Okay, I am 14 and my parents are practically Nazis, because I can hardly do anything without thei consent. Long story short, pretty much every other person in my grade go out on dates, and a couple of gils have even asked me out on dates, but my parents won't even let me go to the mall by myself. Am I missing something? Do I need to prove something to them?
2007-12-08 16:40:38 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to convince them, you are not old enough.
2007-12-08 16:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Orange 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parents love you. They know that if you wait until you are fifteen you will truly enjoy the new freedom of dating. Think of it as getting a little more time to perfect your perfect look, right thinking, hair, teeth, school work etc. You will have so much more to offer the right man if you plan ahead and do not rush into dating. You won't be sorry if you wait and your parents will respect you so much more if you show them you respect their rules. Remember you will be a parent some day and your daughter will be just as anxious as you are now to go out with boys. Boys will be there when you are fifteen waiting for you and respecting you for obeying your parents. The right boy will come along so be ready. I like to think of a young lady having a beautiful treasure box(herself) full of beautiful treasures( a strong mind, a strong self esteem, a sense of right and wrong, and choices) These treasures must be kept sacred and safe and carefully shared only after great scrutiny of the treasure hunter. Be wise and protect your treasures or you will be left with an empty treasure box.
2016-05-22 06:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't allowed to date until I was 15. My niece wasn't allowed until she was 16. You are only just out of middle school. Be glad your parents love you so much.
That said, don't try to convince them with "words," convince them with action. Are you responsible with your homework? Are you honest with your parents about your grades? Do you help around the house? If so, keep doing those things, and before you know it, they'll let you start dating... it may be that they are waiting for you to be old enough to drive.
2007-12-08 16:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents were nazis too... all you have to do is prove yourself repsonsible enough, and keep your grades up, and don't give attitude. Also, you could have your parents meet and greet the parents of whoever you want to go out with so they have an aquaintance with these people, and don't let you go off blindly. But in the end, they are just protecting you. Once you reflect back on it, you'll understand.
2007-12-08 16:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by eternally edwards ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion you are not really looking on your parents side. they just want to keep you safe because boys can cause alot of trouble and if you start dating at 14 then you will be into boys more so it could cause you having a baby early or getting married to early. but if I was you I and I wanted to go out as badly then just do a lot of things that will help them trust you enough to let you go out
2007-12-08 16:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You convince them by showing them you're mature. How do you do that? Just do what they say. Understand that they're older, and they know what's best for you. Yeah, it seems unfair, and believe me, I know what you mean. I wasn't allowed to go on dates until I was 16, and I couldn't have a boyfriend till I was 18. But I'm sure if you acted like you understood, your parents would be impressed.
2007-12-08 16:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by red 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the one thing that could help in this situation is to ask and if/when they say no.....act mature about it and try to find out why in a way they will take notice that you didn't whine, etc. Parents notice things like that and also, doing things you are told the first time impresses parents too.
2007-12-08 16:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one...
Your parents really care about you they are just trying to protect you, because at your age is when kids star "experimenting". So, having said that, just tell them that you understand where they are having from but that they need to let you grow up and that going out with friends to the mall, movies, etc. is a normal thing at your age.
2007-12-08 16:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by TXgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too young yet for dating. Can you have guys over to your place. If a Guy has enough courage to come over and face your parents they should respect that. If a guy came to my house to see my 14 year old daughter (if I had one ) I would have to say he would either have a respect for my daughter or was just insane a lookin for a lesson in violence he would never forget!!!!!!!!!! Good luck and best wishes!
2007-12-08 16:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Canuck1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short story, until you are 18 you are still a minor and they are legally responsible for your actions. And as long as you live under their roof and they take care of all your needs (room & board, clothing, etc) then you need their consent to do anything!
2007-12-08 16:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by Enchanted Gypsy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is be patient and wait. You really are not missing anything by going out. Just wait alittle while longer, you will see why your parents may think that way.
2007-12-08 17:04:56 · answer #11 · answered by lovecomesgoes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋