He is 19 years old and has NEVER SEEN HIS CHECK BOOK that he has had since he was 16!! And his mom has had his savings account since he was 10. I'm don't at all think its a bad thing that she wouldn't let him spend his savings because it teaches responciblity but now he's a grown man and graduating college this year! HIS TRUCK is in her name, HIS bank accounts are in HER name. He has to ask permission to see me, leave the house, hang out with friends. The other day he told her that he's moving out this summer after he graduates college and she said "OH NO YOU ARE NOT!!" and complains that when he talks like that her heart hurts and he causes her heart problems. I'm 18 and we' ve been together over a year now and she informed me that she wants her first grandchild before she's 50 and she's 46! I was also informed she will be in the delivery room. Every paycheck he gets she makes him give to her and can only spend what she gives him for the week. She's starting in on me now! HELP
2007-12-08 17:02:01 · 6 answers · asked by Bailey G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is MY guy..I know its right we just gotta get his mom to understand but I dont know how. My boyfriend has had countless conversations with her about it where they both are in tears and she says she's sorry and NOTHIN CHANGES or she denys everything! She makes him miserable! He ropes cattle for fun and he got sponcered a while back and he was REALLY excited and she told her about it and she LAUGHED IN HIS FACE!! She said "Its not a really sponcor untill they pay your enry fee's!!
2007-12-08 17:12:49 · update #1
SWEETY i KNOW ALL ABOUT IT MY MOM DOES THIS AND IT SUCKS THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO IS THE BOTH OF YOU MOVE AWAY AND TRY TO LEAVE HER IN THE PAST IF HE WANTS TO CAUSE IM TELLI N YOU NOW MY MOTHER IS SELFISH AND THINKS ABOUT NOTHING BUT HERSELF AND I HAVENT TALKED TO HER SINCE I MOVED OUT AND NOW IM HAPPY
2007-12-08 17:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by JayDNash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels like a mama's boy. when I first observed your question, I right now concept "We could have the same situation!" yet there's a distinction: while my bf's mom is a controlling, manipulative, cheating, mendacity, jealous, delusional, clingy, egocentric, unhappy lady canine, and your bf's mom sounds the same, my boyfriend would not relatively take it. He tolerates it and is shifting out as quickly as he hits 18. He has found out that his mom isn't comparable to she use to be, and that no rely how stunning the lady is he dates she would be able to continually hate them because of the fact they're women probably taking her son faraway from her. i'm no longer able to assert he's no longer unhappy approximately it, because of the fact he's, yet he's conscious whilst to pass on... Your boyfriend curiously would not understand appropriate to the way you sense approximately your courting best now, and with your mom being in between you 2 like that, it relatively is an undesirable one. he's likewise 19. He has the whole means to stop all this nonsense and concentration on his female pal, yet he's no longer, and that's his decision. All in all, i believe which you as his female pal could clarify, dramatically if mandatory, how unhappy you're that it variety of feels like he has 2 girlfriends, you and his mom, and he or she's winning his heart (gross sounding, even with the incontrovertible fact that this is actual in an ironic way) her call is tattooed on him...which means he deeply cares approximately her and could never deserted her. in case you may no longer get him to pry away even the tiniest bit, then leaving him is your in basic terms possibility at being chuffed. Staying with him will case heartache and soreness for you interior the long-term. consistent with possibility you leaving him will open his eyes...
2016-12-10 17:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by figueredo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN don't walk to the nearest exit. He is letting his mother do this. He is going to be nothing but trouble if you stay with him. He will drag you down with him. He is a mommas boy and they are the worst kind of man. He will never be on his own, so get before it's too late.
2007-12-08 17:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to run, NOT WALK, but run from this guy. If you stay with this guy you will end up miserable for the rest of your life. This guy will never stand up to his mother and this woman will end up running his life, your life, and your marriage.
You could do better and you deserve better honey... I know it will be hard but you need to do it for yourself.
2007-12-08 17:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Due March 9th, 2010 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT marry this guy or you will be one miserable woman
2007-12-08 17:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not your business.
2007-12-08 18:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋