partner you plan on having sex with. If you care about that person, I don't think a loving God would frown upon you. I also don't think you'd earn the label of a sl*t. So a lot depends on the relationship, but if you feel you (and your partner) are ready, I think God would agree.

Answer 9

You should wait until you are married. Your first time is the only time it is the first time. duh, right? well, you should save your first time for the man you plan to marry after the marriage ceremony. You wont regret it.

however, if you go ahead, you will most likely wish you hadnt done it. God didnt tell us not to do things so we couldnt have fun. He gave us guidelines so we could have a fuller and better life. We dont tell children not to play in the street so they cant have fun, we tell them not to play in the street so they can have more fun in the yard for a longer period of time.

there are several things to worry about if you plan on having pre-marital sex. Will you catch something you dont want? What about the stigma of being called a whore or s-l-u-t? What if your contraception failed and you become pregnant?

There is only one sure fire way to avoid these things..... dont do it. Find something else to do that you will enjoy doing that is more wholesome.

Answer 10

God will forgive you of course. But you are sowing seeds in your life that might take you into a lifestyle that might ultimately reject God. There are also consequences even though sin is forgiven.

Believe me it is such a blessing if you wait until you are married as I did. If the guy loves you he will wait for you.

Answer 11

Yes God will forgive you. Were not here to be perfect.We can't in this life but it sounds like your on the right road so you keep praying and seeking Gods will for your life and you will be fine. May God richly bless you!